Over the past 2-1/2 years I've lost almost 60 pounds. I'm thinner now than I have been in 14 years. I'm also more active than I've ever been, I work out almost everyday in some form.
I've been married for 8 years to a man who can only be described as a couch potato. He's got high blood pressure, and needs to lose at least 50-60 pounds. He smokes at least a pack a day, and drinks way too much. Drinking is his way of dealing with stress (high stress job). It's not always an everyday thing, but I'd say at least 4 nights out of 7. Besides the high blood pressure, he's also being treated for depression/anxiety. And I think he has sleep apnea, but he won't bring it up with his doctor.
As I've lost weight, I've changed my cooking habits, so he should/could have lost some weight as time progressed, but instead, he's gained at least 20 pounds. He makes horrible lifestyle choices and I've finally come to understand that there's nothing I can do to change that. I've invited him to go walk with me. I've paid for gym memberships, I've signed him up (at his request) to use the indoor basketball court at the local college. He's done absolutely nothing. I think he got on the treadmill 3 times?
He complains all the time about how awful he feels, but he isn't actually going to do anything about it. He says he'll be dead within 12 years (he's 38).
I do all the house and yardwork, the shopping, cooking, etc. Besides working fulltime, I find time to do everything and still have enough energy to want to do things outside the house. He does nothing around the house except watch TV, and play video games. Most of the time when we make plans, they get cancelled, because "he's tired". It's to the point where I'm no longer interested in listening to him complain. I feel like our lifestyles are so different, and honestly I'm not willing to compromise on my newfound health to sit on the couch with him and vegetate.
I think the basic difference is that at 38, he feels his life is almost over, and at 38 (later this month), I feel like mine is just beginning again.
Sorry for the long ramble, I just wondered if anyone else experienced this after weight loss. I know the divorce statistics for weight loss surgery patients is high, but I wasn't sure about those who've lost without surgery.