Frizzy hair with a flat iron girl, here. LOL

If that's you in the avatar, you are the type of girl I always get a girl crush on. dark hair, with that couture look. Naturally goth ;)

But, I am in the same boat right now, and why I started to get serious about weight loss. My inner voice keeps telling me I want to be a girl that my husband would still be attracted to today, if we just met. Right now, I don't think he would be interested in me if we just met.

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Laura Ingalls Wilder was plain

LOL! Not only plain, but downright homely. I used to LOVE that show, and was shocked when I saw what they really looked like.

I have the opposite problem. When I was a young girl, I felt really pretty. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I'm surprised to see what is looking BACK at me! LOL! I tend to forget how much weight I've gained and how much I've aged etc... I still think (in my mind) that I'm that girl I was... Nope. Not here anymore she left a few years ago!

You guys are so awesome :hug:
I don't really know what to say! I actually had some tears welling up here and there :o
Hmm.. let me ask this question. What all do you guys to to make yourself feel pretty or polished? Nails? Hair? Waxings? Facials?

I wear high heeled boots and black (I call this an "instant diet") and put on my expensive perfume (Sung, the brand my grandma wore!). I curl my hair really nice and put on all my makeup (as opposed to a quick mash of liptsick and smear of mascara--ha ha). And I dress my daughter up with me and give her a spray of perfume too. She loves it when we dress up together.

Karma

Originally Posted by stacylambert:
You guys are so awesome :hug:
I don't really know what to say! I actually had some tears welling up here and there :o
Hmm.. let me ask this question. What all do you guys to to make yourself feel pretty or polished? Nails? Hair? Waxings? Facials?

Believe it or not, what another girl mentioned, a nice hot bath first. Then I rub lotion everywhere to feel nice and soft, then paint my toenails. I always keep my toenails painted anyway, especially in summer because I run around barefoot a lot. I also like the toe rings, I wear those in summer too.

It's amazing how a tiny change can make such a huge difference in your attitude.

Originally Posted by stacylambert:
What all do you guys to to make yourself feel pretty or polished? Nails? Hair? Waxings? Facials?

Well, what is your opinion of physical beauty? Someone with a great smile, pretty eyes? Someone who deserves to be pampered? I do, so when I want to feel pretty I just make myself into those things. Smile a lot, make up my eyes, and pamper myself. If you don't think you deserve to be spoiled a little, then nobody else will think you do either!

I have blonde hair (natural), blue eyes, and big boobs (even when I'm a size 4). People have told me my whole life I'm beautiful. Random people, even.

And I've never felt it. Ever. When I was thin, I used to think that I have pleasant features and decent hair, but beautiful? Not me.

I am so envious of my friends who think they are HOT stuff! I've never felt sexy a day in my life.

Right now, I've got 75 lbs to lose and my self esteem is in the toilet even more.

Wow, this sure wasn't a supportive response! Sorry.

I guess I just wanted to say that really, what you look like on the outside doesn't matter. Beauty comes from loving who you are and until you can do that, you'll always feel unattractive. That's what my therapist tells me anyway.

I used to feel that way but these days I feel like I am very pretty. I just started doing things to make myself feel better like chaging up my hair style, giving myself manicures, buying some new shoes or just doing things that made me feel better. When you feel better about yourself on the inside then it starts to show on the outside too. I came to realize that everybody is different and that is the way nature intended it to be. I can only be comfortable in my skin because it is all I have. I don't want plastic surgery, makeup, or anything to hide what I really am. I stopped comparing myself to others too and let me tell you, that is one of the best things you can do for yourself. You can never please everyone when it comes to aesthetics so do what it is you like and the things you believe make you look better & I can almost guarantee you will feel better about you.

