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Originally Posted by ArtyKay
in the almost 4 years we've been together DH hasn't said a word about my weight. I've gone up and down 30-40 lbs twice since we've been together and he's been super sweet and has never stopped telling me/treating me like I'm beautiful and sexy the whole time.
I complain about my weight sometimes and he always tells me that I'm beautiful and sexy the way I am, and he loves me no matter what. He's great.
Well...as you may have seen in some of my previous posts, we lost a baby recently. I was almost 3 months along and had gained 10-12 lbs while pregnant. Because I had been eating like crazy.
We've been talking about when we're going to try again and he got very nervous and serious and said,
"Hey...um...So you've been talking about working out and stuff. I think that's good...I want to get in shape too." At this point he's looking at me like he's ready to run at any moment in case I attack him. "I just...you know...I just don't want you to gain too much weight when we get pregnant again and I want you to be able to bounce back after we have a baby and not get fat."
This led to me telling him off and him taking it back and saying he didn't mean it, and that he said it without thinking, and then went into a long tangent about how sexy I am and how much he loves me...
Poor guy. I know that he was right and that he was trying to say it in the nicest way possible. And its not like I wasn't thinking it myself. But seriously, talk about foot in mouth. How could he not know that he was word-vomiting his way onto a huge landmine??!!!
He's always been so supportive...I feel bad about shutting him down like that.
It may have been the kick in the butt I needed, but it made me so mad...constructive criticism from a significant other: would you get mad?
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I am sorry for your loss. During my two pregnancies, I gained 60 to 70 lbs from my "normal"ahem 250lbs. It's alot I know but everything was fine both times. My hubs was always supportive never saying a word except "Did the doctor say everything's okay? even though I was eating everything that wasn't nailed down. I just felt hungry all the time and whether it was hormones or blood flow I was voracious about
"everything" up until the due date. My husband didn't say anything that could have been considered as a . The only thing that came close was saying "I'll bet this baby will weigh 10lbs". He weighed 8lbs6 oz. One evening,near the last month of pregnancy I was a bit ahem.. amorous. His eyes got so wide
and his jaw dropped open either from fear or strain. He's 6'2" and always around 195lbs.but this time, he was a bit overmatched. Of course I knew I was enormous, and if he was going to say anything it would have been then. Not a word though, just the eyes. Maybe he was afraid that I'd have gone Black Widow on him and bitten off his head. When I did complain about my weight gain, He would hug me and say " I love you, and as long as you and the baby are healthy, it's all good babe. You'll take it off". I suppose I may have gone off had he said something like "Don't you think you're getting a bit too big?" True though it was,with all the hormonal changes, I probably would have bitten his head off
and devoured him. We can always blame TOM, pregnancy, hormonal changes for what comes out of our mouths. Poor guys! I guess the only
safe option for them is to keep their mouths shut and nod in agreement. LOL