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horsey 02-23-2009 11:51 PM

Self esteem vs. weight survey...
 
Self esteem vs. weight survey...

On a scale of 1 to 10, how do you rate your self esteem - how you think of yourself, how many times a day you say to self I'm fat, etc... vs how many times you really say hey I'm ok overweight or not... so 1 is I am really MEAN to myself and 10 is I'm quite fine, I LIKE myself, thank you very much, overweight or not.

On a scale of 1 to 10 how overweight are you? Say 1 is just a tad bit, an 10 is obese...

I'm reading a book by a famous shrink and she claims that most weight gain is related to self esteem - if we like and love ourselves the weight wouldn't be there? So let's test that theory in this survey.

Me, I'm likely a 5 in self esteem, and a 7 in overweight, meaning 20 lbs or so to lose, more like 30 if I want to really be thinner.

ImpalaHoarder 02-24-2009 12:01 AM

3 on the self esteem, 4 or 5 on the overweight, I think. (Right now I'm about 35 pounds overweight).

WarMaiden 02-24-2009 12:29 AM

10 self-esteem, 10 overweight. For me, there's never been any relation between my self-esteem and my weight gain; very simply, I have a chemical addiction to sugar and when it's uncontrolled I gain weight.

Leeesa 02-24-2009 12:31 AM

Probably a 3 and a 10.

harrismm 02-24-2009 12:41 AM

probably a 1 and a 5.Sad.....I no.

kaplods 02-24-2009 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by WarMaiden (Post 2626338)
10 self-esteem, 10 overweight. For me, there's never been any relation between my self-esteem and my weight gain; very simply, I have a chemical addiction to sugar and when it's uncontrolled I gain weight.

Ditto. When I was younger, my self-esteem took a battering occasionally, but it was mostly directly a result of experiencing abuse from other people about my weight or because I thought I was "supposed to" feel crappy about myself for being fat (though I never quite understood why I was supposed to feel like crap for being unable to control my appetite, despite being an honors student, being generous, caring, creative and funny and having a decent number of friends). I guess I always felt that all the good stuff about me cancelled out my one major flaw, and I never quite understood why I felt that so few people seemed to feel that way. It was like people were shocked at my confidence and enjoyment at life - I felt like an oddball for not disliking myself (but I embraced odditude rather than choosing to listen to social convention and hate myself).

I think even at my lowest, I didn't feel very bad about myself, nearly much as I felt self-conscious. I guess I felt like there were a lot of fat rules I was supposed to follow, and I never quite knew what the rules were. Or, I'd recognize a rule, but ignore it (and feel weird that I was breaking the rule, like I'd done something illegal or something). Like swimming - I've always loved it, far too much to ever follow the well-known rule that overweight girls should never, never allow themselves to be seen in a swimming suit (and if they MUST swim, they should wear a black swimdress that nearly reaches the knees, ideally with a t-shirt over the top). I've owned two black swimming suits in my life, and I hated them both. All of my other suits were brightly colored - flashy even. Buying plus sized swimsuits with style and color, especially when you're beyond a size 26 is not an easy feat. They're out there, but you've got to do a lot of searching and you're going to pay through the nose. The first time I spent nearly $100 on a swim suit, I felt nauseous - but I loved that suit. It was a pretty green and purple floral suit with matching sarong coverup skirt. I know that my image of myself did not match the reality, but I felt gorgeous in that suit (I am really glad I don't have pictures of myself in that suit).

Rosinante 02-24-2009 03:11 AM

10 for weight
6 for self-esteem, average. When I remember how much I've still to lose (75lbs) it sometimes goes down to 1 but when I remember that I'm doing b. marvellous with the weightloss, it goes up to 8.

BlueToBlue 02-24-2009 04:35 AM

9 or a 10 for self-esteem, probably a 1 on weight.

But even when my weight was a problem, when I had 30 lbs to lose, my self-esteem was still a 9 or 10. Like Kaplods, I never felt like my weight detracted from who I was as a person. I was self-conscious about it, but I still felt good about myself.

My self-esteem is far more closely connected to my professional success. As I've grown professionally and become more accomplished and recognized in my field, my self-esteem has improved dramatically, to the point where I am now very confident about myself.

I can see where having low self-esteem might lead to weight gain, but I don't think that necessarily means that the opposite is true--that having high self-esteem leads to a healthy lifestyle and weight.

JayEll 02-24-2009 06:42 AM

I am and always have been close to a 10 on self esteem. As for weight--well, it's been stated a little vaguely. I guess I'm about a 4 at this point.

I think we could make a distinction between those who overeat because they feel less-than others, and those who overeat because they like food and/or don't realize how much they are taking in. I was in the second group.

Jay

Heather 02-24-2009 07:44 AM

Even at my highest weight I had high self-esteem about ME. Not about my weight, maybe, but I had a strong sense of my self-worth.

WormwoodDoll 02-24-2009 08:47 AM

I am a 2-3 in self-esteem, even though there are days I could feel like an 7 or an 8. And I'm about a 7 in weight loss. I have another 60lbs to go, but I'm not morbidly obese with 200+lbs to lose.

MonteCristo 02-24-2009 09:48 AM

For self-esteem I am (and have always been) a 10 (or may an 11 ;) ). The weight thing is harder to judge. Based on what everyone else has said I guess I would be around 6 (22lbs to lose), but I would say I was around 3 or 4.

As for the theory we are testing.......my excess of self esteem actually made it easier for me to gain weight, because I don't really give a rat's *ahem* about how/what other people feel/think/say about me. When I was happy eating and being fat, that is where I was. When I decided to lose weight for myself......well you can see how I've done. :D

Thighs Be Gone 02-24-2009 09:51 AM

Self-esteem I am probably a 6. Weight wise I am a 2 or 3.

MichelleARFC 02-24-2009 10:02 AM

I would say 2 for self estem and a 8 for overweight ? I am like 50 pounds over I would say

corazonas 02-24-2009 10:02 AM

i'm a 0 on the overweight. i'm not actually overweight but still losing that last couple to get to my goal which is nice and comfy in my normal range.

as far as the self esteem i'm a 9. i'm a happy happy person and usually pretty kind to myself... but i AM still a girl and you know, b****es are b****es. hahaha


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