LOL. I love these. I always take a compliment in the way it was intended, which is typically good. But my MIL told me last week "You've lost so much weight your butt is flat". I KNOW she meant it as a compliment, she is not the type to give a back handed compliment, so I know it came from her heart. But now I'm all worried about my flat butt. I SEE HEAVY SQUATS IN MY FUTURE!
When I was at my heaviest I went for a run on a fairly popular path around a lake. A really tiny woman passed me, then turned around, and in the most condescending voice I have ever heard said, "Good for you!"
I didn't know what to make of it, but I definitely didn't like it.
I think that might have been the last time I ran in public until recently. No matter how heavy, can't I just be another person out for a run? Did she have to call attention to the fact that I not only felt that I didn't belong there, but that I also looked like I didn't belong. I know I channelled my own insecurities into it. Still, it cemented the idea in my head that I was fat first and everything else second.
I have heard both compliments and slights this week lol
Compliment: Wow-You look really great! I heard this from two different people. It's so simple and the point is implied. In my opinion, I think its the perfect way to compliment someone that has lost weight.
Slight: Wow-you've lost weight-but your boobs are getting really small! W.T.F. This particular one bother me for some reason. Not that small boobs are bad. It's just one of the places that I wish I wouldn't lose weight.
From all the way across the front of the store (inside) at K-Mart, from and older woman I know only slightly as someone I see in church: "I see you're losing weight - are you sick?" I just shook my head, smiled, and gave her a thumbs up sign.
One of my coworkers said to me said "You look borderline sick." She's a sarcastic pain in the @ss (just like me), so I knew she meant it as a compliment. I laughed and said "thank youuuu" (all drawn out with Southern accent). And I swished as I walked away.
My mom asked me if I wanted a milkshake... because she thought I needed to put weight back on again!
Not meant as a compliment at all, and I didn't take the bait. I know better than to succumb to the exact behaviors that got me to nearly 300 lbs. I can have a milkshake, sure, but I never crave one. I do crave frozen grapefruit slices, though.
I've lost 55 pounds since the beginning of June and people are just starting to notice. I thought that I'd love the positive comments but they make me really uncomfortable. No one has said anything back handed to me but my mother thinks that it's appropriate to tell me how terrible I looked before. I know that she means well and she's incredibly supportive but she can be incredibly obtuse at times. I'm really not at all interested in hearing that my shoulders were starting to swallow up my neck. If she would just say she was proud of me and leave it alone.
I'm going to will myself to have a more positive attitude about all of this. I've been so unhappy with my weight for so long, it seems ridiculous to continue to be unhappy now that it's coming off.
Compliment or Slight... What is the best one you have heard?
