JollyGreen, I'm sorry, I hope I didn't seem as though I was belittling what undergrads go through--for me, personally, my graduate career has been infinitely more difficult than my undergrad one, but I recognize that that's not the case for everyone.

I got an English & History double-major in a largely science/agriculture school where I had a wide group of friends and could drive home in under two hours, and then moved to a small, private, liberal arts school six hours from home where I knew no one and everyone was already part of a tightly-knit social circle that could not be broken into. They all went to that school for undergraduate degrees, and knew each other, and were great friends. Sure, they tried to invite me to things, but I was always the odd man out. I went from being able to pick from a whole host of classes that interested me to having to take what was offered, even if I hated it--which has been the case for, oh, probably 9 of my 12 total courses (American lit? Blagh. Modernism? Blagh. American Modernish? BLAGH.). I also have to teach, and standing in front of crowds has always been my weak point. Last semester it wasn't so bad--I loved "my kids"--but this semester has been horrid. I've been going through issues with my medication, I've gone through issues with one professor that I've had every. single. semester.

Honestly, what you're describing sounds way worse than any of my circumstances, lol! I can't imagine working 60 hours a week, plus being a newlywed. I guess we all just have different circumstances that have to be worked around! :)