Originally Posted by Wild Vulpix (Post 3605407)

I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but it sounds like this diet didn't work for you either... otherwise you'd be maintaining your goal :)

Please, believe me, we're all in the same boat as you. We would all LOVE to just take off our fat like its an extra coat. We'd LOVE to see the numbers on the scale fly past us. We were all (okay, most of us) raised in this instant gratification society where waiting for something is unusual.

How many people attempt crash diets like this, get to their goal, and stay there? I know I've said a thousand times "If I could JUST get to my goal, I could maintain it because I want it so badly." but it's not that easy. You need to go through the long weight loss journey before you have even a fighting chance at maintenance. It sucks, but its life.

I feel for you, Raspberry, because you truly aren't alone. But most of us... we've been there, and failed, and it hurts to see someone attempt something that we know from experience won't work and isn't healthy. By all means, you're permitted to learn the lesson on your own the hard way--I know I'm the kind of person who has to learn from her own mistakes--but we're trying to save you from heartache and lost time down the road because of the unrealistic goals you've set for yourself.

I wish you tons of luck and good will for your wedding :hug: Don't forget that dress size doesn't equate to beauty or happiness. It'll be a wonderful day no matter what!

Originally Posted by fatmad (Post 3605422)

I have to agree, this diet isn't healthy as it is both low carb and low fat, and will only contribute to yo-yo dieting again.
Why not try atkins or south beach? You can lose weight quite quickly, and can be easy to stick to if you commit. The advantage is you can continue to eat the same way (with a few more healthy carbs added in) in order to maintain, so that you don't wind up regaining it all again.
We want to be supportive, but we can't promote unhealthy diets.
I also second the idea that if your fiance isn't happy with you at this wait, (not much more than me at my highest weight, and I am the same height as you) I would question whether this is the right time to make a lifelong commitment. YOu may regain weight. If you have children you will get big when you are pregnant. How will he manage that?
Wishing you all the best, however that may be.

Originally Posted by Eliana (Post 3605440)

But I'm afraid this one won't work either for all the reasons you've listed below.


May of us CAN imagine it...and have lived it. ;) I'm one who got fat on very little food. I can't necessarily say exactly why. My body is just a touch different than a lot of people's. That's ok. I've learned how to work around it and you can too. But this is not the way.

What they're saying is true. You can indeed get fat on very little food because your body won't burn it the way it should. And the diet you are forcing on yourself is the exact opposite of what you wrote here. It IS important to feed your body. It is best to feed your body several times throughout the day. I personally like to eat six mini meals, each with equal calories. From on person who got fat on not much food to another...this has worked. My metabolism stays revved. I eat breakfast and I finish with an early dinner so most of my calories come during the day when I can burn them off. Also, I am never hungry, so the need to go off plan does NOT come up. This is very important because the only way a diet will ever work is if you stick with it for a long time. Do you know what a long time is? I ask because I used to think that was a couple months. :no: No, a long time is like a year, or two.

Why do you think this diet is going be different? :dunno: You're setting yourself up for starving by evening, no question.


So get active? I'm all for going intense leading up to your wedding. It's actually a great idea. I'm a big fan of picking a plan you can stick with and committing to sticking with it no matter what for a specific period of time WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATIONS. So I would be thrilled to see you say you are going to eat 1500 calories of healthy foods and that you were going to do some intense exercise including strength training and that you were going to do this until your wedding, no excuses, no matter what the scale says. No matter what! That is a plan I could get behind.

This is an awesome and amazing place! Stick around and you will be inspired. It's impossible not to be. ;)


You can do this! But I have to say I do not like your plan. ;) I do, however, like your enthusiasm. I can tell you you are not broken, even though I know you think you are. You are not alone. You are not the only person for whom it seems nothing works. Been there, lived through that. You are no more broken than I am.

I started weighing daily and it changed my life. I discovered that I do not lose weight like most people. I lose weight one week out of every month and stall the rest of the month. I do not lose the often prescribed "1-2 pounds per week" but I DO lose 4-8 pounds every single month. And you know what? It's the same thing!! But weight loss is not linear as most people and books would have us believe.

So have we convinced you? :^:

Tell you what...if we have not convinced you, promise me this. Promise me you'll try your plan, but when/if you fail, just come back and let us guide you toward something more realistic. There's no time limit on this. You have the rest of your life. :smug:

Originally Posted by nettiepiepie (Post 3605489)

I wish you the best of luck in losing the phenomenal amount of weight you are proposing but I wonder after the 28 days and loss of up to 55lbs if you starve yourself enough, will you be able to maintain the loss of weight you propose?

There are many desperate women, including myself, who look for the "lose weight quick and big scheme" but the real battle is keeping the weight off.

It can be vey unhealthy to lose that amount in weight in the short 28 days but again I wish nothing but hope an success for anyone who struggles with attaning a healthy weight and happy life

Originally Posted by KenzideRhae (Post 3605522)

It's super great that you're so pumped and excited and committed to sticking to a plan to lose weight, but a pound or more a day of weight loss is unhealthy at your weight, as others have said. I've seen brides practically starve themselves to look perfect on their wedding day/fit into their dress/whatever, only to end up having an awful time because they're tired and lethargic from not eating enough.

You want to be that girl that is having an amazing day no matter what her weight is, not the girl who collapsed because she was starving herself. I'd try some of the diets the other girls have suggested, and add in some exercise. Your wedding day will be amazing no matter how much you weigh, and you're more likely to keep the weight off if you pick something that you can actually stick with long-term.

Originally Posted by Raspberry 1984 (Post 3606030)

Thank you dear for your advice and opinion .. im convinced and will see a doctor and stick to a healthy plan and be active and do workouts and walk daily

thank you so much :)