I know how you feel :hug:

I missed out on dating....and going through the ups and downs of learning how to be in a relationship when you're younger. I was never confident at all growing up, and never could see myself as attractive, so I'm sure that led others to not see me that way either.

I'm a full grown adult now and I have never really had a true relationship. It's getting to the point where now more insecurities are popping up from it as well. I know that I need to get myself back and then hopefully the confidence with guys will come along with it.

i still miss out on things like everyday life but now im just sucking it up and taking it i used to be embarassed going to the park or taking a walk wiht my wife leaving the house. The thing is I need to get out it will help me be more active....the only thing i regret is having my wonderful wife that deals with enough deal with me and my insecurites.(god bless that women i admirer her more then she will ever know)

Dating, and friendships, too. I don't think my obesity held me back per se. But the same things driving me to eat myself silly also isolated me.

I could list the scenarios but I won't for fear I won't be able to stop. I missed out on discovering who I was and who I could be. I missed out on feeling comfortable in every imaginable place on the planet and in every possible scenario. I missed out on some great clothes, fun shopping, and feeling good about who I was.

Pics with my kids and hubby. When going to visit my family, I avoid trying to see any old friends. Well try to aviod anyone I havent seen in awhile.

-swimming in anything less than a T and pants :(
-not being in any family pictures because i hated how i looked in them
-wearing a dress .. always afraid of it showing my fatt ness and love handles!

Just...life. I used to have so much fun as a teen...I remember being 120-135 and feeling like I was a fat cow. I let a lot of stuff pass me by back then, but I had a LOT more fun then in comparison to now.

It's really depressing. I'm tired of missing out on things. I'm tired of being ashamed of myself. I'm just...

I'm going to the gym.

I missed so much....lets see currently missing out on having friends and locking myself to play video games (I am such a nerd I know).
Having a prom date in high school
Wearing a bikini
Going on trips and going clubing. So much hopefully everyone will get out of the shells at some point or another.

Like many here, I grew up obese. I was 300 lbs by the age of 14. I felt like in parts of my life that I was waiting to lose weight to have a life but then at some point, I decided I couldn't wait.

Now I didn't go to prom, but that is because that it isn't something I would've wanted to spend money on.

I've never worn a bikini but even if I had an awesome body, I don't think I'd want to wear one.

I've never dated tons of guys but then again I never wanted to anyway.

I have traveled because I like to travel. I've learned how to snorkel and I love snorkeling. Wearing a bathing suit never bothered me, even at my highest weight. I've been a fairly active hiker since my teens, regardless of my weight.

The things that I wanted to do once I lost more weight include:

Ride a bike - last year I bought a bike but I'm still learning how to ride. Truth be told, I'm still a bit frightened of it.

Rock climbing - I really want to do this but the equipment does require you to be a certain size and also if you are going to haul yourself up a rock face, you better not weigh 300 lbs unless you have an upper body that can do it.

I feel this same exact way. Exactly. Exactly. Exactly.

My list is literally endless. Just a few things off the top of my mind -

-Swimming with my children
-& bike riding
-& horseback riding
-& ice skating and roller skating
-kayaking
-white water rafting
-vacations
-Disney world
-walks
-photo ops
-dancing
-socializing
-being comfortable in my own skin
-a good nights sleep
-happy
-light hearted
-content
-satisfied

I missed out on being the best me that I could be. All for some food. :?:

Oh man. just thinking about this stuff.... aye.

lets see. ive missed out on swimming in the summers.. pictures with my daughter. . ive never been fully naked in front of my hubby with the lights on...

theres so many things. i dont think i could list them all. oh well. im still fairly young. i'll loose the weight and do it all anyways! whoo hoo!

I missed out on being a teenager, not because I was fat but because I was awkward and scared and insecure. And then I got married to someone abusive and controlling and gained about 40 pounds in the two years before I divorced him. And then I was even more sad and miserable and insecure than before so I missed out on feeling free and young and happy and instead felt fat and undesirable and scared and like ice cream was the only thing that made me feel good.

But I didn't miss out on those things because I was fat. I missed out on them because I was insecure and wanted to shield myself from a world I thought didn't want me. I shielded myself with books and hiding in the locker room to avoid lunch and wearing coats of makeup and then I shielded myself with fat.

Now that I have friends and a husband who love me for who I am, fat and all, I don't feel like I need to shield myself so much. And so now I dare to do things I never would before--go out to a bar, go out without makeup, just expect that people will like me in social settings--and now I'm finally losing weight.

I missed out on a lot of High School things. I wasn't very social, either. It didn't help being shy. Most times I'd wear a shirt with my bathing suit and I avoid swimming even though I love it. I went swimming in 2007 for the first time in 4 years. I hated eating in front of people because I always thought they'd snicker at me. I'm still the same way. If I go out and treat myself to a little something I feel like people are saying to themselves "Does she really need that?". It's not like they know how heavier I was and how good I'm doing.

I was always afraid to go out with friends due to the fear that I wouldn't walk fast enough. I avoided going shopping because I hated trying on clothes with my skinny friends (until I found Torrid).

And I'm sure there's a lot of things. But I can't make up for lost time. I can only enjoy what I can do now.

I was fat and insecure. I'd make up the dumbest excuses to avoid going out with friends. I wish I didn't. I wish I would of been more social. I just had awkward phobias and fears of being around others. :?: