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Originally Posted by LovelyDisaster (Post 4989116)

Okay. I feel that somehow my post was confusing so let me clear some things up.

1. I don't binge. I never have. I am not a junk food junkie. The most unhealthy thing that used to be in my diet was the occasional soda and sweets during the holidays. I don't stuff my face all day nor have I ever.

2. I am not anorexic. I used to be. I started this thread on a day when I was considering resorting back to it but it was irrational and I was freaking out. It's not something I will do again. However, I am aware that it did some damage to my body that I am still recovering from.

3. I stay for the last week-two weeks I have been eating 1600 a day, or trying to. I won't lie, I find myself full so I don't always meet the 1600. I eat healthy foods like lots of vegetables, nothing but water to drink, lean meats, fresh fruits, and the occasional protein bar when I'm in a pinch. I'm not an idiot. Just because I'm counting calories doesn't mean I'm trying to fit some cookies and candies into the mix. That's just counterproductive.

4. I am also in no way "competing" with my husband. The man is a toothpick with an invisible tapeworm or something judging by the way he eats. My comments about him are just that, COMMENTS. He eats what he wants and stays thin while I don't, of course I'm a little jealous but I get it. It's not like it's a factor in my own diet. He's trying to bulk up while I try to bulk down. Totally different places with our diets right now. So you will understand what I mean by him being a toothpick I will share a picture of my sexy husband :) He could care less what size I am so this weight loss journey is for me and me alone. (Sidenote: in that picture I am at my goal weight of 150 lbs, here's for fitting back into those shorts!)

I feel as though Pattience is the only one really understanding all of this at the moment. Lol. Hopefully this can clear some things up.

We'll I am now a little confused. How is it you were considered anorexic at 5' 1" at 140 lbs.? The reason I ask is because my daughter is an NP who has worked with patients who were anorexic, and being that height they would normally be well below 100 lbs. before medical intervention would occur? In fact 140 lbs. is my goal weight and I am 5' 7" and at that weight I would be normal size and not considered skinny. At any rate, it sounds like you're doing everything right, so is it that you're discouraged because you think you should be losing weight faster? Also I haven't seen one picture where you even look close to 200 pounds, are these old pictures?

Okay now Im starting to get frustrated. This picture was AFTER i went to the hospital and got help. I wore a size 5-7 at 140-150 lbs. Im curvy and Im muscular, I have always looked like I weigh less than I do. At 120 lbs I wore a 0-3 and that is when I was anorexic. I also posted a photo of myself currently in my very first post. It wasnt a great picture bit its all I have.

Now, anorexia has nothing to do with the size of a person. It is a medical condition. A friend of mine recently recovered fromanorexia and guess what? She weighs 250 lbs. Being skinny doesnt make you anorexic, refusing to eat does.

I am discouraged because for the past six months I have been dieting and I gained weight. However, i changed things up and now I am losing again. 4 pounds in a week and a half to be precise.

Also, im sick of people thinking that just because im short I should be like 110 pounds. Like i said, I was 150 in the picture above and i think I looked pretty darn good. Those shorts are a size 7, i know because theyre still in my closet.

I thought this was suppose to be a place for support? Not judgement or interrogations. I feel like ive gotten more questions about my anorexia or proving that im not secretly binging than i have assistance or support in this situation. Its very unsettling and rather... idk the word im looking for. It makes me feel like im on trial for a disease im already embarrassed enough about. Having to be honest by admitting i had a problem is hard enough without people trying to give you a psych evaluation. Im probably over thinking all of this, i dont think this is the healthy support group of loving indivifuals i was looking for. Im sorry i wasted all of your time.

God bless and I wish you all well with your weight loss journeys. And thank you to the few of you who were so helpful and kind. Youll never know how much i appreciated it.

Lovely you and your toothpick fella are so darn sexy.

Don't take the misunderstandings to heart. Its common here. People tend to read posts too fast and miss what people are really saying (i do it all the time too and i see it a lot).

Don't be angry. Just keep on doing what you know is right. And if you need support, find a counsellor. I love having a counsellor but when things are going right, i feel bored. When things are a bit of a struggle, i can't find one fast enough.

I think it must be hard for someone with anorexia to find the right sort of support on diet boards because most of us do not share your kind of difficulty. Here we (like to think) we know about how to lose weight but most people don't know much about anorexia.

We know a lot about binging and overeating and all sorts of other unhealthy food behaviours. I only know a bit about anorexia because of the job i had and the extra reading i did about it. I wish you well lovely.

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Originally Posted by Kscott (Post 4989122)

There is a classification in the DSM-5 under OSFED (formerly EDNOS) which is:
"Atypical Anorexia Nervosa: All criteria [for anorexia] are met, except despite significant weight loss, the individual’s weight is within or above the normal range."

Some people can truly have all of the mental struggle and even lose a tremendous amount of weight without being underweight - you don't need to display as very underweight in order to suffer from the internal health issues that anorexia causes.

In case anyone looks here for a follow up, I have lost 10 lbs in 18 days. I added more food to my diet and the pounds started falling off. Hopefully i can keep it up.

Hi lovely, clearly that approach is working well for you. Thanks for letting us know.

After three months of losing steadily on my program i'm now taking a pause. So far its been nearly a month. Its probably time to start reducing again but I'm enjoying my diet food and eating healthy so much i'm not really in a hurry.

If you ever check in again, i'm writing my weight loss tips and strategies in a link in my sig line. The top one. The bottom one is my food diary for the first three months.