I think you did the best thing under the circumstances.

I have no off-limits foods, but I do have some things that I can't partake of. One is alcohol and another is clams. In those cases, I would have to turn my boss down, with an explanation, and it wouldn't matter whether it was the best stuff on earth. The clams could send me to the hospital!

For a cookie? Yeah, I'd taste it like you did. And I'd wait until I got away from work to toss the rest. Or, if I had room in my daily food plan for it, I'd eat it. But with sugary stuff there's often a danger of triggering and wanting more, so I'd need to think hard about that.

Jay

I'm going to agree with everyone so far that said you did wonderfully. To be honest, I'm totally impressed that you managed to eat a small amount and throw the rest away. Cookies are definitely a weakness of mine!

I had this problem with a client once a while back when I was trying to lose weight. She'd stop at the (really expensive!) bakery on the way to my facility and buy treats... with the same excuse your boss gave. Worked great for her, I guess; she (by her own admission) had a ridiculously fast metabolism and also smoked heavily to boost it. Me? I could get fat just looking at those pastries.

And then there was the other problem: I was taking alli. No, maybe "just one" treat wouldn't hurt me... but in my case, it wouldn't only make me long for more sugary treats, it could also ruin my pants. I didn't want to let this individual know I was on alli. She'd made rather rude comments about it when it came out ("How fat would you have to be to be that desperate? Just quit eating so much and you won't have to take some pill that makes you leak in your pants."). So I came up with other excuses.

"Wow, I just ate, but that little cake will be so perfect with a glass of wine this evening!" "Goodness, I really appreciate it, but I'm just not feeling that well today. I hope I'm not getting that bug that's going around." "That was so sweet of you, but I think [insert someone else's name] would enjoy that so much more. Remember, I'm lactose intolerant, and I bet that cream filling won't sit right with me." Anything.

Some of the pastries I would immediately pass on to someone else present, all while mentioning how sweet the gesture was and looking ever-so-envious while the new recipient would rave about it. Some I would wrap up "for later" and then pass it on to someone else after the client had left. Occasionally, if I didn't see another way out, I'd take a small bite, declare the dessert "wonderfully rich," and point out that it would have to wait until later - it was rich enough to "make me really thirsty, and you know if I drink that bottle of water I'll be running to the restroom mid-lesson!"

My experience with this individual, which I imagine could be true of others like her, was that she actually did want to sabotage my efforts on some level. I think in some subconscious way it made her feel superior to know she could eat things like that in moderation and be thin, while others of us couldn't resist them and wouldn't be able to lose weight. She verbally tore down overweight people frequently enough that it was pretty obvious she needed that feeling of superiority she got from it.

No doubt plenty of these "just one won't hurt you" individuals are just plain clueless. But I imagine there are also people out there like this woman that, though they probably wouldn't want to admit it even to themselves, would prefer to keep fat people fat.

Anyway... the result of my continuing refusal to eat these treats? She finally gave up and stopped bringing them. It took a while, but she did give up.

I agree with newleaf123 in that you probably need to nip this in the bud before your boss is offering you something daily....

I for one would have probably took 2 and told her, "These look great, my poor kids are cookie deprived every since I decided to trash all the junk food from the house, They will LOVE them."

And since they really are cookie deprived I'd take them home and give them each one and they would be THRILLED for a little treat.

I think, obviously, everyone would have handled that situation in their own way. Me, I would have had the cookie, but probably not all of it due to the fact that I tend to not finish sweet tasting things lol. I fill up or have had enough lol.

When my birthday rolled around my family bought vegan goodies for me and I tried every one of them. I mean it is my birthday, I'm not going to deprive myself. When I make a dessert, like a raw food tart and believe me it is still high in fat, I always have a slice, but usually just one and I'm satisfied. I guess for me if it is stuff sitting around that have no importance or are special then I just simply don't want it. However, if it is something like my birthday or someone offering me something they've baked, then I will always participate gladly. :)

For me there are just some things I don't want and clearly if I was in an office setting where there are tons of sweets and other things I wouldn't really care, but I can totally understand how for a lot of people that would be a struggle. I guess it is like me and hummus. I love the stuff, it is around me I'll eat it. lol. I don't mean just eat it, but like all of it lol hahahahaha. Being in an office setting with like oodles of hummus, olives, and other nice things like that would drive me mad!

I think you handled it well. While I don't believe in depriving myself of things, I do believe in being strong. You can also take a sweet thing and save half for later or for someone else too. I think taking them home or sharing with other people is not only fun, but it gives you a tactful way out too. :carrot:

I think you handled it well. I dont have any off limit foods, and so depending on where I was calorie wise, and what I had planned for dinner, I may have had just a piece of it, or half of it, and then would have brought the rest home to my husband. :p He'd kill me if he found out I threw out a perfectly good cookie :)

I prpbably would have eaten it, ALL, and felt horrible and started a binge.-- on a bad day.

on a good day maybe I could have done what you did. YAY YOU!!!!

I think you handled it very well, especially given how it was sprung on you unexpectedly. :D

Right now I have the convenient excuse of having to avoid dairy, and even when my other kids outgrew their dairy sensitivities at about a year, I would still use that excuse to avoid things.

I would have taken the cookie, thanked her and said I'd eat it later as dessert (for lunch or dinner) but really not eat it.

I think you handled it very well.
BUT, if it continues and the boss keeps up as a food pusher, this becomes workplace harassment. You could say your doc has forbidden it or something if it becomes more of an issue.
I remember someone telling me a glass of wine wouldn't hurt when I was pregnant. I just think it is inappropriate to encourage people to have something like certain foods or alcohol (or drugs, would you tell someone that a little heroine or oxycodone won't hurt them?).
I don't know why people do it.
good luck, and I hope it doesn't continue. Sometimes having those "treats" is what throws you off and into cravings, when you were doing fine before that.