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Beautifully put, Rana and saef. I hate to reduce everything to a grossly overused and abused tagline, but ignorance truly can seem like bliss when you feel wholly overeducated. I would make a comparison to "The Matrix" but the cheesewagon already overfloweth.

i completely identify with that. i was and still 'weird'. in school, the bookworm, teacher's pet. as i got older and fatter in conversation always about being healthier, mainly food focused. now my conversation is about fitness with the occasional cool food find. i'm trying to pay attention to cues their done listening to my blabbing about this w/o, that instructor, blah, blah,blah. at least here i can talk about any weightloss nsv's, food finds, issues, triumphs, as much as i want. and at least now i finally can walk the talk i constantly talked about. here, i can belong. surrounded by those that have conquered the mountain.

my mountain is myself. i don't miss eating with people because my binging buddy is me. i eat alone what i wouldn't dream of in front of other people. just a bunch of lonely depressed feelings. of course there's nothing to miss. that mountain, my head will always be there. i always knew what to do. now hopefully this new thinking and habits will stay with me. so i'm never obese again. even in maintance i'll need some type of accountabilty. i don't miss eating 3 plates of spagetti in one night. or alfredo or mac and cheese. doesn't matter. binging alone isn't fun. it isn't i ate whatever i wanted. it's not freeing. not thinking about food. THATS freeing.

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Originally Posted by Nola Celeste (Post 3599640)

I can't do "never." If I tell myself I can never again eat something, it depresses me, makes me feel defective, and causes me to pine for that lost, beloved food until I give in and eat it.

"Never" is a wretched, cruel, unsexy, parsimonious little word. "Never" is why you cry when your pet dies and you realize all the tomorrows you'll miss with her. "Never" is why a break-up hurts. "Never" is why people gain ten pounds before their New Year's resolutions because they believe that they'll miss out on the experience of a mouthful of ice cream for the remainder of their lives. Even thinking about "never" to write this made me all morose and hungry.

So instead of saying "never," I just say "not yet." Chances are, "not yet" means the same as "never" for me, as I don't know that there'll ever be a future in which I can eat a little bag of Cheetos without it leading to bigger bags and regaining weight. But I can live with "not yet" in a way that I just can't abide "never."

And yeah, I do feel a little ripped off sometimes that I drew the "short and fat" number in the genetic lottery. Then I realize there are far worse things in life to be than short and fat; I can always wear heels and lose weight, but things like "dumb and ugly" can't be fixed. :D

i can't do never either. "never" is a guarantee'd binge for me. i have a book called "the thin commandments diet" where He says if you have issues with never, tell yourself when you are old and in "gods waiting room" (LOL) you will have some pizza. But don't waste the prime of your life giving into a breadbasket or desert. He says it much better than me but..... that's what your post made me think of :)

-fm