Ms Drina, I see what you are saying, but I think the terminology reflects where your mindset is.
I guess I think of it this way. I am on WW. I can eat what I want as long as I account for it. I`ve decided to eat out once or twice a week. I plan for the meal and adjust my points accordingly. This is not a "cheat meal". This is part of my long term plans.
I used to be on Medifast. This was a highly restrictive diet with severely restricted carbs. Nothing wrong with it if this is your choice. However, a dinner of Fettucine Alfredo is COMPLETELY out of the question if you want to be "on plan". One meal like this, or say at the DQ, or of perogies, is definitely a "cheat meal". And on Medifast, it is really, really hard to recover from such a meal even if it is once a week due to the metabolic structure of the diet (going into and out of ketosis regularly).
So, I think sematics ARE important, because it seems that the original post indicates a weekly intention to go significantly outside of the range of her chosen eating plan. And this is hard to do. However, as most have said, if this kind of caloric variation is PART of the plan, then it isn't a "cheat meal".
Ms. Breannaj must be wrestling with this too, or this wouldn't be an issue as the intended "cheat" would, by definition, NOT be a cheat if it was part of her regular plan...
Ms Breannaj, I'm glad you've decided on a course of action! Including treats as part of your plan really works, but at the end, it is completely up to you as to what you can or can't handle.
Kira