TUESDAY: Today is Target Tuesday and we are going to target RELATIONSHIPS and how they effective us positively or negatively.

I want each of you ladies to look at your relationships, especially significant other and see how it is effecting how you eat, how you see yourself and how you react to what is said to you. Work hard to recognize that not everyone will be pleased with your weight loss or supportive and the hardest part is to understand that is OK! The ONLY person that you have to please is YOU! Too many times mom, hubby, sister, friend, opinions are so important to us that we allow them to sabotage what we are doing for ourselves. If you don't have a good support base within your family, remember you have one HERE and there is always someone to help you over a rough spot. Lift up your head, be proud of the person you are working to become, don't let nasayers influence you and remember, YOU ALL HAVE BEAUTY, INSIDE BEAUTY AND OUTSIDE BEAUTY AND DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO TAKE THAT FROM YOU! If you lucky enough to have great support around you, USE IT to encourage yourself and keep you uplifted. Be sure to let the person know you appreciate their encouragment too!

I GET A: :bravo: for points and it is about time!

Julie: YOU GET A: :bravo: for points. Hope all your family gets to feeling up and at em soon. BTW, if sore throats are involved, make this and have them drink it. It sounds awful but it is not bad at all and it really works for sore throats
8 OZ HOT WATER, 1 TBL HONEY, 1 TBL VINEGAR, MIX AND DRINK and repeat a couple times until sore throat is gone. I have NEVER EVER had it fail me!

Missy: You asked when I was leaving. We leave this Thursday afternoon, but I probably won't have much time to post on Thursday at all as everything has to be done before 2 pm and I have a LOT of last minute stuff to do.

Dorothy: Why is he coming over? I mean is it to get stuff out of your apartment or what? I would be cordial but I certainly would not be kissy face or he is going to think everything is back to normal and you MUST NOT give him that idea. I would certainly be encouraging telling him it is a great step getting help for himself and you are very happy for him. Do not discuss your relationship together. Insist that is off limits until he has been clean and sober for quite awhile. Do not let him bamboozle you into thinking everything is fine now. Like I said before, HE MUST PROVE HIMSELF and that takes months not days or even weeks.

I have to get going as I need to accomplish a lot today. Not that one of you care, but:

CUBS ARE TIED FOR FIRST PLACE IN THEIR DIVISION!!!!!!!!! WOOOOHOOOOOOO! :lol:

Faye:dizzy:

Good Morning Ladies!!! Well.. i think i got all 4 points yesterday... i cant log into fitday to post my dinner but i believe i am within my calories. If not i will post here and correct it. As far as my hubby goes.... i am having him go to and read the flylady website so he "gets" where i am coming from. He is doing that this AM
I will let u know how it works. I totally agree with u Faye... my hubby is wonderful with his support on the weight loss and trying to establish a new routine. My mom and sister on the other hand... they dont seem to like it when i am successful. Its something i dont understand altho i know its human nature... but it still just boggles the mind... i know there have been times when i have been envious of something friends or loved ones achieve but i admit it to myself and them and then get on with being proud of them. Oh well... some people we will jsut never understand... no mater how hard we try. LOL !!
I hope u all have a fab day... i will check back later and let u know the fitday results... Take care of U

I LOVE U ALL...

Sandy :dance: :flow1: :goodvibes

Julie... its so nice to put a face to u as well... U R BEAUTIFUL!! do u know of a video to recommend for learning belly dance?? I would love to learn...

Hi again,
I shouldn't be here.......I'm procrastinating! But real quick for Sandy--about the bellydance videos. There are tons out in the "mass market" right now (you can get them at the grocery store!) I DON'T recommend them unless you really like the majority of mass market fitness videos. There is a belly dance thread on 3fc under the Exercise forum. Go there and there are lots of reviews of videos (some of which I wrote). Also, you can go to www.shira.net and get TONS of info on the dance including video reviews of the really worthwhile videos which you have to order from the production company or Amazon.com.

