What is your inspiration?
 

Why are you losing weight? What is your inspiration to do so? Is it for your kids? Is it for your family? Is it for yourself? Or is it for your health? I am just wondering why?
I haven't been able to pin point why I am wanting to lose weight so I think that is why I can't or am having trouble losing weight or starting the process to lose weight. i have always heard don't do it for anyone else but yourself. But when you can't decide if that is who you want to do it for then why do you lose weight?
This isn't anything anyone has to answer just me rambling on and dwelling in my on sorrows about not doing what i need or should be doing. I am really down and depressed i have tried this and that i think the real thing is an underlying issue that i have yet to deal with.

So Thank you fro listening to me Ramble and dwell in my sorrow.....
:(

Sincerely,
:?: Confused:?:

Hi Crystal, welcome to 3FC!

It sounds like you're over thinking this. People are always saying 'lose weight for yourself and no-one else' but have you ever noticed that these people have no experience of weight loss? Or at least in my experience they haven't.

The truth is, there are many reasons for losing weight, personally I'm losing weight because I was worried about where my weight gain was heading and figured I should do something about it before I developed health issues. I was uncomfortable in my own body and very aware of society's expectations of women my age. So my journey started for a number of reasons, and I couldn't honestly say that I'm doing it just for me, because I am aware of what other people think and I do enjoy the compliments I've been getting on my weight recently, it's nothing to be worried about.

Try not to struggle over one reason why you want to lose weight, think about the many ways it will make you feel better and you'll get your answers :)

Hope this made you feel better, if you ever need any support, feel free to pm me :D

HI CRYSTAL,

SORRY YOUR SO DOWN :cry:AND CONFUSED:?: IT IS A TERRIBLE FEELING:barf: I WAS FEELING THE SAME WAY THEN SOMETHING INSIDE ME JUST CLICKED:carrot: I WAS READY TO FINISH WHAT IVE STARTED:D WHEN I 1ST STARTED MY JOURNEY I WAS 230 PDS:mad: NOW I'M 162.4:cheer3: IT HAS TAKEN ME YEARS TO GET WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW :yes:HOWEVER I DO HAVE TO ADMIT AS WELL THAT I LOVE:val1: THE POSITIVE REMARKS I HAVE GOTTEN PLUS MY WORKOUTS:tread: ARE A BIG DEAL TO ME HOWEVER I HAVE JUST STARTED BACK UP THIS WEEK BECAUSE I HAVE GOTTEN LAZY MYSELF :shrug:YOU HAVE TO WANT TO MAKE THE CHANGE, A LIFE CHANGE:D:lol: I DON'T CALL IT DIET ANYMORE IT HAS TO BE A CHANGE OF LIFE :joker: KINDA LIKE THE FACTS OF LIFE:smug: (WANTED TO MAKE YOU SMILE THERE):carrot:YOU WILL BE JUST FINE:cool: WHEN YOU READY YOUR READY:carrot: DON'T FORCE YOURSELF:dizzy: ALL OF US HAVE GOOD DAYS BAD DAYS:^: UP/DOWN DAYS:dizzy: SOME DAYS WE DON'T EVEN CARE:mad: WE ALL HAVE THOSE DAYS EVER ONCE IN AWHILE:p CHEER UP:D YOUR GOING TO DO THIS SOONER THEN YOU THINK:yay:

My inspiration or reason for losing weight is because I am TIRED of being fat, I'm TIRED of not wanting to take pictures cuz I feel fat, and I'm TIRED of making myself squeeze into clothes.

I WANT to be thin and healthy, I WANT to take more pictures and be happy with what I see, and I WANT to wear clothes that fit and look nice!

Thank You
 

THANK YOU!!:carrot:
Thank you for the replies... it has made me smile :) and it helps to know that there are others who know what your going through, how you feel, and that can help.
Crystal :)

My inspiration is "Hot for Vegas". My darling husband and I are going to Vegas next year for our 10 year anniversary, and I want to be hot.

My reasons for losing weight are similar to one of the posters above me – I’ve just had enough! I’ve been “fat” since childhood, and I’m ready to see what I was SUPPOSED to look like ;). However, I honestly don’t have a 100% definitive answer for: Why do you want to lose weight? Because of this I’ve been meaning to do something I heard about a few years ago (think I saw it on Oprah). You ask yourself, Why do I want to lose weight, or why do I want to be thin? This answer could be very vague like “I want to look good” or “I’m tired” or “I want to be healthy”. Then you ask yourself a question about that answer such as “Why do I want to look good?” “Why don’t I want to be tired anymore?”, or “Why do I want to be healthy?”. You just keep going with this process until in theory you will eventually come to the real reason why YOU personally want to lose weight. Sounds like this activity might be helpful for you; I’ve been putting it off (because I’m not sure I want the answer :/) but I’m game if you are ;).

