Yeah I have been asked this and after losing 49 pounds I tell them HECH YES I feel better. I had all kinds of serious and beginning health issues and those of you that didn't and were morbidly obese you were very fortunate and you should count your blessinsgs.

I think people are generally nice and when someone makes a statement like that they are just trying to be nice. I wouldn't read to much into it! LOL!

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I heard this quite a bit and it did rub me the wrong way. I knew it wasn't an ill-intentioned remark, but I never knew how to respond to it. It's sort of like they were acknowledging my poor health to my face or something. Also, the fact was, I really didn't feel all that much better. I mean, I felt great to finally be losing weight, but losing weight is a very personal process that is publicly endured. Some days I was exhausted by the process. Other days, I was totally confused by it. I guess I just found it kind of presumptuous?

Edit: I should add that I feel fabulous now :)

I got the, "So, is there a man?" one awhile back. I didn't take offense. The lady who said it is just way to sweet for that. I'm a 41 year old, single mother, in Salt Lake. Guys aren't readily available, to say the least. Thing is, she was absolutely amazed and impressed when I told her I wasn't enjoying the heavy breathing and needing a few seconds to catch it back when I got up on my truck and I felt I deserved better than that. 'Sides, I want to be around to be a nuisance to everyone for a really long time.

I do feel better, and I like that as a compliment!

I guess I'm the opposite - when people tell me how great I look I always stress how much better I feel. For me losing weight was always about feeling better. That being said I do love wearing size 4 & 6 jeans ;)

I don't take any offense to comments like those, because I think it's usually the case that when someone starts to eat healthy and exercise to lose weight, they do feel better. And they don't have to start off in terrible shape to experience the benefits of healthy living.

As for me, when I was 130 pounds heavier, I was miserable. My knees ached, my thighs chafed, I got winded from bending over to tie my shoes, and generally had little energy. Of course I felt better after dropping pounds!

I feel lightyears better physically. I think I didn't realize how crappy I felt before until I started feeling better, maybe that's what's happening to you?

These are all great responses. I suppose I do feel a little better. I can walk up 3 flights of stairs without feeling winded and I can catch my breath quickly. Maybe I'm just not that far into this journey yet.

I think it's another situation where people should just say, "Congratulations!" or "Way to go!" and allow you to either continue the conversation or naturally let it drift to another topic. It would really reduce the amount of presumed meanings, hurt feelings and overanalization that can come from accidently shoving your foot in your mouth.

I have actually used that phrase, though. When I eat badly, I physically feel like crap - tired, bloated, achey, mentally frustrated and emotionally vulnerable. When I eat right, I honestly do feel a lot better without having lost a pound. Eating better and losing weight usually go hand in hand, so all I would be referring to is the diet part of it.

BTW glitterducky, congratulations on your weightloss :D

I just smile and say yes. yes I do feel better. And you know what? Minus 92.4 lbs I DO FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!!! I KNOW I am far from goal and way heavier than some people's starting weights but I can skip and dance and get around so much easier now. My headaches, heartburn, knee pair and back pain went away. My bowels and not tied up in knots anymore from all the junk. I do feel so much better! And I use that fact to encourage people just starting on this journey. Okay yah, I look better. But the FEELING is what keeps me going :)

:carrot: Thanks!!!!!!!! It's because I have totally rockin signature to keep me going :)

Yeah I get that response myself... sometimes, I respond saying "yeah I do feel better" (I'd think anyone would be after dropping 126+ lbs, lol).

Other times, I get annoyed, thinking "not all overweight people are lazy slobs here, jeez."

It depends on my mood :)

Amen! Me too, except that I have been told that I am looking "good". I have not gotten a "great" yet but maybe someday!

I hear that too, ALL THE TIME, and I used to think, "what makes you think I felt so bad?" But the more weight I lost, the better I did feel, physically and psychologically. So I just say "yes, now I can play sports again", or something like that, and try to understand that people may just not know what to say, and had no bad intentions. Kind of like when I hear another comment I get constantly: "Wow, you've lost a lot of weight!" Some people might take that as insulting, but I don't believe people mean to sound insulting, so I just smile and say "thanks!"


This kind of reminds me of my situation. Now that I've lost weight, people are asking me questions like this too, or making comments that sound like they assume I have a boyfriend. I never had this when I was bigger...I always instantly liked people who asked if I had a boyfriend or assumed I did, because most people assumed the opposite. For example, where I work, there are very few single women, and I'm one of them. When I was bigger, my other co-workers used to say things to the other single women like, "we've got to get you a boyfriend", but they never said this to me...ever. Now THAT I found kind of insulting. Now that I'm a lot smaller, though, I get those comments all the time. Don't know what to think about that!