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Originally Posted by AZ Sunrises
Despite strongly disagreeing, you point out that it is possible for nearly everyone. It's a matter of continuing to try to find what works for you. No one said it was easy.
If you can't, that's fine. The rest of us will.
You missed my point entirely. I've been studying weight loss for 40 years, putting far more effort and brain power into it than my career and education (which is no small feat, considering I always worked at least two jobs and obtained both a bachelor's and master's degree in psychology).
I put excessive, but wrong effort into it, because I believed there were no "logical and rational" reasons that I couldn't stick to my food plan. There very much WERE logical and rational reasons, but I didn't know them. You can't fight what you do not understand.
Just saying that " It's a matter of continuing to find what works for you," is like sayingthat anyone can fly if they want it badly enough without mentioning that jumping off a cliff and flapping your arms probably will not work (and the person that does jump off the cliff is not going to have an opportunity to learn from their mistakes).
People have in the past, and will continue in the future to kill themselves trying to lose weight. People have spent entire life times of intense effort without ever having found what works for them. It takes far more than desire. It even takes more than commitment.
I never succeeded when I thought as you did. I only succeeded when I did see the logical and reasonable obstacles in my path. I also know that it took me 40 years, with a mensa-level IQ, a master's degree in an applicable field (I went in to psychology to understand myself, and to use it to help myself), self-help groups, counseling, counsulting dozens of doctors and specialitsts and nutritionist/dietitians, and after reading hundreds (if not thousands) of books, articles.
If someone with all of my advantages and resources, with great effort took 40 years to find the answers, what hope would someone have if they had no formal education, were living in poverty with a family to support, perhaps functionally iliterate, unaware of available resources, unable to access available resources...
Telling people that something is possible for everyone, without giving everyone the tools to do so, makes "possible" meaningless.
Saying there's no logical, rational reason for failure, when there are many such reasons, many related factors, is misleading. It encourages people to work harder rather than different. I didn't explore low-carb for good, logical, rational reasons (virtually all of the common wisdom and sciece at the time, said that low-carb was unhealthy and unsustainable. Many of the experts still do).
I have far more confidence in my success, because of my understanding of the logical and rational factors that preven weight loss. The reasons for my success has not been a belief that weight loss was possible (when I began succeeding I had no such confidence. I was pretty sure it wasn't going to work), it was my adressing all of the logical, reasonable obstacles.
If you tell people it's possible and then don't give them the tools to accomplish it, they only feel like bigger failures when they don't. Hope isn't enough. Understanding the factors that prevent success is far more valuable.
It's one of the reasons I think weight loss statistics are so dismal. There's plenty of hope and expectations of success to go around, yet the main theory of failure is that the person didn't believe in themselves, didn't work hard enough, didn't want it badly enough - it's all crap. You can have all those things and still not succeed because you don't have the right tools and information, and unless you get those tools and information you can do your very best and never succeed. It's information that is lacking. What works for which people. How to find what is likely to work for you.
If my doctor had not recommended low-carb, I never would have tried it. What I thought I knew about it would have prevented me from doing so. I would have gone to my grave without ever having found what works for me, and many people do and have and will go to their grave without succeeding at weight loss, and not because they were lazy, crazy or stupid, not because they didn't put every bit of effort they had.
Saying "anyone can do it," without providing the information and tools to do it, is meaninglyess and even disrespectful. Telling someone "eating less and moving more" is the secret to success is like telling someone that the cure to their poverty is "earning more and spending less." It's the how that has to be shared, before it becomes doable. Telling someone they can do it, is meaningless without telling them how to do it, or at least how to find the resources to do it.