The things people say
 

I was going to make this a thread about pants, although I see I am not the only only one with this dilemma. I really don't want to buy bigger pants, because I think it keeps me focused on making them fit again, and then if I get a bigger size they are baggy in my legs. Does anyone know a flattering brand for people who tend to carry their weight in their stomach? I've been exercising like mad, but I still need to cut back.

Anyway, back to the point of my story, I was in a very trendy (are food stores trendy or just very expensive?), organic/natural food store. where the minimum price is $50 for a bag of chips, just kidding, but it is expensive, why do you shop there you may ask? Well my husband wants me too, and he foots the bill, so............yes this is going somewhere, I'm bending down, probably in my jeans that are a bit low, okay too low, way too low, and I hear "crack kills", she said it again, "crack kills", I think do I look like I am on crack?, Is she on crack? What is she talking about, and then she said, "my niece who is "so cute" says that", and "I couldn't resist when you bent over", and "sorry if I offended you", and off she strutted in her trendy clothes, oh actually I thought she was wearing a skirt that looked like grandmas, anyway nothing like a blow to your self esteem when you're spending $50 on lettuce, and then the cashier complimented my outfit, which I thought was pretty well coordinated, except maybe the jeans, from behind of course. I personally would never comment on any strangers appearance, but that's just me, how would you reply? I didn't know what to say, I guess I'll have to get new pants or longer shirts:o

Sorry to hear that this happened to you but geez people are rude!!! I probably would have been so shocked that I wouldn't have said anything either... Karma's a b.tch so let's hope someone is rude to her someday, is all I can say...

Oh, that was pure *****iness, not even any disguise. Not worth two seconds of you thinking about it. :hug:

well, that was very mean of her to do, and I for one thought of a few choice words to say about that, but I don't think the mods. would approve of me typing them down.

anyways, as for the pants, I tell my sister this all the time, why does the size of the pants matter so much as how to look in them and how you feel. I don't know how others feel, but I fo one don't like wearing tight jeans out in public. I get really self conscious of myself and how I look.

I do keep smaller jean sizes to try on every week or so, to see how they look on me, but I don't wear them out.

Well I have low self esteem what can I say? But who would think in that kind of environment, I could see excuse me, pull your shirt down, or zipper your zipper, but sheesh.

Thanks Mickey, good advice. Yeah I'm self conscious.

Wow, I just don't understand some people..I mean I know that we all pass judgment, but usually we are tactful enough not to say it out loud. What's the point? Just to belittle someone else...which I find very rude and distasteful. You know what? I feel sorry for people who have to insult or berate someone else just to make themselves feel good, I know that's so cliche but it's the truth. All I have is pity for that woman, and respect for you for not telling her that her outfit was horrible, even though you were thinking it.

mathgirl, if you could see the way people dress in my town, and people who go in the natural food stores, you would laugh, I mean "what not to wear" really needs to come here, lets just say people are big on tye die, and sweat pants, I think this person was not a local, I think I dress okay, although I could use new clothes, but yeah its not a good idea to make rude comments to people, she's lucky I'm sensitive and nice, although I really just wanted to get away from her and she hung out in my aisle for the longest time.

I just read that horror story thread, so yeah I guess some people love to say hurtful things. I had my share of it.

Crime and Punishment
 

rosemarie0007 - Sorry that happened to you; neat response to come here and vent instead of kicking her *** as she deserved.

But I'm really here to thank you for the Dostoevsky like sentence. It sucked me in. Hope you're a writer who's producing stuff like that all the time.

By-the-by, I just mentioned to my DW that I was disappointed the last time I encountered a "rear cleavage" because . . . because I just ignored it. Kinda common with today's jeans. It was only a couple of years ago when I'd have felt like I'd been flashed. Sigh.

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Some people are clueless when manners is involved! Sorry you had to bare the brunt of someone elses insecurities.

I have always been very much an apple shape carrying a lot more in my tummy than butt and legs and I always had good luck with Common Genes at JC Pennys. If anything the waist seems disproportionately bigger than the rest of the jeans.

I've told this story before - I used to work with a coworker who was just...passive aggressive. She made several hurtful comments but the one I remember the most is:

I was about 170 lbs, wearing a loooong tunic top over flowing pants. She said, "Every time you wear that, I always think you're pregnant."

Never wore THAT outfit again.

Well those are todays jeans. the "m0m jeans" make me look fatter, because they draw attention to my gut and are too big in other places, sigh gotta get rid of this gut, I'm planning a five mile hike this morning, yep 2.5 miles up.up, up and 2.5 down, its good because its kind of like a dirt road where you can move and not trip, and then there's a fire tower, what should I wear? LOL Well works been kind of slow so I figure I might as well take advantage, and kordkiwi thanks for the jeans advice, I was going to go there soon, they've been sending lots of good coupons, and I always do well there. I think I need some long tanks to wear underneath my shirt.