My take on this, and it may come off preachy, is that we are all beautiful. Sometimes we get sucked in to the notion that the ability to turn a man's head defines our worth. Or rather, fitting into a size 2. As a Christian, I believe we are all created in God's image. (Not trying to push my faith on anyone and I respect the beliefs of others). That being said, I believe that we all have our different attributes that make us wonderful, beautiful people. It could be our smile, our generosity, our compassion, our love of others, and yes some people are blessed with physical beauty. But are those breathtakingly beautiful people fully content and happy with themselves? I often watch E's True Hollywood Stories and they showcase the most beautiful famous people in the world... but not for the good that they've done, but for their issues/problems. THe show documents their unhappiness, addictions, failures, and sometimes ultimately their demise. I'm not saying all beautiful people have nothing to offer society other than their mug on the televison or magazine... Princess Diana for example (beautiful both inside and out) was a wonderful role model and advocate for people less fortunate than her. I just wish that we as women could stop obsessing about our outer looks for a second and rediscover the other wonderful parts of our selves that only get better with each passing day. And to the original poster... you are truly a beautiful woman who should never feel inferior to anyone!

Amy :)

When you think about the six billion people in the world... blondes are freaks! (Yeah, I'm blonde, so I can say that. :p )

Don't try to be something you're not. Be yourself. That saying sounds so cliche... sorry if I'm not much help. :hug:

I buy new clothes that fit well. And I get tattoos. :D

Have you noticed that some women aren't really pretty, but project an air of confidence and poise that their ?? internal? loveliness shines through the fact that they are not drop dead gorgeous (sp)

I think that the world is filled with nice looking, not butt ugly people. The idea of beauty changes all the time. I could never understand how people thought Twiggy was pretty years ago. I thought she was a scrawny little bean pole and not a pretty face.

Learn to love yourself for who you are. Losing the weight isn't going to change how you look----well, to some extent it will but I mean you're still going to be you on the inside and mostly you on the outside.

Sometimes when I'm trying to feel pretty, I do what others have suggested. Take a long soaking bath with lots of moisterizers, do my nails, style my hair, cover the red rocasia nose with makeup and put on some pretty clothes. People notice your attitude more then your looks after awhile.

Can you really without thinking name your pretty friends vs your not so pretty friends? What catagory would your friends put you? You may be surprised that nobody really notices after awhile.

Sarah

Sarahyu is totally right. Look at the celebrities we're supposed to think of as gorgeous: Teri Hatcher has bones popping out all over the place and a horse face, Rene Zellweger looks really bee-stung and swollen, Uma Thurman has a pinched-looking face, and the list goes on and on. I even read an article today about how pock-marked from acne Brad Pitt, Britney Spears and Cameran Diaz are! I guess it really is all in the attitude (plus makeup and airbrushing!). Nobody is perfect, even the people we're supposed to want to look like.

It amazes me everyday that women feel ugly. And I am oh so guilty as well. We are all lead to believe that everyone has to be "Barbie"
I have discovered that you never know who is admiring you. I am tall, with reddish black hair super straight (yep naturally) and stone grey eyes and very pale skin (think skim milk!). I have even have had someone tell me the combination was "stunning" I am finally excepting that as the truth. Instead of coloring my hair, fake baking my skin, and using makeup to make my eyes look bluer I have embraced my looks. I grew my hair long to accentuate the thickness and straightness. I rarely go in the sun, and my makeup now accentuates my coloring, not hiding it.

That is what makes me feel beautiful.

PS wear some sexy undergarments (available in ANY size) under your clothes....instant, private boost of confidance!

I agree with CoolMom75. i have seen your avatar lots of times, and think you are gorgeous!!!! I would do anything for your hair and your lips, and you have lovely eyes.

I have never felt pretty, my sister was always the pretty one. I kept waiting to turn into a swan, but I have remained a duck!

It's only since losing weight and posting pictures here that I have realised that I am just a different type of swan. I get so many comments about how I look, ranging from cute to hot, that I can almost believe it now.

Pretty is just a state of mind. Now I pay more attention to clothes, make up and my hair I have started to feel a bit more confident about the way I look. I have developed a severe make up addiction, the person who introduced me to Urban Decay eyeshadow should be forced to donate 20% of her salary to my make up fund!!!!

Thanks kykaree :o