You've gotten lots of great advice I'd just like to add try not to let negative energy overtake you and derail the progress you are making or change who you are.

Best to you :sunny:

By expecting your husband to follow your lead you remain dependent on him and codependence is never a good thing. Don't let your fate rest on whether or not he weighs in. It'd be great if your goals and motivation align but in this case I think it's best if you maintain independence from him. That doesn't mean that you cook yourself a separate meal while he indulges in pizza. Cook as if you're a healthy family, but otherwise he's on his own and so are you.

Becoming a healthy person means we have to change who we are. And once we change who WE are then we suddenly have different expectations of others, especially our family and spouses. When I met my husband and got married I was a different person. I didn't enjoy exercise, I didn't care about physical activity goals and I didn't like being outdoors at all. But now I changed. I like hiking, I like kayaking, bike riding, tennis, I want to try paddleboarding, I want to try going skiing, I want to run a 5k. I'm suddenly EXTREMELY interested in physical activity. But my husband has remained the same, he's still the guy I met and the way I was before we had a lot in common. I can't expect him to change. Luckily he's always been healthy and slim and never over indulges in food. He doesn't have a negative relationship with food like I do. And he likes anything I cook be it "healthy" or low carb or whatever, he's always on board with it so I have the benefit that he doesn't fuss.

But I've learned that we can't be the family that bike rides together, or goes to the gym together, or even hikes together. I try my best to change that, but I can't change him you know? He just has no interest in those things. I have to fulfill my needs on my own and find other people who enjoy doing those things.

I think something like having a talk with him about how you both could be doing better in this area could be appropriate. Then maybe talk about diet and exercise plans you can work on together?

I took almost a year to get to my goal weight. When I had 25 lbs left, I suggested to my husband that he could lose the last few with me. He chose not to. After I had hit goal & maintained for a few months, then he's decided to lose. He still wants to lose 10 or so, and he does things I wouldn't do, but I just support & help as he allows.

You have to let the SO come to their own decision and do it in their own way. Love them where they are...

My cousin and his wife own a pilates studio. They both work as personal trainers and they share the same philosophy in nutrition/health/food/exercise etc. Their relationship was probably founded on it. I'm sure that if one of them suddenly stopped exercising or started gaining weight that their relationship would suffer greatly. My point is that when health/nutrition goals change for one person then it does change the dynamics of any relationship. If you met your husband and indulged in food activities from the get go like going out for pizza and burgers all the time then changing that is a big deal. Your husband could just be resisting against change within your relationship. Change can be difficult.

God, I know exactly what you mean, my boyfriend complains about needing to lose weight while eating Haagen-Daz ice cream...ugh. I have learned he has to want to do it or it just won't happen.

I have lost over 50lbs and he's still eating ice cream! Truthfully I listen, offer suggestions and eat a salad...maybe he'll get a clue lol