reacting
 

I apologize for coming here to complain so much, and I know I might come across as some kind of a grump (LOL) but I can be a private person sometimes and I'm trying to deal w/my weight loss and body image in a private way, but unfortunately, body size is a very visible thing and apparently open for public discussion. :o
I know people mean well. I really know most of them really do. But how to react when someone asks you a question loudly in front of other people? Like "how do you manage to keep so thin?" in front of other people? I know she meant well, but honestly, I'd appreciate it more if asked not in front of people, like I'm on stage. It's embarrassing to me, as I like to keep to myself a lot and I don't know a lot of people I work with personally. I responded "Just trying to be normal" (LOL) I mean, what am I supposed to do? Announce what I'm doing? Well, let's see....cutting back from the enormous amounts I was eating before, eating smaller amounts more frequently, not clearing my plate in restaurants...etc. I mean, seriously. HOW do I answer such a question? It wasn't said w/malicious intent or anything. I just really don't know how to answer a publicly announced question like that in front of people in a dead silent room. :?:

Just tell them alot of really hard work...

Well, that's a logical and quick answer. LOL Why didn't I think of it? :dizzy:
Now I feel funny about the way I answered. Gosh, am I a complete idiot???? aaargh!

I usually ask "do you want the long version or the short version?" most people who are really wanting to learn how you lost and kept off the weght want the long version, those who are just being polite will want the short version. :lol3:

I totally understand how you feel. I used to have an eating disorder, and discussing my diet or weight with people in the room is extremely uncomfortable for me. The other day in the breakroom, someone asked me how much weight I have lost (we're all in a contest here atwork). I just responded, " I don't know, why?" I like the response above, " Do you want the long or short version?" and I may use that myself if need be! Anyway, just wanted you to know I understand. Perhaps just thinking ahead and planning your response will help your feelings if it comes up again. I think people are trying to pay you a compliment saying things like that, and they don't realize they are making you very uncomfortable. Good luck and hang in there!

It can be annoying, like people want you to give them some magic potion or secret. "eating less and moving more" is my stock answer.

Or if I am really grumpy "none of your business" or "it's a secret" :D

Sounds like THEY'RE the ones being rude to me....I mean if someone honestly said "You look great, how did you do it?" I'd give an honest, sincere answer but if they asked like you described, I'd just say, "What most people need to do today...less food, more exercise!" and leave it at that.