been there, done that...twice! Use it as motivation!

This happened to me recently. :(

Like others said use it as motivation. Also it made me rethink some of my clothing choices because I know some of my larger clothes make me look quite a bit bigger than I actually am.

Hang it there and stick around!

Been there, heard that. The person knew I was trying to get pregnant, but that actually made it worse because I never did have another successful pregnancy.

I have learned to never ask a woman about being pregnant! There is such a wide range of how bellies look, pregnant or otherwise. I have a good friend who is quite thin but I actually did think she looked pregnant the other day as she has a protruding belly. But she didn't mention it so I am assuming she is not... I have another super-fit friend who was annoyed that nobody realized she was pregnant; she just looked like a "regular" woman with a poochy belly until she was like 7 months pregnant! Oh and I arrived to visit another friend when she actually was 7 months pregnant, quite visibly, and I said nothing till she mentioned it on the outside chance she was just shaped really differently after her first child :lol:

Anyway, the reason I never ask is that I realize how it felt when I have been asked twice. The first time was by a massage therapist who just assumed I was pregnant (back when I weighed around 130 and had a flat belly) :?:

The second time was by a good friend who hadn't seen me in a while. I had actually lost around 10 lbs (152>>142) and was proud of my progress ... she was so excited, rubbing my belly. :o:o:o AWKWARD.

So yes, you have come to the right place to vent.

thanks so much everyone! it is actually really comforting to know I am not the only one whom this has happened to. I'm definitely going to reevaluate my clothing choices too..

People are so rude sometimes! I haven't ever had that happen to me but I would be livid if someone ever did!

Sorry you had to experience that! Try not to let it hurt your feelings. Instead get angry and use it as motivation. My biggest fear is that someone beside me on an airplane will complain that I'm too big and I will either have to buy two seats or be taken off the plane. I am using that as my motivation.

Sorry this happened to you. :hug: Some people just don't know when to keep their comments to themselves.

Shortly after I had given birth to my first child a lady asked me if I was ever going to have that baby? I said "I have, he's right over there!" Obviously I still looked pregnant.

Me and my friends were no sooner off the ferry for a vacation when an older man touched my friends stomach and asked her when she was due! Fortunately, my friend has the best sense of humor, i on the other hand would have turned around and went back home on that same ferry lol! It didn't' help she was wearing one of those babydoll dresses ;)

I had this happen to me when I was young and I have always regretted how I acted. She was an acquaintance at my daughters school. I did not say anything too serious, just scowled and said no. However, she was terribly embarassed. She was a very sensitive person and was truly happy for me one moment and totally deflated the next. I wish I had laughed it off.

Sorry that happened to you. Some people have been speculating over the past year that I was pregnant because I put back on a few pounds and I got engaged last September, but I definitely assured everyone that I'm not, and it makes me even more determined to get rid of this belly!

It happened to me too! I was buying zoo tickets at Giant Eagle. I said something about having 2 kids and she said something about "and 1 on the way". Uh no. I was wearing a tank top so maybe that had something to do with it. Ugh.

First of all - I do not understand for the life of me why people would ask that to a complete stranger!? Second of all, it's easy to spot a pregnant woman - they're always feeling their own stomachs ;).

I feel like a pregnant hippo sometimes, so welcome to the club of people up the duff with too much food and too many cans of lazy! But no more I say!

I recently found this article in the internet. Jean Nidetch (The founder of Weight Watchers) was also asked if she was pregnant. That was a turning point in her life:

Jean Nidetch ... struggled with her weight from childhood through early adulthood. One of her food obsessions was Mallomars, a chocolate-covered marshmallow cookie, she says. "That was my Frankenstein," her name for a craving that's impossible to resist. "For some crazy reason I had to have them. I didn't want my husband or children to see, so I put them in a plastic bag and put them in the hamper."

The turning point
She kept getting bigger.

She weighed 214 and wore a size 44 when she was finally motivated to lose weight in 1962 by a chance encounter in the supermarket.

"I ran into a neighbor who said, 'Oh, Jean, you look so good.' I was feeling very good about the compliment, and then she said, 'When are you due?' I didn't know how to answer her because I wasn't pregnant. I don't remember what I said, but I will never forget it."

Nidetch says she realized she needed to look at herself in a full-length mirror, but she didn't have one. "I didn't look at my body. I only looked at myself from the neck up. I was very interested in my makeup and hairdo."

She decided to try a diet program run by the New York City Board of Health Manhattan. She lived in Brooklyn at the time and had to take two buses and the subway to get to the offices for the board of health.

When she arrived, "there was the thin girl at the desk, and I asked where the group was. And she said, 'You want the obesity clinic.' I had never heard the word obese before. It shocked me. I said, 'I guess I do.' "

She found a seat in the last row "and I didn't take my coat off. I sat next to a woman who was also wearing her coat."

The woman running the meeting was a very thin nutritionist who had a picture of a fat woman next to her. She told the group it was a picture of her.

The nutritionist gave the participants a diet that recommended, among other things, that they eat fish several times a week, eat two slices of bread and drink two glasses of skim milk a day, Nidetch says. "I had never bought skim milk. I never drank milk. I drank soda. I drank everything that was fattening."

She lost 20 pounds in 10 weeks. Then she decided to invite some overweight friends to her apartment to tell them about the diet. "I am a sharer," she says. "When you give of yourself, you get back. I had to share it, so I called all my overweight friends. I only had overweight friends."

Start of something big

That meeting snowballed into more meetings, and in 1963, she created Weight Watchers International with the help of a savvy businessman.

Nidetch has had plenty of time to observe obesity in action since then. She noticed years ago that thin people have different meal-time habits than overweight people. "Thin people release the fork," she says, "and they chew the food with the fork on the table. They chew their food slowly. They look around at each other or the wall or a picture. They listen to the music. They sit back and take a breath. They do something other than concentrate on shoving the food into their body.

"Overweight people never let go of their fork. They hold it when they are talking. They hold it when they are chewing. I discovered that is one of the secrets. Let go of the instrument that made you fat."

She says she has never told anyone he needed to lose weight. "I don't believe in telling people. But people say to me, 'I wish I could lose weight.' I say, 'Wishing won't do it. I know you can. If you want me to, I'll help.' "

It's often a matter of putting food into perspective. "Food is not your remedy for problems," she says. "Food is not going to change your life. If you are lonely, food is not going to be your company. If you are sad, food is not going to give you solace."

And she continues to offer encouragement to others. "If you want to lose weight, you will — you can," she says. "You are capable. I'm 86, and I have blonde hair. That's not nature. It takes a desire ... and sometimes it's rather uncomfortable to get it done. It costs time and money. If you really want to do it, and you know it's your desire and you're capable of it, you will. It's that simple."

(Weight Watchers founder Jean Nidetch)

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/...tch23_ST_N.htm

I had that happen to me a few weeks ago by this sweet little old lady I was taking care of...I couldn't even correct her because of how kind she was I just smiled said thank you and walked away (She commented on how beautiful I was in my pregnancy and I was just glowing) lets just say I was glowing red as I turned away,and made me really enjoy the bowl of grass I fixed myself for lunch,lol. But I'm playing it up to the scrubs I was wearing , which I will never wear that pair again now....