Has anyone ever had a friend that offered to give you all their "fat" clothes since they can't wear them anymore? While it's a nice gesture...... Talk about depressing.

Yes, and even though I needed and wanted the clothes I was hurt that they thought they'd fit me for some reason.

LOL I have given all my clothes to either my sister or a friend of mine. I don't refer to them as my "fat clothes".

I wouldn't be offended if someone offered me new clothes. Shopping gets expensive when you are in a new size every few months. I would be thrilled if someone offered me their "fat" size 12/14s!

I have to say this has happened to me twice and they didn't call them their "fat clothes" although clearly they were as they had had weightloss surgery. I took two garbage bags of clothes from them. One was all super nice clothes so I was please as punch, felt like I got a free card to mall. The other was casual clothes and although they didn't make me feel pretty, hey they were free. And now I had to give all those clothes to Goodwill because they were my "fat clothes". I never look a gift horse in the mouth and I try not to think of the implications. Free is free and that's nice. If you feel bad about the hand me down aspect of the "fat clothes" use it as motivation each time you wear them. You too will give them up as "fat clothes", YOU WILL

A coworker who had gained some weight brought me some clothes the other day that she could no longer wear. They were all too big! I felt bad

I've given away things that were too big and too small for me, but yeah, calling them "fat clothes" is a bad way to phrase it.

However, one thing I will say about my time on 3fc is that I've learned that for any person's starting weight, that is another person's goal weight (or at least a short term goal)

Yeah, years ago my aunt gave me some stuff she was too big for, and it was depressing for her because she felt so defeated at the weight loss game and figured it would be impossible to get back into the smaller sizes. I felt bad for her, but was happy to have some new duds.

Years later she finally lost the weight--Weight Watchers.

I give my sister my clothes all the time. Most of them are too small for her, but I know she's just like me with too small clothes and likes to imagine them fitting someday. I'm moving to Alaska in a couple months and she's already asked me if she's going to get all my "cute summer clothes." =) I would never refer to the stuff I give her as my fat clothes though, that wouldn't be nice at all.

I had a friend offer me a couple pairs of slacks that did not fit her right a little over 1 year. This year I was able to offer her a bagful of slacks in her current size, she was thrilled to have new pants to choose from.

I give my Mom all my "fat clothes" And she LOVES it. She likes to tell people she can "fit into clothes her daughter used to wear." She is losing too so I'm not sure if that has to do with it. I tried to give some to my sister and she never took them... hummm maybe she was offended?

I always give away my clothes when I go down a size, so hopefuly it will keep me otivated. But when I do I say " I have some size 14 (or whatever) I have no idea what size you wear, but if you are a 14 or know someone who is I'm happy to pass them along."

Luckily for me I kept all my smaller clothes from a couple of years ago, so I have options as this winter moves along. But changing sizes is expensive. So I am happy with give and take on that.

Love it when other people offer me their clothe, even more so when I try them on and tell them it doesn't really fit: too big.

Its never happened to me, but my friends are all guys... although I will steal the best-friend/ex-boyfriend/roommates clothes. And now that he is deployed, I admit to wearing his t-shirts. He always tells me my breasts stretch out the shirts though. LOL!

OMG, I love getting people's cast-off fat clothes, skinny clothes, old clothes. I wish I would have the opportunity more often, which is why it's just too bad that it's such a social minefield.

There's no socially "safe" way to offer someone unwanted clothing. There's always the risk of offending the person if the clothes aren't the perfect size or even if they are. It's often assumed to be an implied insult at either the recipient's size or their income.

I've had some wonderful clothes I would have liked to offer to someone but was afraid to offend, and likewise have loved being on the receiving, on the rare occasions that it has happened.

I resell my unuseable clothing and donate what the consignment shops don't accept. I shop the consignment and thrift stores as well, and I adore buying clothes "new to me." Although even at the consigment shops it bugs me that so many of the clothing has had the size tags cut out. Sometimes the lack of fraying on the cut edge even suggests that the garment wasn't washed since the tag was cut. Sometimes the garment looks so new, that maybe the person cut the tags out of all their garments, and they never wore the garment they donated. Other times I suspect the person cut the tags out right before donating the clothing. Which makes me wonder why? Were they afraid that the intake person would judge them?

We're just socially so weird about things like this. It's like we're all supposed to pretend that we can't tell when someone is about our size.

I once complimented a woman who was about my size (give or take maybe one or two dress sizes) on her wardrobe and asked her where she shopped. She got extremely angry at me for asking, and for the life of me, I couldn't understand why. I don't know if she was offended that I was forcing her to admit she shopped plus sizes or that I was implying that we were the same size (I weighed almost 400 lbs at the time, and I suspect she weighted at least 450 lbs, because she was almost six inches taller than I was). Or maybe it was because she was a lawyer and I was a lowly juvenile detention officer, and I was audacious enough to think I could afford to shop where she did. I don't know, but even with the cold reception, I would have groveled to get her hand me downs (and I probably couldn't have afforded them any other way).

Another time, a neighbor I'd become friends with, offerred me some of her clothes that were too small for her, and I thought she was nuts, because I would have sworn she was smaller than me, and I told her that. She asked me to at least consider trying them, and darned if she wasn't right. They fit perfectly and were all in fantastic shape. I wore a 5X at the time, and she said she wore a 6X. I would have sworn she was smaller than I was, because she was perfectly proportioned for her size, and she also was well over 6'2" (my husband is a smidge over 6'2" and she was taller). Her height made her seem significantly smaller.

I love shopping and getting new clothes, but I'm on such a tight budget, that I would be extremely excited of the prospect of "new to me" clothes, whether they were someone else's fat or skinny clothes. If they fit (or even if they're just close enough for me to try on), I don't care how I come by the opportunity.

I guess I'm just that clothing deprived.

I'm with a lot of other posters here... I'm happy to accept free clothes from people! I don't care if they're their old "fat" clothes or whatever... free clothes are free clothes, and I don't have a lot of money to spend on clothes generally.

A few years ago, my cousin who is the same age as me, and who had been a similar size to me (although slightly shorter in torso), lost quite a bit of weight. I was really happy for her (if a little jealous!). When I went to stay with my aunt and cousins for a family wedding that summer, my cousin offered me some of her old clothes if I wanted them, because they were only going to the car boot sale otherwise. Happy for some new clothes, I cheerfully returned home with a nice pair of jeans and some tops.
I didn't feel resentful that these were her "fat" clothes, or that she was trying to be rude. She was genuinely just being nice and offering me some nice clothes.

It might just be me, though. I've shopped at charity shops and stuff for years, so as long as clothes are new to me, I'm happy to get them. Freebies are freebies!

The pair of jeans I got from my cousin? I wore them until I wore them out!