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08-04-2010, 02:08 PM
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natalie
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: norcal
Posts: 591
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I can't believe someone would say that to you!! I'm so sorry. Don't take it personally. There is obviously something wrong with that woman. That's not having a bad day, that's having a bad life. She said that because she's was mad and throwing a tantrum, and wanted to put you down to make her feel better about herself. I hate people like that, but life is probably peeing in her cheerios in every way so don't worry too much.
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08-04-2010, 02:30 PM
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Cat Cuddler
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: California
Posts: 571
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Height: 5'5"
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That was a terrible thing for her to do! I am so sorry that she embarrassed and hurt you like that!
I can't even count the number of times people said terrible things to me - and often I ended up in tears. In addition to the bullies in grade school and my family saying things to me, one time I was rehearsing for a school play in high school and the drama teacher said something about my weight in a big loud voice in front of the entire cast and other faculty!!! People were so stunned, they didn't know what to say.
This behavior is a reflection on the people who do this - not you. You are great and she was awful. Please don't carry her words with you - don't give her any more of your time and energy. She isn't worth it.
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08-04-2010, 03:58 PM
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I'm Just a Little Crazy
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Willington, CT
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Yay! Let's hear it for working with the public! She was just looking to be mean. If you had weighed less, she would have found something else just as nasty to say. I am always amazed at people like that. What kind of people must they attract? What kind of friends/family must they have? Why would anyone want to spread that kind of negativity around?
Maybe she was being mean to you so her friend could slip out of the store with stolen goods?
I used to work for PETCO and I was ringing up a woman's stuff, when I accidentally double scanned an item. Unfortunately, I had to call the manager to delete the duplicate b/c I didn't have authority to do that. Get this... the woman was fine - it was the man behind her in line that became irrate. He insisted on having someone else ring him up and he wanted my name so he could call and complain to my supervisor. I will never forget how nasty he was. It really was almost unbelievable. (and the b@st@rd never even bothered to call my supervisor)
Anyone who works with the public has aweful stories to share... it really is sad that people are like that. Please don't take it personal. You are working at losing weight (and doing very well at it!) while this woman will always be a miserable b----. She will never work towards bettering herself and that is truely sad.
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08-04-2010, 06:18 PM
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Junior Member
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 11
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Height: 5' 5"
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That's a horrible thing to say and she had no right to treat you that way. What a miserable, cruel person she must be. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Keep on keepin' on!
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08-04-2010, 07:28 PM
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Don't Give Up
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Arizona
Posts: 83
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Height: 5'4
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I'm so sorry that happened to you!
I am so sorry this happened to you. In my opinion mean people = people with self-esteem issues. That lady is just flat out crazy. I do not understand how someone could do that. No matter what was going on in her life that doesn't give her the right to treat you like that.
I think you handled it well all things considered and I hope you take some time to just build your spirits back up. I think you are beautful just as you are now and I'm sure many other people would agree. Don't let one mean person's words hurt you.
I love what Kimo Kawaii said. It's true. She must be really a sad unhappy person. Happy people aren't mean to other people because they are happy and confident.
Mean people are the ones who have to put others down to make themselves feel better. It's really sad.
You never deserved those mean words. We're here for you.
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Originally Posted by 0o0o KimoKawaii o0o0
People are nuts now a days........
That's not even a HALF normal reaction!
I'm about the same weight as you, and like you said, i've had people stare, and snicker and whatever, but NOTHING like that. Hopefully it'll never happen to you again!!
Just remember, people do things like point out your weight, or tease you, to make themselves feel better about something............so obviously, that was a very miserable, possibly lonely, and un-confident individual....pity their misery, don't get angry.
It's a shame so many people choose to lash out at others like that.......you should never put down others, to make yourself feel bigger or better.
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08-04-2010, 08:50 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Baltimore
Posts: 324
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Height: 5'7"
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i've worked in the service industry for years, and dealt with all kinds of a**holes. i think the worst was when someone accused me of being racist (loudly) and i just sobbed and sobbed. i did finally come to learn that the best way to handle it is to recognize that anyone that rude and nasty must be very miserable. now i even (sometimes) pity the people who are so indiscriminately rude and insulting. i'm sure we both have bad days, but we don't take it out on random people to make ourselves feel superior. those people are narcissists who feel the need to assert some sort of power over others, and they are the most insecure people on earth.
your picture is adorable, by the way. you are so pretty! and congratulations on losing over 50 pounds?!?!?!?!!! that is AWESOME!!!!
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08-04-2010, 08:56 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2010
Posts: 502
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Hugs for you hun.
People suck basically
Hang in there xx
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08-04-2010, 09:02 PM
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Junior Member
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Massachusetts
Posts: 6
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Height: 5'6"
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That is terrible and I am sorry to hear it happened to you.
I had something like that happen to me when I worked in retail. I cried too. I think it's because it catches you totally off guard.
Now I am a little more cynical and my response is "really that's all you have to say to me" That usually catches them off guard. I know you are always told sticks and stones blah blah blah...but words hurt and people know that. I believe in karma and this lady will get hers someday.
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08-04-2010, 09:12 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 238
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Height: 5'1"
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Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly is to the bone, so said my Grandmother. Screw that woman and her ugly-a$$ attitude! Whatever beauty she thinks she may have over you (which I'm sure she doesn't), her ugliness will lead to loneliness in the long run. Don't let her bring you down. She isn't worth it.
What did your manager do? Had I been your manager, she would have been escorted from the premises and told never to return. What a bit$h!
Last edited by Ursula745; 08-04-2010 at 09:13 PM.
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08-04-2010, 09:25 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Davis, Ca
Posts: 23,149
S/C/G: 204/114/120
Height: 5'
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That was a nasty, nasty thing for her to say, Do not take it personally , people like that are nasty to everybody.
Last edited by bargoo; 08-05-2010 at 11:33 AM.
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08-04-2010, 11:43 PM
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Carol
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Sunny Florida
Posts: 615
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Height: 5'6"
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You are a beautiful girl with a lovely smile. Obviously, her comment had nothing to do with your apppearance and everything to do with her miserable existence.
When working with the public, you just have to consider the source and move on to the next person. Your next person may be real gem who will need and appreciate your great smile and good service!
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08-05-2010, 04:24 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Warner Robins, GA
Posts: 1,951
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As my grandfather used to say about people like that..."she is to be pitied." She's obviously a rude and nasty person w/ nothing positive going on in her life so she has to put down other people to make herself feel better. Her reaction was uncalled for and I'm very sorry that those words have such power to make us feel like that. Just remember, you are the better person.
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08-05-2010, 05:33 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Texas
Posts: 355
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Height: 5'7"
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That is horrible. People just aren't nice sometimes. I would have been very upset too but let it go and move on. You are doing great!!!
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08-05-2010, 05:50 PM
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XOXO
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: In my mind.....
Posts: 958
S/C/G: 268/249/145
Height: 5'4"
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You wanna go kick her stupid ***? I do not like people like that. Jerk!
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08-05-2010, 06:16 PM
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I'm on my way!
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Texas
Posts: 722
S/C/G: 260/172/160
Height: 5'6"
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I am sorry that happened to you. There are just a lot of rude, selfish a****oles in the world and clearly this woman was one of them. She is a miserable person and just took it out on you. {{{{big hugs}}}} Working with the public is no picnic!! BTDT and that is why I am always nice to cashiers - they don't set the prices anyway!Sheeesh!
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