Hi there! Your post could have been written by me! You have gotten some fabulous encouragment. I have been in your shoes after eating that "forbidden" thing. But like everyone said it's not forbidden just work it in. You need to focus on a lifestyle not a diet.
I agree with the calorie counting (for me it's points b/c I am a WW). I like that number. I like knowing where my limit is b/c I am not in tune with my body enough to know where my limit is right now. I like WW b/c nothing is off limits. Sure eat that snickers, but COUNT it! I've learned that I can fuel my body with better choices and get more bang for my "buck" if I choose better stuff, but if I really want something gooey and chocolatey it's ok. Plus, if I do go over my points tomarrow is a new day and I get a fresh start everyday and every week. But really it's not much different than calorie counting on many levels and if calorie counting works for you fabulous! I did it and used fit day and found it to work just great
Also, just recently to keep myself on track I taped little inspirational messages on my kitchen cupboards and fridge. One is an acronym for "Nothing tates as good as thin feels" N.T.A.G.A.T.F., and "If you think, you can" from a cute poem. I have to look at them everythime I reach for a snack and often it changes my mind. I am a visual person. I have a chart for my weightloss and with WW you get rewards like star stickers for each five pounds. When I wasn't doing meetings I bought those little foil star stickers and stuck them on my chart. It may be hokey, but it keeps things fun and fresh.
To keep things fresh and fun and to keep my interested, b/c lets face it this is a long haul and it can get dull, I challenge myself. Right now I have a piggy bank going for new clothes as you can see by my sig. You could do one and call it your honey moon fund or something. Also, I am challengeing mysle fto do 44 workouts in a set amount of time.
Most recently I have been journaling not just my food, which fo rme is a must to stay on track, but my emotions. I watched Oprah's woman who have let themselves go (ie the no makeup thing) and have been inspired to take care of me. I get up a bit earlier now just to enjoy a quiet breakfast and time to journal and meditate on my up coming day. In my journaling I try to think of my good things physically and otehrwise. I also think about what I don't like and focus on how I can change that. It's ok to say in a non judgmental way I'd like to have shaplier arms, and then wor towards it. That's very different from mentally abusing yourself with an assult of your so fat comments.
Also, it's ok to accept your fiance's compliments. I have a hard time with this also. But it is also ok to tell him that losing weight is important to you and for your long term health you would so gretaly appreciate his support. Ask him to walk with you, shop for healthy food with you and live a healthier life with you so that as you approach your marriage you go into it healthier and more connected. Focus onhealth not wieght.
I am also trying to listen to my body and before i take a bite of food decide if I am eating b/c I need to fuel my body or eating for another reason. When my kids aren't screaming all around my I also try to listen to my body as I eat so I know when I am full.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. If you need anything please feel free to PM me
I see you are from Utica! That's not horribley far from me. I grew up in Ny and lived in Rochester for a while.