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Originally Posted by Miaka
Every time I start a diet, I always tell myself, "This time it is going to be different! I am really going to do it this time!" But every time I fail!
I always have every detail planed, from the food to the exercise,
That's why you feel like you're failing, hon. Believe me, I've been there. More times than I care to admit.
Planning out detail by detail, I discovered, was never a good idea. I always felt like a failure, too. So I sat down with myself and wrote out on paper WHY I felt like I was failing. That's the first thing you need to do. What, exactly, are you 'screwing up' to cause you to feel like a failure? That's the question you need to ask yourself, then write down your answers.
I discovered that I was setting unrealistic goals. Things like, "Okay, starting tomorrow I'm going to run (or walk) a mile a day. I won't eat this food ever again. I WILL eat this food whether I like it or not..." etc etc etc.
I was putting too many demands on myself, setting too many ridiculous 'rules'. Plus, calling it a "diet" was another mistake I was making. This isn't a diet, it's a lifestyle change.
Now I tell myself, "If I get in some exercise, that's great. If I don't, I'm not going to punish myself for it. And I WILL eat my favorite foods, just in extreme moderation. And I WON'T force myself to eat something I can't stand."
Permanent changes that you can live with is the key. Move more, eat less, watch your calories if you're so inclined (many of us here count calories, but many of us don't feel comfortable with doing that, it's all what makes YOU happy and what works for YOU) and if you want that piece of pizza - on occasion, not on a regular basis - then have it. Just make sure it fits within your calorie range.
This is a lifetime thing for many of us and I'm not going the rest of my life without eating fried chicken again. I just eat it in moderation. Moderation being the operative word here.
Also, don't set crazy goals for yourself where exercise is concerned. Start small, do a little at a time. Try doing what many of us here do, go to fitday.com and keep a food journal. You enter what you eat and how much and fitday keeps track of your calories for you, there's no actual counting on your part.
I haven't read any of the other responses yet (I responded to you before doing so) so maybe some of the others have told you the same thing I have. But you know what? I'm the world's laziest person that had the worst eating habits and I've lost almost 80 pounds. If I can do it, anyone can. And so can you!