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Originally Posted by NicoleDiana (Post 2721432)

{{ sob }} Just one weekend with my visiting mother was all it took to get me off program. Last Friday, I went to eat with my parents and enjoyed immensely a steak, fries and cheese grits. Bad, bad, bad!...snip

My biggest concern was that it appears you are blaming your mother for you going off plan. The title of you post was "The Feeder got to me". and the above highlighted sentence. "Just one weekend with my visiting mother was all it took to get me off program". That is what worries me. The fact that you want to take baby steps and go slow, and be "human" is all fine and dandy. But blaming others for what we put into our mouths is not going to get us anywhere. As adults we need to take responsibility for our own actions. Your mom didn't put a bib on you and feed you. You made that choice, and I think it's unfair that you are blaming her.

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Originally Posted by NicoleDiana (Post 2721663)

I'm spending the money because I AM serious about this. But I also know that I am human and will make mistakes. I'm here to admit them, be forced to look at them in writing and to improve on my plans.

While I appreciate the concern, being "worried" about my entire weightloss future because I screwed up once is not encouraging at all. A weaker person may even read that post and decide that you are right and that this diet is already over.
I am not finished. I just got started and although I'm a little bruised from that fall off the wagon, I'm back up and running.

The journey isn't always on a straight road.

Sorry you feel that way. But I think it goes back to blaming others. A weaker person could blame me and give up, or they could blame their mother and give up, or blame work, school, friends, holidays, pms, tom...you name it. If someone is looking for an excuse, they'll find it! I was the master of excuses for a long time.

Just remember that every slip-up is an opportunity to learn how to do better in the future. Sit down and work out a plan for staying on course the next time you are with your mother! Really think about what will work for you. Planning is about 80% of the success in dieting, in my experience.

Then, the next time you are with your mother or in another similar situation, consider it an opportunity to test out your new plan! We all have to learn new skills for handling old situations.

Lori Bell,

At no point did I say my mother made me do anything. Quite frankly, your entire approach is offensive to me. I realize that some people like to dish out tough love but seriously, are you kidding me?

I posted to admit I caved in and to hopefully hear from others who have. My mother is my weakness. She didn't force me, I went along willingly. Your analysis of some underlying blame is way off base. I hope you don't dissect every newcomer this way.

I hope you've enjoyed ripping my post apart to your liking. Now if you don't mind, I'm going to carry on with my diet. And I'm going to keep posting my mistakes.