People can be real jerks sadly :(

When I started my job the place was a mess. There were about 7 of us women there and they were all gossipy and could be down right rude to one another. I am like super shy nice girl so it was very tough for me. I figured I would just do my job and be friendly and stay out of all the craziness.

And then I found out that they were talking about me all the time. Telling the boss that I was gonna quit and that I was pregnant (i wasn't) and the worst thing was one of them started a rumor that my husband was beating me! I was shocked and broken hearted that people could say such evil cruel things when they didn't even know me and why would they even do that?? I was like omg I am a feminist, if my hubby ever even thought about it I would seriously not stand for it lol. And if someone was getting abused you should maybe offer them help and comfort not gossip about it. I was disgusted.

The truth is I just assume that their own lives are boring and they feel the need to create drama & a soap opera around them. Bleh. The only thing you can do is ignore them and not play into their stupid childish games.

Also I get that feeling of not wanting people to talk about your weightloss. I think part of it is self esteem issue. I always hated how I look and kindof wanted to pretend that I wasn't overweight. I would avoid that conversation and not want anyone to notice how I look or god forbid say anything. So if like people notice that you are losing weight it is kindof like they are admitting you are overweight. It is like they are saying you are fat, because obviously if you were already thin you wouldn't be losing. It is silly ofcourse and you can know that it is a good thing but it is still hard to change that other way of thinking. Well eh that it how it is for me anyways lol.

I'd say, ignore them. As hard as it may be.... what they say doesn't matter. Let them talk. Maybe they're just jealous, or have nothing else of interest to talk about. Eff them. Let them talk.

And you should be happy...we're all proud of you for making weight loss efforts.

People like that are really pretty worthless. They're usually crippled by low self-esteem, and of course, misery loves company.
That comment about how people should lose weight slowly--that's an obvious sign that you're right and they are gossiping and probably saying that you're starving yourself or whatever. And I agree with other people in this thread--the only reason they have to be doing that is because that's probably all they know of weight loss. They've probably tried and failed a thousand times to starve their extra weight off (even skinny girls have 5lb issues) and they can't stand or believe the FACT that you are losing your weight healthily. So you know, ignore them. They're just not worth it. And you'll get the satisfaction of laughing in their faces when its all said and done.
Also, I totally understand where you're coming from--I don't want ANYONE to EVER say ANYTHING about my weight/weight loss/anything. Because it is basically as if they were saying "man you needed to drop that extra poundage, glad you finally wised up."
and I don't need that crap. Neither do you. There is, of course, a difference between encouragement and snide remarks. When my grandmother fusses around me and tells me I'm getting thin, I feel great, but when she makes a concerned comment about me GAINING weight, I get irrationally angry and hurt over it. One time I was sitting at the kitchen with my skinny (and formerly anorexic) best friend, and my grandmother had made a comment earlier about the fact that I was gaining weight, and my friend was making popcorn and my granny ACTUALLY SAID "Taylor I want you to be healthy and i love you, but you don't need any popcorn." Of course, I hadn't wanted the popcorn in the first place, but I was so humiliated and angry that I barely spoke to anyone for days after.
Now that I'm losing weight, its nice when nice people notice, but if my boyfriend told me "you've lost weight" I'd probably be upset whether he said it in a nice way or not because I don't want him to notice that i ever had any weight to lose. That's silly, of course, since he's seen me naked a thousand times and knows EXACTLY what I look like, but that doesn't change the negative feelings I have about anyone noticing my weight.
I spent so long growing up pretending i was a normal weight that it was always devastating in middle and high school whenever the rare comment would come out about my weight. I still harbor the same feelings about it today.
Nunya business.

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Thanks for all of your support. I'm glad I'm not alone and not delusional. I do think it's hard to have people indirectly tell you that you're over-weight by noticing weight loss, giving advice, etc. Some of us don't like others to notice and point out our faults and struggles but somehow people think it's ok with weight issues.

Anyway, you guys are the best. I'm so glad I found this site because I used to wonder if I was the only one experiencing some of these things or if I was imagining it! :carrot:

i would print this REALLY BIG

"A fool's mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts" (Proverbs 18:7-8)

and maybe more verses on the topic and leave them lying around for them to see, especially on your desk of you have one.

I think you just have to ignore them. I used to be really upset because the people at my work would try to force me to eat junk and when I declined, they would hound me for a good 1/2 an hour. It was bizarre. I had a similar experience to you where a co-worker came up to me and told me that losing weight too quickly was unhealthy and that she could tell I was being unhealthy because my face looked thin and hollow and I had dark circles under my eyes. Given the fact that I'd stayed up for hours the night before, dealing with my legal issues, I was highly offended. I've also had someone say, "It's so gross when people's collarbones stick out." Then the person pointed to me, and went, "See, like that!" I shot back with a "aww, jealous that you can't find yours? I understand." Not the nicest thing, but I was upset and it got them to shut up, at least.

Now I just ignore them and if someone comments in a non-encouraging way (I actually have a couple of co-workers that I don't mind commenting from because I can tell they're being sincere and one of them is also trying to eat healthier so we swap ideas and whatnot), I just smile widely and say thank you. That usually confuses the **** out of them.

Hmm... I've never experienced gossiping about my weight-loss... but I have gotten compliments before, and I've always have had difficulties in accepting them :)

Some people are just jerks and if you can ignore them, more power to you! If not, then the next time someone negatively confronts you about your weight loss efforts, you could kindly tell them off ;)