Sorry you had to deal with that. I would've given her a blank stare too. Even now, as an outsider to the situation, I can't think of anything witty to say except "And you are...?" Just to point out that she's a stranger. Maybe she did realize she put her foot in her mouth because she did say "sorry if I offended you." Someone who was bent on being spiteful might not have said that.

In any case, you can always lose the weight and be the awesome person you are, but these petty people are stuck with their crappy personalities. Takes a helluva lot more effort to change a black heart than a big bum. :)

Hey Glory I have a top just like that, I think I was drunk when I bought it, ha, ha, It actually looked okay when I was 20 ponds thinner, but last time I put it on, pregnant city, I guess those empire tops are okay if they're not flowy, heck they even make the young girls look preggers. Oh I guess you said tunic, but the empire ones can do the same thing, actually I tend to look better in a shirt that shows my waist, too long adds weight. I also wear a lot of jackets, that helps.

that girl sounds like a *****, did you get her license plate? I could run it for you....LOL

Haha omg my friends and I say that to each other but we would NEVER say that to a stranger! Maybe she thought she was being nice (FAIL) by alerting you to the fact that you needed to hike up your pants?

There should be a "People of Whole Foods" website to balance out "People of Walmart"...or maybe there already is.

I'm afraid my response to that would be:
Crack kills
Yeah? So do I! Then grin maniacally. :D

Hey great response Havisham. So I spent a whole lot of time last night looking at the hilarious people of Walmart. Does that make me as bad as her? No.. because I wouldn't say negative comments to some stranger, but really they should have the hilarious people of whole foods page.

Havisham...I loved that come back. I'm horrible with comebacks. I usually just tell them to go f themselves! ;) I'm really a nice person, but if someone offends me, I might just say something nasty and feel guilty about not being more classy! ;)

Rosemarie, just shake it off. Someone who doesn't have the tact to handle seeing a little butt crack has got some serious issues and I do believe that Karma will eventually come back to bit her in her ***! ;) Hahahaha!

An *adult* said that to you? People can shop in the ritziest of places, but it doesn't automatically give them any class.

I don't even think about comebacks anymore. They're not even necessary. Just looking them in the eye with an incredulous look and walking away shaking your head will instill more shame in them than anything you could ever say. Silence speaks louder than words.

I'm one of those who wears high-cut bikinis out of fear that I'll show some crackage. I had a pair of DKNY jeans once that fit most awesomely, until I shrunk too much I had to give them away. It was the only time I've ever regretted losing weight. I'm sure I could get another pair, but I can't bring myself to spend over $40 on jeans these days. I'll wait till I'm down another size or two. But if you're in the market to spend a little, I loved my DKNY Soho jeans. Find yourself a pair and be in bliss. :) They go up to i think a 16 at Macy's or Dillard's - I forget which.

Hey thanks ! The brand I was wearing was lucky brand, and they fit perfect last Christmas. They cost $100 and my husband bought them. But they're kind of tight right now. I'm kind of broke right now, but hopefully I can get some money together.I'll keep the recommended brands in mind, maybe I'll check out the local consignment, our local store looked like it had good stuff.

Nah, I'm not really bothered that much by what she said, its just I was tormented so much as a kid,(not about weight, but anything the kids could think of), that it automatically effects me, and really its rare for an adult to say anything, I don't look that bad except for some extra weight,and some of my childhood physical problems are gone(you know, like glasses acne, braces) but I thought it was funny story, with the thoughts that went through my head, who's on crack, you lady?

I never can come up with a good comeback either , but I have read where someone will respond with "Do you realize you said that out loud ? " I have never tried that, though. I usually just give a shocked but innocent look. you know , that "Who me ? "

I thought of another:
Crack Kills
Really? That's terrible. Have you considered rehab?

Or:
Crack Kills
Hmm...only class, apparently.

I have to say, though, that the supercilious look down your nose and walk away shaking your head is also priceless.

Luckymommy - sometimes a good F Off is the only response. And it's all in the delivery. I'm a good person (unless you cross me) but sometimes that's the only response that some people deserve. Think of it as a public service - maybe that person has never been told that before - you could be opening their eyes to a whole new world! :D

FWIW, one day I was in a mall with DH, and there was a woman with a BANGIN body squatting down. An elastic "whale tail" with "Victoria's Secret" printed on it was sticking out from her white pants. "Not Secret enough," whispered DH! We both laughed!

You know a few years back there was this bartender at this place I used to hang out who wore her thong way above her pants, was that a style say back in 2003?

Sorry that you had a run-in with a creep at the store. If I wasn't in too much shock, I would have probably just glared at her.

On the jeans, I've found that Gloria Vanderbilt seems to flatter my apple shape. I haven't paid full price for them, but I've run across a few at thrift stores. Good luck!