I'm Game
 

I will go through the process then post it on here.
Thank you
Crystal Hay

I want to be finally healthy for my self and my hubby.

We've been trying to get pregnantfor a year now and nothing's happening. A week ago I got sick and found I lost 10 lbs in just a week. It was a great motivation. Now, I've decided to do away with my pills (I have PCOS) and concentrate on losing weight first.

I'm cutting on my carb intake and now doing some cardio work out. It's diffucult given that I've never been into much physical activity for most of my life. Hopefully I'll stuck with my plan for good. :p

Do it for yourself.
That's what I finally had to tell my dh and myself. My mom always tell me that after you go through menopause, its very hard to maintain your weight. The last thing I want is to take this weight and have to deal with it and having a heck of a time to lose it. I would rather lose it now and have to maintain my goal/ideal weight then.

What is onederland

It's when you reach under 200lbs, a super milestone and then there's twoderville, which is under 300lbs. :)

losing weight for me, and to be around for my baby girl, also to look sexy for my man!

I want to be healthy... I'm tired of a lifetime of health problems.

I want to be fit... I enjoy being energetic and un-fatigued.

I want to be able to buy clothes I like without feeling like crap.

I'm tired of being that girl with the pretty face and awesome personality... but uhhh on the body.

I want to do it for the guy I finally found that loves me for who I am and doesn't mind if I don't change...... he's so great I want to be even better because he deserves way better.

I just want to be happy!!!

Me, me, me. I am letting myself be completely and unashamedly selfish in this process. I want this for myself. I am going to give myself this precious gift.

I am 100% with Lisa!! In our many roles as women (wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, etc.), we are socialized to put others' needs before ours. To that I have to JUST SAY NO!! I put myself first, meaning I made my health my #1 priority, two years ago and I've lost almost 70 pounds. This was NOT magic-- it was predominantly from meal planning and *more importantly* following through on that plan, along with working out. You can do it too!! The bottom line that really made it *click* with me was that I am not being the best sister, daughter, and friend by not being my BEST SELF. This is true for all of us!! Decide that you are worth it, and get after it, girl!!

To be through w/this battle of weight
To be able to wear whatever I want
To have more selfconfidence
To be healthy
To be the best I can
To look the best I can
To be stronger than the temptation of food
To look in the mirror&like what I see
To not hear comments&remarks about my weight

Cute clothes

My hubby lost a bunch of weight and I don't feel like I measure up to him in the looks dept anymore. It is doing crazy things to my self confidence. That is one of the main reasons for me to undergo this. I know it sounds competitive. But my hubby is completely supportive of my efforts.

I'm doing it because I'm fed up with NOT feeling good/healthy/fit/confident/sexy/hot/cute.

I want all those things and I WILL have them.

I agree with you Lisa. For once in my life, "its all about me!" Someone made me realize that I put myself "on the back burner" so to speak and I needed to put myself on the front and on high! lol. ;)

I want to lose weight because I know what I look like at 160 lbs. And I have to say it was pretty smokin! I loved being able to shop at Old Navy or Abercrombie and know that I could actually wear stuff there and look decent, not stuffed into the dang clothes. I took a pic the other day and it was horrible. I looked like I was wearing one of those ring floaties under my shirt. Just perfectly round between my chest and my hips.

My husband loves me the way I am but I know he would like it if I lost weight. I want my husband to be proud of me. To want to show me off. I want my son to be proud of me too. Not ashamed because his friends say stuff about my weight. Kids can be so mean and I don't want him to pay the price for that. He has enough to take care of without adding that.

And last, I want to be healthy. Not in an "OMG she's freakishly muscular and anorexic!" kind of way but not tired all the time decent food and active.

Different stokes for different folks ya'll. Don't stress over the whys. Just know that ultimately, it affects no one more than you so do what is best FOR YOU. Not mom, dad, b/f, husband, kid, sister, fido, or doctor. Just you, quirks and all.

SexyBak -- I understand how you feel. I know what I look like at 170 and I was pretty "smokin' hot" too. Now would I want to look like that again? HECK YES! Will I? I dunno but I am sure gonna try my hardest!!!! lol.

I wish you Luck and I know you can do it! :D

:hug:

It`s got to be clothes for me! I love fashion and would be able to buy anything rather than thinking: "That`s great but not on a woman like me!"

I want to lose this weight more than anything first and foremost so I can stop talking about losing weight. My God, I've been going on about losing weight since I was 13 years old and here I am at 43 and fatter than I've ever been. It's ridiculous!:mad:

I want the imagine I have in my head to fit the reality.
I want to look sexy in Victoria Secret clothes
I want to be healthy and not be diabetic like my mother and others in my family are.
I want to be able to do things outside like hiking, biking, and swimming
I want to tuck a shirt in, wear something sleeveless, actually go out in public wearing shorts, put on a swimsuit, sexy lingerie, high heels, etc!
I want to be naked while not sucking my stomach in. As if that helps anyway.
I want family and friends to be wowed by my hotness.

