What an unpleasant person she is. I'm sorry she said that. I don't understand what is wrong with people. You JUST gave BIRTH. Nature designed you to have breasts and hips, to sustain you through your pregnancy and nourish your baby.
You are only 138lbs and 5'5"? You probably look great! It doesn't matter either way though, there's no reason to say what she did to anyone, especially one who recently have birth! Jeez.
Your MIL is certainly not very tactful nor a very good judge of weight. Your weight at your height is perfect and you just had a baby! I hope she is not always that way. Sometimes we just have to bite our tongue to keep peace in the family, but if she says something again, please tell her how you feel.
Ok-first of all, you just had a baby and you weigh 138 pounds---uh you realize I'd be happy to just weigh 138 now-no baby included in that package. If by miracles I weighed 138 AFTER having a baby this would be me:
I can't really explain how deliriously happy I would be to weigh 138 after having a baby. Anyway that being said-even if you gained 50 pounds having a baby this is your MIL's grandchild? You just gave birth to her grandchild. She really doesn't need to be putting you down. Why in the world she said that I'll never understand nor do I think in a million years anyone would ever consider it fair.
You gotta love MIL. Right? Uh
If she keeps bringing it up maybe take her aside and tell her, kindly, that you don't appreciate the comments.
I feel bad for you sweetie. I really do. After just having a baby you shouldn't have such stress put upon you. You have plenty with a newborn as is. Take care and know that there are plenty of us here who are totally on your side!
Keep us posted!
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Originally Posted by sacha
"You've gained weight. Your boobs and butt jiggle everywhere". Then she laughed. I was trying to soothe my newborn.
Thanks MIL
I'm 5'5, 138lbs and gave birth to her grandson 8 weeks ago, what on earth compels someone to say such a thing??!
Holy cow. People weren't even that mean when I weighed a heck of a lot more than that long before I had a baby.
Was she as blunt before the pregnancy? I was just wondering what would make anyone let alone a new grandma say such a hurtful thing.
I have been a grandma for 3 months now my DIL is gorgeous, moms are beautiful!!!!!
Shocking really and very sad.
I don't care if you were 238 or 338 or 438. That is just not right. That woman must have a screw loose.
I mean are you kidding?!?!? 138 at 8 weeks postpartum!??!?! Goodness Gracious, someone should be throwing you a Fabulous Party, cause that's what you are!
I know with family, and in-laws in particular, we can't always (ever?) say what we really want to say... so I will say it for you here... you!
sorry, I got a little carried away... but this really makes me angry!
She obviously has a terrible heart/soul to say something like that specially to a new mom! I mean a person who's just had a baby generally gets effected emotionally more so than someone didnt just have a baby. Not only that AS IF a new mom doesnt have so many other things to worry about than some tasteless MEANIE.
Did your husband hear? I hope he stepped in. If he didnt and he DID hear.. smack him. Hard.
Like others state - definitely if she says something like that again just state how it hurts your feelings and you do not appreciate comments like that. They are uncalled for.
I would say what thesame7lbs said but uncensored and to her face :P hahaha but thats how i roll
Last edited by luciddepths; 08-02-2010 at 09:19 PM.
I'd kill to be in the 130s. Not literally, of course.
I remember I was at my fiancé's house last
year and his mom came out with an old shirt
she had and her husband said, "You don't have
the body you use to have."
WTF was he thinking?! She's not even big!
Some people just don't think when they talk.
Even if they try and mean it as a joke, some
things are better left unsaid. Hang in there.
138lbs at 5'5 is not even overweight. And even if I was 238,338,438lbs, it is still very hurtful to make such comments. She did not know me when I was overweight/obese, only slim, so I'm not sure if she realizes how that jabs the "former fat girl" inside of me. Oh well, whatever.
Again, one of those things that reflect upon the person who says it, rather than the intended target.
And about the boob comment... I'm a 32B with the milk... LOL... I wish I had boobs to "jiggle"? Okay, they are still bigger than my former A's but that's ok