I just want to offer you a little empathy. Yes, as others have said, it is ultimately your responsibility, but the reality is that when you live with someone who eats differently (i.e., unhealthily) from how you eat, it makes life more difficult. Those who shrug it off as no big deal have either not experienced this problem, are being disingenuous, or . . . I'm not sure what. I've dealt with it for 26 years. My husband is "naturally thin" and likes fattening foods (he has no problem resisting them as I do). I've gone through periods where my willpower is high, and it's no big deal to have "his" foods around . . . but there are other times when my willpower is low and I can't resist. I just wanted you to know that I empathize with your situation; it's a tough one, but the good news is that you can find ways to make it work. It will never be as easy as if both of you were on the same page, but with a little work and understanding, you can do it.

Also, you are not "lazy." Anyone who works 60-80 hours a week is not lazy. My goodness---I wouldn't know what to do if I worked that many hours. So, out of all the advice mentioned above, I agree most with Sacha's---cut down on your hours. Working that much is just not conducive to long-term health.

Make yourself the priority. This might mean cutting down your work hours and finding the time maybe during the weekend to cook and prep LOTS of meals for the week.
Good luck to you!

Maybe it would be easier if your husband was "in sync" and "on the same page," with your goals, but I wonder whether that is even ever truly possible, and how often it occurs.

For hubby and I, "dieting together" backfires more than "dieting seperately at the same time."

We found dieting and exercising together was a lot like showering together - a lot more fun in theory than in practice. Someone's backside is going to be very cold.

Maybe it would be easy if you both could somehow be on the exact same eating plan, the exact same exercise plan, and somehow could manage to lose weight at about the same rate. Or can be supportive of each other without ever nagging, criticising, policing, enabling, or resenting the other.

Hubby and I, even when we're both trying to lose, we're not much help to one another, because we do best on very different plans, and as a result there ends up being even MORE frustration, discouragement, food policing and enabling.

We have more successful by working at our goals independently without trying to get too invested and involved in the other's goals and progress, other than to praise progress when we see it.

It doesn't much matter whether others find togetherness easier, we don't. So we have to do most of it alone and support each other's goals without trying to get involved in each other's progress or lack of it.

Maybe you and/or your husband would find it easier to be in sync, or maybe not. However, if your husband isn't willing to work on this together, it doesn't much matter, because "it is what it is." What good does it do to think of how much easier your path might be if circumstances were different? Especially, since there's no guarantee that the change you think will help, actually will.

Maybe it would help to have him on board, but if you can't get him there, you have only two choices; decide it's too hard to try and give up, or keep going and get your support elsewhere.

If you do get him to try, and it doesn't help, you're still in the same boat, with the same two options.

If your hubby can be of support to you, awesome! But if he can't, you have to decide if that's a dealbreaker for you.