OK DEAR....You heard all the advice....all good...

you need a new game plan to proceed with your weight loss and relationship...

one that empowers you....

You can do this...

We got your back!

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I KNEW IT!!! I knew you would do the right thing! You are just too strong now to turn back. And you know that, too. I got your number Chunky, lol. And I am glad to hear that there are no broken plates to speak of, hehe.

I hope that you and your BF can work this through and happily move forward. You know we are here for you!

No advice, but most sincere :hug:

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You are an awesome woman.
You just don't seem to have caught up with that idea yet. Not an uncommon problem on this forum;)

Thanks so much everyone for the support and encouragement, all of you are awesome :hug::hug::hug:

I did manage to ask my boyfriend last night why he didn't ask his dad to come in and he said this -

"I do not want to have it be about a meeting. I don't want to have you on display and make you uncomfortable. If he had asked to come in, I would not have stopped him but I did not want to direct him in to meet you. I just couldn't do that to you."

Now those weren't exact words cause I didn't write it down as he said it but that is pretty close. I do feel better now and I guess that is what matters, eh?

Thanks again everyone!!

Lots of love
Michelle

I still don't understand....why didn't you just go out and introduce yourself. I mean if its that nerve racking....get it over with!

Glad your day wrapped up successfully! You guys will work this out. Big hugs and keep working at it. You'll find your way through it.

Peg

Thank you, Peg :hug:

oh yay! See chic, your bf had your best interest at heart. But remember, if YOU had stepped outside the outcome would have been different. I like it that bf put it in your hands--that was considerate.

Believe me--that's going to take GUTS. I know you have them. You are a strong woman. I've dealt with social anxiety my whole life. I simply ignore my racing heart, sweaty palms, and "nobody's going to like you" voice in my head--and shove myself out there.

It was 100 times worse, because I knew we had been lying to his parents for so long. I felt justified in lying--they shouldn't have tried to keep us apart, but at the same time, I was afraid of conflict. We finally met at the hospital on SO's day to have surgery for a hernia. I remember being in the room and hearing their footsteps and feeling like I wanted to run as fast as I could. They had not liked me from the beginning. Thankfully his grandfather was there, and he was a sweet and Christian man who made me feel very welcome.

You will find the courage to meet them. I am so proud of you for having a resolving talk with your bf, I know that can be hard for someone who hates conflict!

Thanks once again, Jennifer. You are the bestest :D :hug:

You are the bestest and my inspiration!

Awww thank you. You know I feel the same about you :D ♥

Originally Posted by chunkychic:
I take a deep breath and I am ready to meet his dad and I tell my boyfriend this. I am nervous but not afraid.

Originally Posted by chunkychic:
If he had asked to come in, I would not have stopped him but I did not want to direct him in to meet you. I just couldn't do that to you."

See, I'm just not getting this. He's not making sense.

Well, he is an idiot, I am afraid :shrug::lol:


Seriously though, I can't try to pick it apart and figure it out anymore, for my own sanity and emotional well being. I just figure, it will happen when it happens and I should stop stressing. I know that though I also know getting to that point may take some time.

Thank you, Julie :hug: