Yes! I hear ya, big-time. I would rather have a bagel and coffee than chicken and veggies.
A very wise lady on my "other" full-time thread has told me that the less you have, eventually the less you crave. Really. I have found this to be true of diet sodas; they taste so good, but they really do encourage your mouth to want food to go with it...and it keeps you from chugging that water which is so good for us.
oh, back to the carbs
Sometimes, it helps to schedule in a small, measured treat, like a fruit/grain bar that's around 140 calories. Plan to have it in the evening with a cup of tea or coffee, cut it into like 8 pieces and savor.
I used to think that I simply could NOT have my morning coffee without at least one piece of toast or bagel or muffin or something. A piece of whole-grain toast is fine, but I thought I HAD to have something starchy. Eventually I got past it, and that is good to know that it can be done.
Your husband is a baker? That's my profession
and it kills my family that I hardly ever bake at home anymore, 'cause if it's there, I eat it!