Faye--congrats on the Cubbies!

Dorothy--I agree with Faye. Don't get too chummy or you'll undo all the good you've done so far.

Ok, Gotta go now!
Julie

Good morning all...sorry for anyone that I missed by not giving an individual post...I'm a little frazzled this morning. I was up late last night texting on my phone with this new guy I like! Whoo hoo!

AND, today I'm going on an interview with FAO, Inc...as in the toy people. The lady told me that the job is "mainly administrative" which is something I don't want...but I'm going to check it out and just get interview practice. Who knows...it may be just the ticket for me.

Anywho...I get 2 points for yesterday I've just been BLOWING my eating lately, but I'm gonna try to get back on track today. We'll see how it goes. Wish me luck!

Get smileys out of the way:

SandyB: YOU GET A: :bravo: for points
Oh and btw I think the people that try and sabotage you in any way do it because of guilt and a lot of it. Even if they aren't overweight, a lot of people have stuff in their lives they need to deal with and they don't and to see some take control of something in their life and overcome it is embarrassing and painful to them. That is why I never gave much thought to people who don't seem supportive. It is their loss and NOT mine!

Missy: YOU GET A: :high: for points. Hey if you don't want the job send her to me! I am admin all the way! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Boy I have used up the tears this morning. First off, if you are readers, either buy or get a copy of the new book Johnny Angel by Danielle Steele from the library. It is a thin book (I read it in about an hour though I read really fast) and I boohooed through most of it. Then, I got an e-mail from my son and he is just such a sweety and I got to talking about he and Alicia getting married and here come the water works again! I am one of those mothers who see their boy as 2 years old. I don't treat him that way, but in my heart he is still that beautiful little 2 year old boy. He doesn't even get embarrassed when I OVER mother him sometimes. It is tough when you are a lifetime stay at home mom with them and they grow up and leave. I am very happy for my children, but I guess because I had such an awful life growing up at times, that I have made the 2 kids, Jack and my grandson my world pretty much. I don't interfere in their lives though because they are men and women and don't need me to be telling them what to do. They have to muddle through adult life themselves unless they ask. Son will ask, daughter would rather die than think her parents have any intelligence at all! :lol:

Well girlies, it is clean the downstairs time and then back on the glider. Hope you all have a magnificent day! (I am down 3 lbs woohoo!) Looks like this weekend's fried chicken and other assorted JUNK came back off!

Faye:)

Hi Y'all!

I got 3 points yesterday - rest day from exercise.

Congrats Faye on the 3lb weight loss!

Amanda xx

Yes i made all my points!! I finally got to fitday ...lol I agree Faye, their loss... not mine! Well DH read the flylady stuff... he now is starting to understand where i am coming from... its a step in the right direction. And i told him any time he needs to look it over its bookmarked... he will thank goodness!
I will check back in here later... we are off to the humane society... lost one of our black cats... we'll see if hes there... and look at the puppies and dogs... I want a dog... so we'll see what there is out there. Have a great day!!

Sandy:flow1: :goodvibes :dance:

Howdy ladies!:wave:

Congrats Faye on your 3lbs loss:cp:.

I got points for water and sticking to program yesterday. I was kinda hungry before bed, but I closed my eyes in bed and pictured me at my goal weight...that pretty much worked keep me from temptation and soon I fell asleep.

I know the following may sound silly to some but I would like to celebrate my chihuahua's 2nd b-day the first week of October. My pets are like my kids u know. I just basically want to cut a cake and decorate a little. I can invite my sis's dog, Cleo next door and with Kit and Nemo I am sure Gizmo will have a blast running around. Anyone know where I can get any doggie favors or have any ideas? Or am I just crazy??? :dizzy:

Thanks for the advice about Andy and no Faye he isn't coming down to take his stuff...see his stuff has already been gone for a while. He just come to see me on his days off because I have told him I will not allow him to move back in with me unless he can prove to me that he will pull his own weight. He has gotten better, but I refuse to accept his drinking as I had said before. Let's wait and see if he actually does rehab. I am not going to give him any lead way though. I'm trying to be reall tough and hold my ground.

Anyway, hope you all have a wonderful day. I will check in later.

Good Afternoon All,

pts for yesterday: 2 pts for program, 1pt for water and 1 pt for exercise.

Faye: Congrats on the loss, and WOW what a BEAUTIFUL RING!!!:dizzy: "dazzling".

hello to all the rest of you chicklets, feeling kinda down today, but hanging in.

later;)

Pam::dancer: :flow2: :flow1: :cheese: :balloons:...hope this make u feel better.

g2g

Pam: I could take a pic of me naked and it would either cheer you up that you don't look like that or make you sick one or the other! :lol: Everybody has their blue days but hope you get to feeling chipper again soon!

Four pointers are:

PAM
SANDY B

Three pointers are:

DOROTHY
AMANDA

Man, I am now pooped but I still have one more 20 minute round on the glider. I got the downstairs cleaned and have done 40 minutes on the glider. Still have to take a shower and start the laundry before Jack gets home in a couple hours. I can tell it is close to my period all the muscles are aching which makes it hard to exercise but I trudge on.

You ladies are all doing an absolutely fabulous job and I think you deserve something special again! So have a good laugh!

http://view.greetings.yahoo.com/gree...?WXV9JA635PG4B

Faye:)

THANK YOU FAYE, AND DOT, I APPRECIATE THE WELL WISHES :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

later gators, after while crocidiles!;)

Cute card Faye!

Today has been one of those long days

Thinking of you Pam and Giggelz - hope tomorrow is a better day for you both. :flow2: :flow1: :flow2: :flow1: :flow2: :flow1: :flow2: :flow1:

Thanks for the card Faye!

Amanda xxx

Good Evening Ladies,

I watched the Dr Phil show today, and saw and heard myself in some of their stories. I then did my exercise!! :D and then I wrote the following entry into my journal (paraphrased here, but essentially this...If you will indulge me for a few moments please...

[SIZE=3]I REFUSE TO LIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE BEING FAT!!! I ABSOLUTELY, UNEQUIVOCALLY, IRREFUTABLY REFUSE TO LIVE ONE MORE YEAR, ONE MORE MONTH, ONE MORE DAY, ONE MORE HOUR OR EVEN ONE MORE MINUTE FEELING UNWORTHY OF HAVING A FIT AND HEALTHY BODY!!! I REFUSE TO LIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE BEING FAT!! THE PAST IS IN THE PAST, THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO TO CHANGE THAT, MY PRESENT IS HERE AND NOW AND I AM ROBBING MYSELF OF IT IF I AM NOT WILLING TO DOING ALL I CAN TO BE AND DO ALL I CAN BE AND DO!! AND MY FUTURE??? I HAVE NO FUTURE IF I REVERT BACK TO MY OLD WAY OF LIFE, SITTING ON THE SIDELINES WATCHING OTHERS LIVE, EXISTING AND NOT PARTICIPATING IN MY OWN LIFE!! I REFUSE TO LIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE BEING FAT!!! I REFUSE TO DO IT ANYMORE!! I REFUSE TO SELF SABOTAGE, SELF DESTRUCT OR SELF MEDICATE WITH FOOD!! I REFUSE TO LIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE FEELING UNWORTHY OF BEING FIT PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY AND SPRITUALLY, I DESEREVE TO BE HEALTHY!! I REFUSE TO LIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE BEING FAT!!! I NEED AND I AM GOING TO GET OFF MY ***, STOP FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF AND GET ON WITH MY LIFE, A LIFE OF BECOMING STRONG AND FIT!! I REFUSE TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE BEING FAT, AND BY THE WAY DID I TELL YOU??? I REFUSE!!!! TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE BEING FAT!