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Originally Posted by JMSilver (Post 3583512)

I should say for clarity that I more or less forced him to confess to it. I'm pretty much like a highly trained sniffer dog when it comes to things being off. I can often sense things straight away with him. I didn't literally corner him, but I pretty much figuratively did. He could only really say yes or no, and he doesn't lie.

So, in a way, I got what I asked for: an honest answer.

I kind of figured that might have been the case, only because it totally sounds like sometime I might do, doh!

don't beat yourself up over it being an "honest" answer (another thing I would do). what may seem "honest" now, may change as his mental, emotional, and physical states change. And as you change -- and I don't necessarily mean weight wise at all -- though you may choose to make that part of your change.

consider his answer as reflective of the circumstances. a wise person told me once not to ask q's I really don't want the answers to, which unfortunately is something I was told post having done so(!)

Woo! I managed to get him to go to the chiro so we can start working out together. :) I have a rotated tailbone, which makes 90% of exercise too painful if I'm not keeping up with adjustments and he has a bad back. We have back to back appointments this Wednesday, so we'll be exercising together after that. :)

I'm beating myself up much less about this whole thing since getting shot with a clue gun about how he is feeling about his weight gain. The focus is finally shifting back on me getting healthy for me.