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Originally Posted by Natalia
I think the type of men who are rude pigs to overweight women, or treat them in an inferior manner, should be avoided once you're at goal. But the ones who were polite and friendly but just not attracted to an obese woman, I don;t think they should be condemned for it.
I think its natural to find someone fitter, healthier more attractive . Look at Mike from this season of TBL. I certainly didn't find him attractive at 520+ lbs. But at 250, he was far more attractive. I don't think that makes me a wicked person, so I can't set a diffeent standard for men.
I agree with this 100%. Because there is a difference between sexual attractiveness, and how much they like you as a person.
Statistics show that relationships work better and last longer when the parties are of similar body types. It just is how it is. And from a purely biological point of view, you shouldn't be attracted to (want to mate with) heavy people because it shows they are not healthy. We have too much of our survival instincts intact.
Yes, ideally, we fall in love purely over personality. But I'm not there yet. There is definitely a certain point where I would not be attracted to an over-weight man, so how can I begrudge them the same considerations?
All I can say is that I'm glad I met my husband when I was heavy. I don't have to worry about him leaving me if I gain weight in the future (heaven forbid). That would be my only concern with meeting someone who has a low tolerance for weight.