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Originally Posted by slmn11 (Post 4734601)

My husband wants me to eat when he eats. . . . I don't understand why he can't eat unless I'm eating too. If I want something, I don't care if no one else is eating!

My husband is somewhat similar. He has never had a weight problem, but he likes eating and drinking (even if it's just coffee) socially. I went along with it for years, but I stopped some time ago because I realized that I was getting to be the same weight he is (which isn't good when you consider that he is 6 ft and I'm 5 ft 3). Initially, he tried to cajole me into eating all that he ate (including extremely fattening gourmet dinners he cooks), but now he just accepts that I won't (usually). In fact, I often will eat a different meal from what he is eating for dinner. He likes fried foods with cream sauces, and if I ate that way even a few times a week, I would either gain weight or have to restrict too much on other foods I enjoy. So, my advice is to stand firm. He'll get over it.

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Originally Posted by slmn11 (Post 4734601)

My father was never overweight but he was sick. My mother was "normal size" until after he passed away. She was 41 at that time...I was 11. I don't know why she gained weight after he died, and I never even gave it a thought until reading this thread. I was "normal size" until I got my first job. Before that I ate all my meals at home. After I started eating lunch in restaurants I started to gain weight. I didn't realize that I was eating a dinner-size meal at lunch time. When I realized I was gaining, I started to watch and maintained my weight around 130 lbs for years. I was not naturally thin. I had to really watch my eating and exercised regularly. It was after I got married that I put on all this weight. My husband wants me to eat when he eats. Because I love food, I was all to willing, but now I'm sorry I did it. I can't seem to get back to the lifestyle I maintained for so long. I don't understand why he can't eat unless I'm eating too. If I want something, I don't care if no one else is eating!

Eating a "dinner-sized meal at lunchtime" is not necessarily a bad thing. In Europe where I grew up we ate a continental breakfast (bread with butter and jam) and had a very large meal at lunchtime, that is the main meal of the day. Dinner is usually very light and it works well - ever hear the saying Eat breakfast like a King, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a pauper? Good stuff :)

I couldn't agree more. Eating "dinner" for lunch and then just a salad or sandwich in the evening is quite healthy and well, just the way we do it here in Europe. I find my body doesn't like to process big meals in the evening so when I'm abroad visiting friends, I try to limit my dinner but I also need more food in midday which they consider quite strange!

I certainly fit the saying "Eat breakfast like a King, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a pauper"

My main meal is usually mid-morning around 11 am, then most days I don't even eat dinner as I'm full right up till night time!

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Originally Posted by Wannabeskinny (Post 4735099)

That's actually how I'm eating right now, after messing around with meal times and amounts I find fasting all night and late into the morning, then having a good break, huge and grazing lunch, and essentially a snack for dinner, works very well for controlling my hunger right now :)