I didn't even know who Shakira was until I read through this thread, but I checked her out in the video in question, and all I can say is that there's absolutely no hope for women anywhere if this woman - in any way, shape or form - could be considered fat.

I would describe her as very slender, and I'd think I'd died and gone to heaven if at the end of my weight loss journey I had a body even half as sexy and toned as she does.

If I'd overheard a group of women saying that they thought she was fat, I'd have been incensed and insulted on behalf of women everywhere, and I can totally see where the BF is coming from.

It's bad enough when men (especially male fashion designers) try to suggest that to meet an impossible standard of beauty women need to be stick thin and androgynous.

That some women also feel the need to buy in to that cr*p instead of exposing it for what it is - the demeaning, undermining, and physical weakening of women - is pathetic and shameful.

Women damaging women has a long history (think chinese footbinding or women carrying out female circumcision in places like Egypt). We should know better. We should each do our bit to fight against it and to show a bit of sisterly solidarity, instead of running each other down or sticking the boot in. There are plenty of men ready and willing to do that, and we don't have to be a part of it.

This situation reminds me of when christina aguilera gained a little bit of weight back in the early 2000s and these two girls couldnt wait to say "christina aguilera got fat!"(mind you she just gained a little weight but still looked good) and these girls were well over 300 pounds a piece. Its like their self esteem was so low they had to try to make someone else feel bad. They also did that to people in real life too, in particular girls WAY smaller them . It bugged me because they would flip out if anyone made a comment about their weight, why go around being so critical of others. It was just wrong.

I just looked at the video and I'm more concerned about your friends and yourself thinking that Shakira looks fat. She looks absolutely gorgeous, athletic, and healthy. She doesn't even close to being overweight and with the way she can move it is obvious she is getting healthy exercise. She is what a real, healthy woman looks like. Thank god she doesn't appear to be starving herself like the majority of females in entertainment have been driven to do.

Before you even think about your boyfriends sensitive, defense reaction you really should consider how your image of what is "fat" has been warped. For your own good, because if you don't get a more realistic impression of what overweight looks like you are just setting yourself up for unhealthy, destructive behaviors in your own weight loss journey. The more our society reinforces the unhealthy and destructive view of those that are anorexic or too thin as the "ideal" the more all females will suffer physically and/or emotionally for it.