I work in an office where I sit right next to the giant bowl full of fun size candy bars. Chocolate bars are my weakness. And we have every single kind. We can't move the bowl because it's there for guests. I am tempted all day long. And I have to come to work everyday, so I don't have much of a choice but to avoid it and remind myself why I am doing this. But yes, temptation is all around. Some days are easier than others, but I have to be able to walk away from it.

I agree that my willpower is stronger than my cravings and so far, I haven't touched any of her treats again :) I knew you girls would be sympathetic or I wouldn't have posted here. It's great to be able to converse with people who understand what you're going through. Thanks for all the comments; they've really helped me stay strong!

Ditto this -- it just doesn't belong to you, and therefore you can't eat it. That's how it will be in college and later, if you have roommates after college.

I think it's too bad she doesn't want to support you, but she is priming you for college life, you'll be faced with a lot of temptation there. Good job on your first 10lbs and I hope you see the next 10 go quickly! How much to you want to lose overall?

What helps for me is planning all meals/snacks and only looking into the fridge to get those meals. If I have to be in the kitchen or make a snack/meal for my daughter, for example, I chew gum while I do it. That curbs the mindless "tastes."

You seem pretty serious about wanting to lose weight and that's a great thing! So, I'm going to be blunt and straightforward in my reply; it does no one any good to enable the bad habits, but we can all help each other learn and develop good ones, I believe :)

If you can't learn to resist temptation, you will always struggle -- not just with your weight but with your resolve on anything that triggers the poor eating choices, too. Now sounds like a great time to try to learn how to be strong. You can't ask the whole world to change so that you don't have to do something hard, but you can find the strength inside of yourself and the willpower to make good choices. It's not your sister's job to be your strength for you. Her purchase of ice cream in the face of your weight struggle might have been insensitive, but it's not like she served it to you or tantalizingly and teasingly ate it in front of you while you salivated. Remember that you are the one that committed to the weight loss, not your sister and that this is your journey. I don't think it's right that you threw your sister's ice cream out just so you wouldn't have to be tempted and I do think that you should replace it. I can understand why you did so, though. Have some compassion for yourself, but be honest about the sustainability of your strategies toward achieving your goal.

A better deterrent would be to put an unflattering photo of yourself on the fridge or kitchen door, with a caption asking yourself, "Will this food item help me lose weight? Make healthy choices!" I posted such a photo on my own kitchen as well as a weight and measurement chart of my own progress so I could condition myself to pause and think before making a poor food choice for the sake of convenience of emotional bolstering (my husband buys junk food and that temptation lurks behind the door daily!). Seeing a visual reminder of my current physique reminded me of my weight loss plight; it can be easy to forget the body and what it looks like and what poor food choices will do to it. Either a blunt reality check or an inspirational poster in a strategic location can be a great tool to curb those temptations!

College is full of all kinds of temptations. The only way to avoid them is to learn how to make better choices. You'll grow stronger if you're forced to work against the struggle, rather than try to ease the path so there isn't any. :)

Wishing you lots of luck and encouragement! Hang in there.

Excellent! The right kind of growth and change in attitude will help you reach your success much better than trying to control the obstacles you have to endure! Kudos to you! And sorry that my reply to your original post came in before I'd read this updated post you made.

Hang in there! :carrot:


Also -- there is a lot of great advice throughout this thread. A personal mini-fridge that contains only what you have planned to eat for xyz number of days is a great way to learn control and restraint and you get to take it with you later (re: kaplods). Also, putting lo-cal treats for yourself next to the tempting bad stuff is a great way to teach yourself about looking realistically at options while you learn how to make better choices (re: sheramama). Everyone slips up once in a while, but if you can learn how to keep from doing it again, you'll have lots more success! Forgive yourself and move forward with resilience! :)

I know what your going through. I'm about to start my second year of college and I still live with my family of (soon to be) 10 because it's right down the street. I'm trying to lose weight so that I can enlist in the Air Force and I've told my mom about this repetedly and she refuses to stop bringing the junk in the house because "the kids need it". She and my grandma also think that I don't have enough will power or strength to lose any amount of weight or join the Air Force because I'm a 'home-body'. I can't wait to prove them wrong. It's hard, but just bring your own food into the house and put it infront of hers.