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Hello, just my two cents..
It sounds like he is trying to get your attention. Can you both meet each other half way? Make a healthy pizza together, or go out somewhere that you each can order something that would fit both your needs?

Maybe include him in your fitness, by telling him you want to spend time with him? I think sometimes we all seek attention in not the best ways sometimes. It sounds like he may be a bit insecure about the changes.

Good luck to both of you.

Tel What you told us.

Tell him, he is the one! When you go and get skinny, he is not gonna her replaced. Ex. My husbond does not have a weight problem. Never has. So he doesnt really understand the struggle. But he understood quitting smoking. And i would rather quit smoking than loosing the 100lbs. But i have told him. This is not just for me. This is for us. So i can be me. Me as the person when you met me. And he really appreciated that.

I think you need to have a good conversation with him. Tell him that his support for your weight loss goal will be one of the best tools you need in order to succeed! I think he's like a "food pusher". I do have my own weight loss difficulties but I just recently read a very good book about food pushers. The author said that in order to overcome food pushers, try the “broken record” technique. Keep saying, “No, thank you,” over and over again to whatever they say.

Do you want to eat pizza? - No, thank you.
Our friends bought it for us! - No, thank you.
Just one bite! - No, thank you.

Just keep saying, "No, thank you" it's going to annoy him for sure! lol

You never need to give a reason for why you’re turning down food or drink.

It's better also to Make a list of the advantages and disadvantages of eating whatever you want versus the advantages and disadvantages of staying in control. Spend a few moments seriously reflecting on your full advantages list. Make sure it’s crystal clear why it’s worth it to you to turn down food the food pusher is insisting you eat, especially if the food is enticing.

Focusing on the benefits of making a positive change will help you enjoy the process.

Build your resistance muscle - Every time you respond to the temptation to make an exception, you either strengthen your giving-in muscle and weaken your resistance muscle or you strengthen your resistance muscle and weaken your giving-in muscle.

Remember that you’ve grown up and you are now responsible for making your own food decisions. It’s up to you whether you let difficult family or friends interactions affect your eating.

I wish you the best!

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Originally Posted by Xoxox_247 (Post 5276628)

So my boyfriend - who if we had the money would already be married because I know he's the one... But there's one HUGE issue and I just don't know how to address it.. I'm trying my hardest to lose weight but the harder I work at it, the harder he works at pushing me back in the opposite direction. (I'm technically obese so I've got a ways to go) Last week I started Jogging (couch to 5k) & that's when all of a sudden it's I'm bringing home pizza, & hey what do you want for lunch Chinese food? & is there a local diner? I wonder where ihop is?
When we have gone months without going to a restaurant or ordering food but now I'm kicking it up to jogging and so he kicks it up a level too. And I'm so weak, I'll say no but he knows all he has to do is say it out loud and the the thought is in my head and so then I'll change my mind and say yes. I'm trying so hard.. Why can't he help me? And I've said multiple times bringing junk home is not supportive. Your not supporting my weight loss, so he will go a few days without saying anything and he will bring home fruit and he will say yes I am being supportive and he will occasionally talk about some fitness thing like he's helping me when really behind it all he's sabotaging my every step of progress. I'm drowning. I don't know how to get him to listen... And stop. He's who I want! And if its because once I get super skinny he thinks I'll want someone else he's crazy, just because my body changes doesn't mean my mind and heart will.. I love him, he's THE ONLY guy who's ever truly understood me. Help! How do I make him understand & listen & get him to truly start supporting me?

I completely understand. I'm going through the exact same thing and just started a post about it.

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Originally Posted by Nightowlrn (Post 5276648)

I have discovered one big thing on my path to reduce my weight - I have to be okay surrounded by temptations and learn to live with it. Sure, if the BF keeps things out of the house or doesn't want to eat out for a while, it might be easier for you now, but when you get to your goal, do you expect him to never have the goodies and take out? You may just gain the weight back if that is the plan. Perhaps - if you consider this a gift to cement your determination, it might help with the relationship and prevent you regaining the weight.

I am working to reduce my weight - the rest of my family is not. They are not the ones with the problem and I don't expect them to change just because I decided to change what and how I eat. As the saying goes - you cannot control other people, but you can control how you react to them.

This is awesome advice and I needed to hear it myself, thank you!