Please do not take this as being on your husbands side, because I cannot imagine how frustrating it must be for you and you certainly should not allow him to bring you back down.
However, when you look back on your own journey I am sure there must have been times when although you wanted to lose weight, although you wanted to be healthier, you just didn't commit to the actions necessary to do it. And thinking about yourself in those years, in that frame of mind, would someone trying to force you to do something have helped? My guess is no, because most of us resist that kind of pressure.
To be honest, he sounds very deeply depressed and as a person with clinical depression for most of my life, there are times when merely getting out of bed and having a shower and dressing properly are successes for me. That may sound pathetic, but it is hard when all you really want to do is lay in bed and hope to die.
It sounds like he has no passion for his life left. What about trying to subtley bring him around with things that he would like? If he's into video games, why not buy yourself the Wii fit and play it and let him see how much fun you are having - maybe he will do it with you, because he will be enticed. What about purchasing a stationary bike for at home? I know that I have a hard time going to the gym because I feel so inadequate compared to the others there, and those are the days I use my equipment at home even if only for twenty minutes.
I would try to be creative around things he likes so it doesn't take him much initial effort, but once he sees how much fun it is he might be more inclined to be more active.
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