And for free, you can go to the library or bookstore and wonder around. Go to a park for a walk. Just some suggestions.

And the problem is? Consider this your advantage that you don't have to cook for your bf during the week. So often I read complaints from other chickies on the forum that it is hard to eat clean when husband or kids (or both) demand different kinds of meals. I honestly don't know how they do under such circumstances! I lost weight completely on my own and if I could do it, so can you. Eat clean and healthy during the week. Why would you need anybody to do that? Make sure you cook more than you need so that you have leftovers for the time when your BF is around and maybe wants to have a huge bowl of pasta or fat burgers off the grill.
It is so much easier to do it on your own - after all, you really are accountable only to yourself - it's your body and your health.

How about finding a part-time job? Just to get out there? How about taking some college classes? How about volunteering for your Food Bank or at the library?

And Ms Tomato is right -- I was my MOST successful when my DH was deployed overseas -- I only had myself to worry about with respect to diet and exercise schedule and I was able to really kick some butt.

Kira

Bravo Tomato!! I agree with this :)

I understand where you are coming from. My husband is deployed (and even when he's not, he's away at training a LOT). I know my weight gain through the years has been my own fault, but being alone so much has certainly been a HUGE factor. If you are at all prone to eating out of boredom, being alone multiplies that risk by 100! (IMO)

First, remove all unhealthy food from the kitchen. If it's not there, you can't eat it. To keep from over-doing it on the healthy stuff (as I have done on occassion), close the kitchen after dinner and go to another section of the house. If I sit in the livingroom and watch TV, I will almost ALWAYS, venture into the kitchen eventually. :( If I go upstairs to my ROOM, it's much easier to stay there. Also, since TV is a big trigger for a lot of people, see if you can't find something else to do w/your evenings. Read a book. Do a different beauty treatment each night, crossword puzzles etc.

If you have nothing to break up your days while your BF is away (which can lead to depression), joining a gym, finding work, book clubs, etc would probably be a good idea. Long term boredom is not healthy physically or mentally.

Peek in here a lot too. I'm pretty new here, but when I'm feeling like i just can't stick to my program, 30 minutes of reading posts usually re-motivates me.

Hang in there!

Tomato is right, I found it very hard to lose when I would make myself something and then have to cook a southern meal for the kids and husband. Very difficult because there was temptation and comfort foods all around me. Plus, it was also hard finding 'my time' with caring for them, by cleaning, laundry, kids schooling and activities......on and on.

Take this alone time while you have it and get on a good healthy routine. Get rid of the comfort foods in your house. Join a YMCA, or other club to get active and meet new friends. You can do this and DO IT FOR YOU!

I gotta tell you, I too am under the belief that you can and SHOULD use this to your advantage. I (stupidly) kept pushing tackling my weight till "my kids were older" and didn't require as much from me. Of course that was silly. Without having to focus on kids or a husband or BF (most of the time), and just yourself - well really that is the IDEAL situation, IMO. Losing weight, consistently takes a lot of determination, hard work and yes, focus. You've got you and you alone for large chunks of time, time to focus on you- use that time wisely.


Support is a wonderful thing, don't get me wrong. But losing weight I have found to be one of the most solo things in the world. I'm the one planning, shopping, chopping, dicing, cooking, cleaning it up. I'm the one making the right choices, avoiding the bad ones, not giving in to temptation. I'm the one exercising (all by my lonesome) and keeping active. It's all me, me and ME. No one else required.

Challenge yourself. Make it an adventure. Use your time to find exercise that you love or at least tolerate. Use the time to educate yourself on good nutrition. Use the time to discover new foods and wonderful recipes. Use the time to learn new healthy behaviors and coping skills. Ones that will last you a lifetime. Use the time to delve and seek out ways to make this work.

Hey hun. I totally understand. My family all lives down in Texas & I moved far away from them up here in New York. I know no one here. I have zero friends. I am also agoraphobic which means it is very very difficult for me to go out and meet new people.

I don't work during the summer, and when I do work it is just for 2 hours a day. My husband works all day long, and we are on completely different schedules. He sleeps all day, wakes up & goes to work then comes home late and stays up all night. Where as I wake up early in the morning and go to bed like alittle after he gets home.

It is so easy to slack off or to pig out when no one else is there. It can be your little secret. It doesn't count if no one is there to see you eat it right? lol There is also the complete boredom that comes from being alone. And being bored just drives me to snack, almost nonstop.

I talk to my family online & on the phone a bit and we are helping each other with the weightloss support but I so wish I had someone here with me to do it all with me often.

For me I have found that having a definite plan works the best. I need to be completely anal about it and work out my days events or I will get distracted or bored. Set daily goals. One good thing about being alone is you have a bit of freedom to be weird or make a fool of yourself without anyone else knowing lol. Which makes it easier to dance around while I clean house. Or try out new exercises which I could not be less graceful at lol. It also does mean keeping food around that is healthier and not being as tempted at what others are eating. I found I do much much better on the days my husband works lol

Just stick to it, stay focused. Try to journal everyday. Alot of the times being alone we don't get alot of our feelings out and I think that hurts us, so journaling helps alot. Also thank heaven for these message boards. Forums are a life saver to make friends, and share your concerns, and feelings with other like minded people in the same situation!

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Due to my hubby's work, I am alone every night during the week. To top it off, we live in the sticks, so there is nothing/nobody around. All of my friends live in the city, so I understand how you feel about isolation.

For me, I have lots of hobbies that take up time, that I do alone. I have a treadmill, so I use that too, and also do my workout vids here at home. Sometimes I just go for a nice long walk outside. Checking in here also occupies some time and helps me a lot.

Do you have any little hobbies that you do, or would like to learn? Someone suggested meetup .. perhaps you could check that out and hook up with others with some similar interests, be it walking, fitness, or arts and crafts.

Good luck with this. You can do it :)

I am alone most of my time as well and I actually see it as a blessing. I can base my meals and snacks 100% on me, no worrying about pleasing other people that I'm cooking for or being influenced/persuaded by their eating habits or anything like that. Also because of this alone time I have time to exercise, I have time for me! I go to the gym and have met some fun and interesting people there.

If you dont like your life, change it! With you bf's travel, it will be so easy for you to find all kinds of things to partake in. Open your heart and realize the possibilities! There are plenty of women out there just like yourself. The food fixes nothing. Make the decision that you are worth it and that life isn't working the way you have it--or at least it isn't working well enough for YOU! Take care of yourself and your environment as you would for a person you loved and held dearly!

As of a week and a half ago, I am in a new city and living all alone for the first time in my life. To be honest, it has been AWESOME for my weight loss. I grocery shop after I've eaten a meal so I don't impulse buy, and so I only bring healthy food into the house. When I get bored and want to eat out of boredom, I walk out the door and go exploring.

For a long time I had trouble because I lived with my parents and we ate out a lot, and I have trouble controlling myself at restaurants. Living alone, I take care of all of my own meals, and it's easy to keep them healthy. If I crave ice cream or sweets, I drink some water, because there aren't any ice cream or sweets to be had.

I'm just saying what other people have said. You can use your situation to help you instead of hurt you.

thanks guys for all the suggestions/support! ;)