Quick question: Rude remark, or not?
 

At the clubhouse I go to, where lunch is provided but I bring my own, we are "auditioning" potential staff members to help in that department, by having them take a turn at helping to prepare and serve lunch. I mentioned to one of the applicants that I mean no offense by bringing my own lunch; it's just that I am on a very restrictive diet. Immediately another club member answered in a tone I couldn't quite read, "So am I. It's called don't eat so much."

For the record, not only am I trying to lose weight, but I am also diabetic *and* allergic to corn. I couldn't tell whether this was an innocent remark, and I'm being hypersensitive, or if this guy was being a smart-aleck.

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sounds rude to me. But whatever. If people get pleasure from being rude thats their karma

unless he was one of the people auditioning. In which case axe him.

What an A$$ Definetly being rude!
I do not care what tone he used ~IT WAS UNCALLED FOR!
I think his tone was one I use to hear alot back in school the bully tone I refer to as the "I AM A DUMB A$$ Tone" LOL!!
Ignore him~Bullys are just insecure & need someone to pick with to make thereselves feel like there more important than they are.

This is a tough one. Based on what he said, it's possible that he was actually poking fun at himself with his comment, with no intention of being rude to you (er, unless he was rail-thin or something). Otherwise, sounds like he was being either terribly insensitive (can you say "judgmental?") or flat-out smart-aleck rude.

Don't let folks like this get ya down, whatever their intentions!! ;)

i would have punched him in the face, but that's just me. :devil:

I think it was rude , maybe he just needs to be educated. I might have said "I'm diabetic" and must obey Doctor's orders.

I agree, even if it was innocent, someone needs an education, lol.

I guess his mistake was assuming all "restrictive diets" are for weight loss purposes. :)

Sometimes I really *am* hypersensitive, so I can never tell for sure when someone is actually being rude or not. But this does remind me of the time I mentioned to my sister that I may have discovered the secret to losing weight. My uncle, passing through the room during that conversation, put in, "Stop eating?"

I had been planning to say the secret was allowing for flexibility and not being too rigid about it. But really, Uncle? You actually want me to stop eating? That uncle is not exactly known for his tact. I couldn't tell if this was one of those things or not.

Thanks for the input everyone. Back to watching the action in Vancouver...

It certainly can sound rude when you read it on a computer screen, but I try to assume that people are not being rude and that they just have something going on I don't understand. It's hard to tell without being there and without hearing the tone/context (which you say you couldn't tell). He might have meant it as a joke and it just didn't come out right...or lots of other things.

hmmm..at first I absolutely thought that it was a rude snarky thing to say..but good point that another member said maybe they were poking fun at themself? but true, that doesn't take into consideration that weight loss is not the only reason to be on a restricted diet.

I'm not sure what I would have done. My gut reaction would be to do an incredulous stare and maybe say "Jack*ss" :D but I'm on day 5 of retail **** so I think I'm biased :devil:

but the 'stop eating' remark, especially from a family member?? sheesh.

It may have been rude. It may have been innocent.

Would it have changed your opinion of yourself or your plan?

As ennay said, it's his karma. Just let it roll off especially if you're not even sure he was being rude or not. ;)

it really sounds rude but the optimist in me wants to be mistaken. (I guess that doesn't really answer your question lol)

I think that you'd really have to be a class-A jerk to say something like this to somebody with the intent to be hurtful. It is my gut feeling that he was poking fun at himself and it came out kind of awkward. Sometimes what we mean to say and how it sounds to other ears can be two totally different things. If you know the guy, I would base my opinion on his usual behavior to judge whether he was capable of such baldfaced rudeness or not.