Hi there! I know it's hard to find the right plan, but once you do, it does get so much easier (although there's often times that learning curve to deal with).
For me, Calorie Counting has been awesome. I keep track of my calories all day long on my LoseIt app and it's really convenient, but you can keep track of calories on an online site or simply by keeping a food journal. It costs nothing and no food is off limits. Of course I am aware of my own triggers and try to be mindful of those. I tried WW and found it too broad with the whole fruit thing. I can't be trusted with that kind of responsibility of eating till I'm full!
Anyway, I'm really glad you're here....there's tons of good info. I really suggest making changes slowly....pick something new to tackle every week so that you're not completely overwhelmed.