I get the unsolicited weight loss "advice" myself. It's like, I'm already in that mentality, so it's unwanted. Plus, what if I was happy with my weight, even if it's not the socially acceptable size? People need to mind their business until it's the person themselves who bring it up.

Thanks for the hugs everyone. :)

I don't think hubby would have talked to her about it...but anything is possible I suppose. Up until this last year he weighed 300lbs (on purpose - he's into strongman, that's the kind of trainer he is) but decided to slim down and has VERY easily lost 50 lbs. He has no trouble losing weight so I'm sure he doesn't understand why its hard for me. If he did talk to her about talking to me I don't think he'll do that again after seeing my reaction to her message. :(

I know she meant well. I'm not angry with her...I think it maybe was just a moment of typing and sending without thinking. I hope so anyway.

If she was still heavy I don't think I would have felt as bad if she had sent me the same message but its been a few years since she lost the weight.

One good thing came from this though. From now on I will always take that extra moment to think about my words carefully to make sure I don't unintentionally hurt someone.

Soontobe, I know how you feel.......and know how your DH's client feels. First, I totally agree that sending you the link, no matter how well meaning, was not a well thought out action. I remember when my sister lost over 100 pounds and was commenting that her friends were abandoning her. She asked one of them why, and she was told it was because all she could talk about was how she lost weight and what they could be doing.

She was crushed by the feedback, and I didn't help any when I said that no one who is trying to lose wants to hear about how successful you were unless they specifically ask you. I told her I was tired of hearing about it as well.

So, hopefully, this is just this woman being overzealous in her excitement about how she changed her life. I try to keep in mind that a lot of my mental time during the day is spent on thinking about where I am in my calorie count, what I need to prep for the next meal, etc.

Sorry you went through this. :hug:

You want to know what I think? I think she would've sent that to ANYONE, no matter their weight. I honestly don't think it's personal at all, or that it's about how she perceives you. I believe she's just selling her page & services & her own personal brand to whoever she meets.

Over the last couple days, I've had a string of encounters, some of them somewhat annoying, that made me feel like every other person I've met is in business for herself or himself, and even if they're not networking on behalf of their current job, they've got some kind of sideline making & selling things, or offering some kind of services. Particularly those people I know who are active in the fitness industry. So many self-employed trainers are using blogging & the Internet to try to gather up a following that they can sell into. One Facebook trainer friend of mine even had a peevish post the other day because not enough people had signed up on her Etsy account for a four-week training session. Yep, guilty. I've got business trips & vacation planned in the next four weeks & I am not in the mood to fork up $75 for something I won't use.

I mean, it's awkward enough when friends try to get you into their homes for parties selling this or that, or Mary Kay when it's not your brand.

**That's** where you were hit up, IMHO. Not because of your weight or any thoughts she had about that, but because 1) she believes everyone she meets is weight-obsessed and a potential follow/buyer or what she sells; and 2) she has dreams of some kind of nutritional/fitness empire, very common these days.

Seriously, I'm not just saying this to ease your mind, I really think it's what is going on. It's just my pet peeve these days, that half my Facebook friends are using Facebook to promote something & it's getting so hard to extricate personal matters from business matters.