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Thinking about the change

Just sitting here thinking about the change when I actually do lose all this weight. I was never a big kid or teenager. The weight started piling on me in my 20's mainly just because I love food and hated exercising. After the weight gain, I would still get comments on how pretty I am. Yeah, my face. Not my body anymore. Well I have always been well endowed in the chest area. I am thinking how much my life will be different after I lose all this weight. I will get people staring at me for being beautiful, not because I am big or fat. I don't know how I will react. To be able to walk into a store that is not made for plus size women. To be able to buy my bras at a regular store that doesn't just sell gigantic sizes. It is really exciting to think about but very scary at the same time. I won't know what to do with myself being the way I use to be. Wow...that is all I can say.

You'll know what to do when you get there. Just keep pluggin away and you won't have to dream about it anymore...it will be reality! :carrot:

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Originally Posted by wamama (Post 2901123)

I was never a big kid or teenager. The weight started piling on me in my 20's mainly just because I love food and hated exercising.

this is also what happened to me. its so embarrassing because i was thin until about 4 years ago.. then i put on TONS of weight. since i was thin my whole life, now when i see someone i havent seen in years i can see the shock in their face no matter how tactful they are trying to be.

oh well, another year or so and they'll be saying how good i look!! ;)

Exactly, that is what I am saying. Another year or so and no one will be able to think or call me fat.

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Originally Posted by wamama (Post 2901301)

Exactly, that is what I am saying. Another year or so and no one will be able to think or call me fat.

yep ;)

you'll have the last laugh.

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Originally Posted by wamama (Post 2901123)

I don't know how I will react. To be able to walk into a store that is not made for plus size women. To be able to buy my bras at a regular store that doesn't just sell gigantic sizes. It is really exciting to think about but very scary at the same time. I won't know what to do with myself being the way I use to be. Wow...that is all I can say.

I won't lie, it's been a long period of adjustment for me. Having never been thin before, I wasn't quite sure how to react to new situations... to being helped, smiled at, hit on... the world certainly treats you differently when you're thin, and if you're not accustomed to it you might find it a wee bit overwhelming at first. But eventually, you learn, you habituate, you grow into your new life. And trust me, even though it won't be perfect, you'll absolutely love it.

It's interesting to think about. I am tall (obviously) so I kind of stood out before because of that. I got married at 19 and I was also pretty thin until I had my kids when I was 24 and 26. After kids, I gained and kept gaining, and was pretty chunky when I got divorced 13 years ago (yikes!). So I haven't really experienced life as a slim, single woman. I am not sure how I'm going to react to getting hit on (if it happens, please God). I'm noticing more second glances from men now, but I'm never sure why....are they thinking, "Wow, she's tall" or are they thinking, "Wow, she's pretty" or are they thinking, "I should stop at the hardware store for paint thinner on the way home" and not really seeing me at all?

I do know this: I am starting to remember what it feels like to be slim. I'm still 40 pounds away from my pre-baby weight but I'm starting to remember what it feels like to be healthy and slim. And I think I'm gonna like it.

I remember when I was fairly slim, I have always been kind of curvy but nicely shaped. I had more guys hitting on me then I could handle! I am married now and I will just have to beat those guys off with a stick when this happens LOL..my husband already thinks I am beautiful, he can't keep his hands off me now....oh lord what am I in for :)

This is something I think about a lot...how things will change in my everyday life when I am slim. I'm sure you're all aware of this, but I am shocked every single day by the ways people avoid me and are rude to me. Sometimes I don't even think they realise it - they give me dirty looks in the street, stand rather than sit next to me on the bus - the thought that when I'm slim strangers might be nice to me. The thought that men might hit on me rather than laugh at me is such a thought. Men have absolutely no interest in me at all, so I'm interested to see how that will change once I'm a bit slimmer! I'm sure it will be a very exciting time.

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Originally Posted by wamama (Post 2901123)

Having "almost" been there before, the 1st time I went to the mall to buy 14/16's (regular sizes), I was completely lost...I had no idea how to shop for myself at that size. I left the mall with a few pieces, but was strangely depressed...I felt like I hadn't "really" accomplished anything at all.

The reason I'm telling you this little story of mine is that I later realized the reason for my depression was because I was still the same size as I was before MENTALLY.

Think about it...we have lived for "x" years as we are and we are accustomed to it. We know what styles work for ourselves as we are, but, most importantly, we know what styles will NOT work as well (most of us do, anyway).

We ALSO are accustomed to how a lot of people react to us, so we go about with our eyes averted, head down, and just try to get through the day.

It can be difficult to change that mindset.

My point (and I "do" have one), is this...when you get there, ENJOY IT! When someone pays you a compliment, hold your head up, look 'em straight in the eye, and, with a big old grin, accept it!

Enjoy the new you...I know, this time, I will!

S

yea i always find myself daydreaming all the time....