Finally, I want to do this for the love of my life, Joe. Joe has accepted me, loved me, encouraged me, and believed in me. All he asked when we got together three years ago was that I get fit and healthy so we can live a long life together. I HAVE to make that happen for him!

I'm doing it for me.
For 2 reasons:
1) I want to be more comfortable in my skin. I've always been overweight but never really had long lasting body image issues (it would only hit me at the beach for example). But i've felt myself let go recently and constantly having to pull my shirt down when I sit down to make sure all my fat rolls are covered so I kind of went "WAIT A MINUTE... this is getting out of hand" ok, ok I'm rambling.. bottom line: I want to feel like i can move freely in my body
2) My health. It's embarrassing to walk up the stairs at school with classmates and feel out of breath after one floor! I want to be healthy.

If my bf likes it, it's even better but the only person who will make me lose weight is me so the only person i could do this for is me.

Good luck!!:hug:

I want to buy whatever clothes I want from whatever store.

I'm not having anymore fat sex.

OMG! ROFL! FAT SEX! HAHHAAA!!!!...Wait...HAHAHAHAHAHA!

That is soooo freaking true! I hate to jiggle and that is prime jiggle time.

-I want to fit into all the new clothes that I bought before I got pregnant last year.
- I've been consistently gaining weight (close to 30lbs!) since my daughter was born in September. Since I'm home all day I tend to eat all day out of boredom. I don't want to gain anymore!
-I want my daughter to look at me as an example of good health as she grows up. My mother was always on a diet it seemed so I have always been very conscious of my weight. Even going through a period in high school were I would barely eat. I don't want my daughter to be preoccupied about her weight when she's growing up because it's no fun.
- I want to be hot! :)

I think about what motivates me to do a lot of things in my life and I wonder sometimes what people mean when they say "what is the REAL reason?" For pretty much anything I do, I can come up with a half dozen reasons and not all of them are entirely noble. So I don't think about it too much. I just enjoy the changes I've seen in my looooonnnnng weight loss journey.

I'm doing it for myself :)

My inspiration is LIFE! I want to live life, and enjoy it. I also want to fully be able to enjoy, and be there for my husband and my daughter. And also, ya know, I'd LOVE to shop in the 'skinny girls' department!

My motivations and inspirations are definitely not noble and I'm definitely not proud of them. I wish I could say I'm doing it for my health or my family but the truth is I want to look good in clothes. When I think about eating something that's not on plan, I think about my jeans and the cute tops hanging in my closet and the cute gym clothes that I love to wear when I'm working out and that keeps me going. I used to feel bad about not having altruistic reasons for losing weight but that didn't help matters at all. So I let myself be motivated by what really works, even though I'm not proud of it.

Pam

As long as it works for you and will keep you on plan, then that's fine! My motivation is my kids. I remember one year I couldn't take them trick or treating because I knew I couldn't walk those blocks. It was just not possible. Also my daughter didn't want me to get out of the car when I picked her up from school because she was ashamed not to mention that the walk which was just a couple of yards, had me sweaty and my heart racing. I also was tired of going to plus sized stores and finding that I couldn't wear those clothes! Hello I was too big for the plus sized dresses and skirts. I knew that I had hit rock bottom then. I was tired of not being able to get up off of the sofa without help and not playing with my kids when I took them to the park. I broke a toilet seat once at home and I then was relegated to squatting over the seat so I wouldn't break it again. My boyfriend was so understanding but I was beyond mortified and embarassed. I was tired of being that fat mom that would just sit like a bump on a log and not move because my feet hurt and I was just tired. I was tired of being miserable and wanting to break down all the time. I was just tired of so much. It ruined my relationship with my boyfriend (no doubt) and although I love my husband very much I also thought my boyfriend was the one. We had so much in common and he was the best looking guy I had ever been with. He was never ashamed of me being so much bigger than he is and I always will appreciate that even when his co workers gave him grief about being with a "big girl". He would just shrug his shoulders and say so what? Anyway I was tired of my life in general and it stopped me from being the best that I could be. I was also tired of my health just being in the toilet. No circulation and painful joints were the worst. I thank God every day that he gave me the ephipany to see that I was slowly killing myself and that I woke up and made those changes in time. :)

WOW!! This post was not intended to be commented on I was just like to said feeling sorry for myself and laying in selfpity. This post has really helped me and I see that is has helped all you! I thank you for the post and the continued post. I have seen the reasons and whys' everyone has decided to lose weight and I see somethings in yall's post on why i want to lose weight. Thank you for the support and motivation, KEEP up the GOOD Work and REACH those GOALS!!!
Crystal :)

So I can live the life I want to live.

ROFLMAO on the fat sex thing!!!