My biggest fear is losing relationships. I've changed so much in the last few months and I can see it started to affect my marriage, my friendships and my family.
I'm terrified of a plateau. I know it's because I surf the message boards, read about other people plateauing and think it's definitely going to happen to me if it happened to them. Before every weigh-in, my heart is pounding so hard because I'm so worried that I'll have lost nothing.
I'm also afraid that I'll get to my goal weight and still not be 100% satisfied with my body. Maybe there is no such thing as 100%, but I hate that I look at my body - after an almost 40 pound lost - and still find things I don't like. I want to look in the mirror and think Yeah, there could be some improvements, but I still look effing HAWT!
Gaining it back. We're planning on TTC once I hit a healthy BMI so if I do get pregnant right away I won't really have time to learn maintence before hand. I gained WAY too much with my pregnancy with DD so this is a big fear of mine. I know that my eating habits were HORRIBLE back then but I also know a big problem for me was that eating was the only thing I found that worked well for nausea. I'm hoping to avoid having my first trimester during the summer because the heat just made it 100X worse.
Even though I'd rather avoid the loose skin and my body imagine is not quite perfect those are issues that I feel like I can deal with as long as I get to a healthy weight. Loose skin could eventually be fixed by surgery and my body image appears to be getting better if I find clothes that I like.
One thing I haven't been enjoying, though, and it's already started, is guys giving me extra attention. I'm happily married and just want to were a shirt that says bug off! I have a million other things in my life to worry about.
I've never lost enough to even be at maintenance of a number I am happy with but along the way, I give up and gain it all back.
I really feel like I have found the right plan for me this time though - it does not feel like a struggle at all, plus this plan also has a phase in between losing and maintenance where it's a little bit less strict than losing weight but you are giving your body time to get used to the new weight. I truly believe that will make a huge difference for me this time. And instead of giving up if losing weight does become a struggle, I can move to this middle phase to maintain the progress I have made so far, and then work on losing more weight again another time.
My biggest fear is losing relationships. I've changed so much in the last few months and I can see it started to affect my marriage, my friendships and my family.
Me too.. I have hidden in this little comfort zone for so long. I feel like maybe I was stuck here because I felt nobody else would ever love me or hang out with me. Now I'm starting to wonder if maybe I do deserve better..
Of course I'm scared of gaining it back too. But I can do my best not to
Oh my.. My post sounds very selfish.. I very much love my friends but sometimes I wonder if they love me as much? In the last couple of months they didn't show any interest in me or my life. It really gets to me.
Gaining it all back, because I have several times before! It seems once the portal of overeating opens, I have a hard time stopping. Really trying to reign it in now.
Last edited by christine123; 09-02-2011 at 11:48 AM.
