oh my gosh, AmberJoy, are you serious? That's really sad, honestly. I will never understand why eating disorders are suddenly "cool." On another site I visit there are TONS of groups that just exhalt anorexia/bulimia to this godly status. It's really frightening to see these young girls willingly damaging their bodies this way. Anorexia is bad. It almost killed a friend of mine in HS before her parents got her into treatment. It's really, really sad to see someone older react that way when told that their grandchild has SUFFERED from one of these diseases.
I'm so sorry she wasn't supportive or even understanding of what something like bulimia does to a person. I hope that you give yourself a lot of credit and encouragement for being able to recognize that there is a healthier way to be. You deserve recognition for that, and for the challenges I'm sure you've faced.
My granny (a name she hates..) said of my weightloss, "You'll have to keep it off, cos your mum just put it all back on again," Infront of me, my fiance and yes, you guessed it, my mother (her DAUGHTER!). Not, "Ooooh congratulations, that must've taken some work!" Or, "Wow, you look so good!" Just a backhanded criticism of my mother and a chastisement for me!
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Gray eyed girl, thank you for being for more understanding than most people are of my past eating disorders. That means a lot to me. You are right it is a very disturbing idea that they have become 'cool'- if you research online there is actually a dieaty (im not making this up) named awna. to whom young women contribute giving them the will power to do such harmful things to their bodies. I never did "worship" this "deity" however I do hope that the experiences I had can help me prevent others from cinsidering it. I have chronic heartburn and I burned all the enamel on my teeth, causing to root canals. By all means, its not somthing to take lightly and I'm dissapointed by soiceties views on it. But I'm thankful to the support I have from people like you! 2frustrated- im sorry your grandma is insensitive too- its the worst isnt it??
Sorry about your grannies, sometimes my mom says things without thinking first and can be hurtful but most of the time she is supportive and wonderful.
AmberJoy, I hope you are very proud of yourself for doing what it takes to become more healthy! Hooray for you! I'm proud of you! Keep up the good work!
Andrea, hee hee, I'm glad I can make you laugh. The redhead comment has always been one that stuck in my crawl. I always wanted to ask "so how do I look for a blonde?" I really like your comeback for the guy with glasses comment. Reminds me of a time when this really nice looking guy asked me out and I always felt I should be up front about the fact that I had a son, so I told him and he said "So, whats that got to do with me and you?" Okay, at least I had the good sense not to go out with that one. Probably just about the only loser jerk I didn't date.
My mum waged the battle of my bulge all my teenage years, I can't tell you how many times I have consoled myself with food over something she said. And when I finally accepted myself as fat, that seemed to make things a hundred times worse. Now in my 30's it's like I have shaken my demons, and I am doing it my way, the slow, healthy way. Bless her, mum said a couple of weeks ago "you know I love you at whatever weight you are" that meant more to me than she will ever know.
Hugs to you AmberJoy, bullimia is sooooooo misunderstood, I am grateful to have never had that problem but think there for the grace go I.
I don't think there is a woman alive with a weight problem or issues that can't trace it back to family issues somewhere along the line. I am just so grateful to have you all that understand, without having to explain it. Thank you!!!!
That's really sad, honestly. I will never understand why eating disorders are suddenly "cool." On another site I visit there are TONS of groups that just exhalt anorexia/bulimia to this godly status. It's really frightening to see these young girls willingly damaging their bodies this way. Anorexia is bad. It almost killed a friend of mine in HS before her parents got her into treatment. It's really, really sad to see someone older react that way when told that their grandchild has SUFFERED from one of these diseases.
