I think I just hate that I am the most uncomfortable with my body. I am the one who feel the most self-conscious about my size, even though I am not the biggest one of my friends.

What I really hate is being bigger then most of my co-workers. I work in a clothing retail store and most of my co workers and beautiful and of course smaller then me. They are always complaining about how fat they are!!! If they think they are fat then they must think I am obese :rolleyes:

I am looking forward to not being the bigger one!

Originally Posted by Beach Patrol:
I've been the fat friend, the skinny friend, the in-between friend. The important thing is this: STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO YOUR FRIENDS. Learn to make peace with your body while at the same time, loving it enough to do what's good & healthy for it. Enjoy your time out, no matter who else is there, and work on your self-esteem. Remember that you are MORE than "just a body". You have a mind, a heart, a spirit, all the things that make up "wonderful you."

NEVER LET YOUR BODY IMAGE STOP YOU FROM PARTICIPATING IN YOUR OWN LIFE. (Trust me, that's good advice!)

:hug:

I do think this is very good advice. I will say that at least for me it's not so much about comparing myself to my friends but sometimes feeling left out on certain conversation. When I was at my heaviest I couldn't shop at the same stores so help with clothing didn't always work. I couldn't keep up physically with them for certain things also. Just stuff like that. It's not always about comparing yourself to other people. ;)

Originally Posted by Beach Patrol:
I've been the fat friend, the skinny friend, the in-between friend. The important thing is this: STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO YOUR FRIENDS. Learn to make peace with your body while at the same time, loving it enough to do what's good & healthy for it. Enjoy your time out, no matter who else is there, and work on your self-esteem. Remember that you are MORE than "just a body". You have a mind, a heart, a spirit, all the things that make up "wonderful you."

NEVER LET YOUR BODY IMAGE STOP YOU FROM PARTICIPATING IN YOUR OWN LIFE. (Trust me, that's good advice!)

:hug:

As for me, I don't let it affect my happiness or my activities. It is what it is. My friends are smaller than me. I'm not comparing myself. It's just a fact. It's a fact that I don't look as slim as they do in our photos. It's a fact that I don't wear bikinis to the pool when they do. It's a fact that I have to shop for larger sizes when we go shopping. I still have a good time and I know in my mind that I'm working hard to look and feel better, and it's going to pay off. But I still don't like the fact that I'm the "fat friend". :)

Originally Posted by Harriette:
I think you need new friends if you are the fat one! You are already less than my goal weight and the same height so unless you have tiny bones you are certainly not fat since I am not fat anymore :D

LOL! Yes, actually I do have a very small frame. I can not wear most bracelets because they slip right off my wrists, no matter what my weight. (Mmmm, I wonder if I could slip out of handcuffs.) Also, I have a very high percentage of body fat - thanks to my apple shape and my beautiful and LARGE three babies. :)

And my friends are pretty thin but I think it's their body shape that works so much in their favor. :)

I personally hate being the fat friend. I hate feeling like I am not even noticed. In remember when I was smaller people noticed me but now I am so not noticed. Its funny, the bigger you are the less noticeable... life is funny

@9jachic I know exactly how you feel it seems like the smaller you are the more noticeable you are.

Originally Posted by Beach Patrol:
I've been the fat friend, the skinny friend, the in-between friend. The important thing is this: STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO YOUR FRIENDS. Learn to make peace with your body while at the same time, loving it enough to do what's good & healthy for it. Enjoy your time out, no matter who else is there, and work on your self-esteem. Remember that you are MORE than "just a body". You have a mind, a heart, a spirit, all the things that make up "wonderful you."

NEVER LET YOUR BODY IMAGE STOP YOU FROM PARTICIPATING IN YOUR OWN LIFE. (Trust me, that's good advice!)

:hug:

this is truely beautiful advice... :)

That really is awesome advice. Love it. Its going to be my FB status update

Yep. I have always, always been the fat one. At one time my brother was bigger than me. He lost weight when he hit puberty. I remember my dad telling me I was gonna grow up fat. Guess he was right.

I've never hated my body until I got to my high weight and it became physically uncomfortable to be in my flesh. Now I feel the same way, having been quite a bit smaller than I am now. But I do get sad sometimes when guys hit on my petite friends and ignore me (or worse, chat with me in hopes of hooking up with one of the others).

I think the main issue of being the fat friend is that I'm still fat. I don't like being fat. I feel claustrophobic under all of this. I feel like I need to be quick and light. Makes me feel nauseous even now because I'm not. I don't like being weighed down, I guess.

And it's worse because one of my friends (who is very attractive) is insecure a lot of the time and LOVES that I'm fatter that her. She panicked one time when I lost a great deal of weight. She thinks it's great I'm losing weight so long as I don't get anywhere near what she is (she's like 115 lbs). It's annoying. And she'll always ditch me if we go out. So I don't go out with her. We do other things that don't bring out that side of her.

Originally Posted by Beach Patrol:

NEVER LET YOUR BODY IMAGE STOP YOU FROM PARTICIPATING IN YOUR OWN LIFE. (Trust me, that's good advice!)

:hug:

Its hard to do. How many times have I chickened out of a social event because everyone will be swimming oR showing off skin?

But I think it's time.

NO LONGER WILL I FEAR SUMMER :carrot: