Third the Chipotle salad or burrito bowl. It's delicious!

www.chipotlefan.com

I get a bowl with lettuce on the bottom, double fajita veggies, black beans, chicken, green salsa, and ask for them to put half the cheese and more lettuce on top. The result is amazing...420 calories or so, with 40 grams of protein, tons of fiber, and only a moderate amount of fat. The sodium is a bit high, but honestly, it's a pretty good option. And that would allow you to keep your fun roomie ritual without breaking your plan.

Get a water gun. Every time he offers you food pick it up and smile. Ask him if he would like a bath.

I'll definitely try what you guys suggested at Chipotle. Thank you.

I tried to have a conversation with him last night and it didn't go as I expected. He pretty much told me that he's going to keep offering me food, baking pies and all that no matter what ... and that 'they aren't that bad for me'.

I told him it's not about the fact that it's dessert food, or any food, but that if I eat those foods it leads me down a cycle of binging and I'm trying to break that. Much to my surprise he told me 'Well just don't eat it.' I told him that right now, JUST FOR ONE MONTH, I could really use his support because it's hard for me.

I'm really surprised by his reaction and honestly, pretty upset about it. I live in a studio and in November I allowed him to come couch surf until he got on his feet here and could move into his own place, he pays a seriously reduced amount in rent and makes more money than me. I really feel that given everything I've done for him, and the things that I've allowed for him to do in my studio because he wanted to, even though I wasn't 100% comfortable with it -- which he knew, he could as least be considerate and mindful of this for 30 days.

I'm going to have another talk with him about it, I really don't understand why he can't be supportive of this. I'm hugely overweight and it's something I really want to change to feel better about myself, which I know he can see and I talk about, so why is he doing this? :(

I think it's time to get rid of this roommate- I'd tell him that you have let him stay in your place long enough and give him a month to find a new place.

If you never wanted him to move in in the first place then I think you need to increase his rent to at least HALF the rent and if he complains tell him move out.

Seriously that's rude to tell you he doesn't care- I'd be livid and would have said get out of MY house now.

Is he on the lease?

Originally Posted by beerab:
I think it's time to get rid of this roommate- I'd tell him that you have let him stay in your place long enough and give him a month to find a new place.

If you never wanted him to move in in the first place then I think you need to increase his rent to at least HALF the rent and if he complains tell him move out.

Seriously that's rude to tell you he doesn't care- I'd be livid and would have said get out of MY house now.

Is he on the lease?

No, no. He's not on the lease. I co-own my place with my mother who is technically my "landlord".

I think I'm going to give him one more chance with it, I'll have another conversation, I'm not asking him for much and I really don't understand why it's so much of an issue for him, ESPECIALLY when I have gone out of my way to be overly supportive of his hobbies and allowed them to essentially take over my place.

I am going to remind him that it's MY place. I'm letting him stay there. I considered saying that to him today, just asking why he wouldn't be supportive over something that has no bearing on him. I literally asked him: "On the 4th of July for our cookout do you think that for dessert you can only make ONE pie, or we can have some fruit salad so we don't have the left overs that I'm going to binge on?" And he told me no. I don't understand, there are a total of TWO people who are going to eat the pie, isn't one pie enough lol. I further explained my reasoning, why having food like that was a problem for me right now, how I enjoy his cooking and would like to eat it but I can't because of what he uses to cook ...

Further, I told him about the Chipotle salad idea and how we could still go, and he laughed at me and said that sounded like it sucked.

Here's the kicker, when I first started making these MAJOR changes in November, he was so supportive. He's seen me personally lose at least 40lbs and sees how hard I work at losing weight daily. I just really fail to understand this sudden switch.

I'm just so shocked that was his response though. I don't understand the justification behind it at all. I really expected it to go differently. :(

Hmmm. "Semi -unsupportive"? Nope! 100% NOT supportive is more like it! I'd tell his loafing, pot smoking (or whatever he does in your studio you aren't comfortable with, including being a food pusher!), treat baking self to get to steppin'! :o

You deserve better than this, period. :hug:

Originally Posted by audrina:
I'm really surprised by his reaction and honestly, pretty upset about it. I live in a studio and in November I allowed him to come couch surf until he got on his feet here and could move into his own place, he pays a seriously reduced amount in rent and makes more money than me. I really feel that given everything I've done for him, and the things that I've allowed for him to do in my studio because he wanted to, even though I wasn't 100% comfortable with it -- which he knew, he could as least be considerate and mindful of this for 30 days.

I'm going to have another talk with him about it, I really don't understand why he can't be supportive of this. I'm hugely overweight and it's something I really want to change to feel better about myself, which I know he can see and I talk about, so why is he doing this? :(

Originally Posted by audrina:
No, no. He's not on the lease. I co-own my place with my mother who is technically my "landlord".

I think I'm going to give him one more chance with it, I'll have another conversation, I'm not asking him for much and I really don't understand why it's so much of an issue for him, ESPECIALLY when I have gone out of my way to be overly supportive of his hobbies and allowed them to essentially take over my place.
I am going to remind him that it's MY place. I'm letting him stay there. I considered saying that to him today, just asking why he wouldn't be supportive over something that has no bearing on him. I literally asked him: "On the 4th of July for our cookout do you think that for dessert you can only make ONE pie, or we can have some fruit salad so we don't have the left overs that I'm going to binge on?" And he told me no. I don't understand, there are a total of TWO people who are going to eat the pie, isn't one pie enough lol. I further explained my reasoning, why having food like that was a problem for me right now, how I enjoy his cooking and would like to eat it but I can't because of what he uses to cook ...

Further, I told him about the Chipotle salad idea and how we could still go, and he laughed at me and said that sounded like it sucked.

Here's the kicker, when I first started making these MAJOR changes in November, he was so supportive. He's seen me personally lose at least 40lbs and sees how hard I work at losing weight daily. I just really fail to understand this sudden switch.

I'm just so shocked that was his response though. I don't understand the justification behind it at all. I really expected it to go differently. :(

I have one question....why?????

Originally Posted by Passionista:
Hmmm. "Semi -unsupportive"? Nope! 100% NOT supportive is more like it! I'd tell his loafing, pot smoking (or whatever he does in your studio you aren't comfortable with, including being a food pusher!), treat baking self to get to steppin'! :o

You deserve better than this, period. :hug:

Thanks.

I feel as though I've been overweight for so long, and pretty unhappy and finally I'm getting it together for good and it literally feels like he just doesn't want me to be happy.

Originally Posted by MissNibs:
I have one question....why?????

Because I'm too nice for my own good.

I think maybe if I explain a little more clearly maybe he'll understand? Or maybe if I put it in terms of, "I've done this for you, please do the same for me" he may do it. Further, if he realizes that his place to sleep will be jeopardized he'll probably start singing a different tune.

If not, I'll feel completely justified in telling him he's got to go.

He does understand, he's not stupid, he just doesn't care.

I would let him go regardless. You can explain till your mouth is blue- he's not going to change. He might for like a week or two but right now he's showing his true colors, that he doesn't support you, and you'll have this talk over and over and just end up being stressed out.

Originally Posted by beerab:
He does understand, he's not stupid, he just doesn't care.

I would let him go regardless. You can explain till your mouth is blue- he's not going to change. He might for like a week or two but right now he's showing his true colors, that he doesn't support you, and you'll have this talk over and over and just end up being stressed out.

Yes, this. It sounds like he doesn't care and he's taking advantage of you. Not a winning combination.

His choices are showing disregard for your health and your life. Why accept that in your own living space?