[NightengaleShane]

UGH!!! This thread TIIIIIIICKS me OFFFFF!!!! I'm fuming! I HATE when people do things like that and she HAS NO RIGHT!

Next time something like that happens, FEEL FREE to be sarcastic! She DESERVED some snark! You should have at least said, "Actually, I've lost 70 pounds already." That would have shut her up.

I usually dislike when people working at the supermarket comment on my food choices, unless it is to commend me on how healthy I look and that my choices reflect that-- and if they do that, I hand 'em a business card One time, I was buying a ton of sweets and other junk for my now ex, and the cashier said, "Oh YUM!! Sweetie, you're going to ruin your figure when you get older. I was skinny when I was your age, too. I hope you don't do this every day!" Funnily enough, I was ALWAYS in there buying sweets for my ex! ASSUME makes an @$$ out of U and ME !

Several times I have gone in around lunch time and bought a ton of food (say, a South Beach Diet entree, a protein bar, 1/4 pineapple slices, and a yogurt is pretty typical for me) and the silly guys in the checkout say things like, "WOW! That's a BIG LUNCH!" or "Ooh, a TALL ORDER!" I feel like saying, "Yeah, it's not all one meal, sillyheads. It's a meal and a snack because three meals a day is an overrated concept," but I usually just keep quiet and nod or say, "Yup, and this is only my FIRST lunch! " ----> I have no shame.

I think the clerk is jealous. SHE has probably never been successful in any kind of healthy eating or exercise regime and therefore thinks no other large person can. People like that really SUCK!

[ennay]

I'd contact her manager.

[Glory87]

Oh, I forgot about the guy at the fish counter at the grocery store who pissed me off one night. I asked for 4 oz of salmon and he said "you must be on a diet!" Uh no ******* I am NOT on a diet, I just want a single serving of fish - more people should eat 4 oz of salmon and not the pound of fish that Americans consider a serving!

Heh, I'm all steamed up just thinking about it! Of course, I didn't think of anything clever to say at the time.

[chick_in_the_hat]

Originally Posted by Tyler Durden

Wow, that's awful. But she was just projecting her own bad choices on to you, so don't sweat it. There are all kinds of jerks out there in the world, don't give them power over you! You are successful and powerful and healthy!

Ditto!

[RN BSN 2009]

Some people cannot handle others successes. She is probably having post pig-out guilt and is pushing her anger onto you. I would have had a little chat with her supervisor and said if they don't want you coming into their store to purchase healthy food than you will take your business elsewhere.

[ChefsGirl]

Wow. That is shocking. I have no idea how I would’ve handled that but good for you for not striking back.

Obviously she was referring to her own failures, as you are doing awesome!

[nakedmango]

Someone I knew on another forum always said she responded to things like this with, "My Goodness! What an inappropriate comment. You must be terribly embarassed."

I can't wait to try it. Of course, it demands keeping one's cool and speaking as if the terribly inappropriate comment doesn't actually make you livid. Which isn't my strong suit.

[ennay]

Originally Posted by mandalinn82

This is the same reason that lots of people going for their morning run on New Years Day, the same run they go on all the time, got knowing looks and thumbs-up from neighbors and people on the street. This close to Jan 1, people assume ANY positive health decision you make must be the result of some recent resolution.

It took all my self restraint not to change IN to my marathon finishers shirt to go buy my Treadmill last week.

[Lovely]

Firstly, this had nothing to do with you & everything to do with how she feels about herself. She was projecting. Plain & simple. She may have tried and failed recently & was hoping to connect with someone else, or cause someone else to fail, too. After all, misery loves company.

Secondly, though, I probably wouldn't have been able to hold back. I would've laid my trap with sugar "Oh? Why do you say that?" I would've smiled sweetly.

If she had the gall to continue on with her "You won't make it" speech, I would've then politely explained to her that "Really? Well, I've been eating pretty healthfully since X date, and have lost around 70 lbs. If you wanna know how to do it, you should ask me if I decide to ever shop here again."

[willow650]

Ok, I have heard of people having things said to them rude like that from strangers and I have never come across anyone so bold to say something like that to me. I have a friend that just floors me at some of the stuff strangers have said to her, I am just amazed. I would have shoved my items that I had just bought, down her throat. About the worst thing that has ever happened to me like that was a girl working at McDonalds through a cup of ice at me in drive through when i said her customer service skills were horrible. I parked my van and went in the store after her, I was already behind the counter before I was stopped...lol Cops were called but she was the one escorted off the premises.

[MissVitality]

Thank you all so much for your comments. You have really helped me feel a lot better about the incident and see it as her problem and not mine. I am not going to let someone like that get me down. I should actually feel sorry for her.

I am glad I am not alone in experiencing this type of thing.

It was after the event, i thought of all the things I should have done like contact the manager etc. but at the time I just couldn't get out of there quickly enough!

And... I won't be going back to that store!

[Lovely]

Originally Posted by MissVitality

Thank you all so much for your comments. You have really helped me feel a lot better about the incident and see it as her problem and not mine. I am not going to let someone like that get me down. I should actually feel sorry for her.

I am glad I am not alone in experiencing this type of thing.

It was after the event, i thought of all the things I should have done like contact the manager etc. but at the time I just couldn't get out of there quickly enough!

And... I won't be going back to that store!

I can be pretty passive aggressive when it comes down to it... and this got me thinking, again just mulling things over.

What if you were to go back to that store every day? And every day you got something great & healthy for lunch. And then you purposefully went to that lady's line. Every day. For months and months and months.

I'm sorry the image of you succeeding in such an "in your face" way just has me giggling with delight.

[NightengaleShane]

Faerie, that's BRILLIANT!

It's funny when those around us finally acknowledge our weight loss. This bitter girl may not notice until 30 pounds later, OR she may notice right away and say, "Oh, I guess you ARE sticking to it, eh? 3 days? Ok I give it 3 months..."

[L144S]

good for you for holding it together.

I might make a call to the stor owner/superviser and explain calmly what you want to say.
"I was in your store yesterday and this is what happened" Depending on how the call goes for you, you could either say, I really like your store because you do allow for some fast healthy options, or if it doesen't you can say just the opposite, it is too bad i don't feel comfortable patroning your store anymore, I did not like being humiliated by your clerk...and I buy my lunch everyday and I will no longer be supporting your store...The $ (or euro) can be very powerful and should be.

I think however it turns out, doing this for yourself gives the power back to you and your weight loss back in your hands and stand up for what you think is right. the owner of the store can explain to the clerk that comments about what patrons buy is not his/her business.

Ok my 2 cents....

[georgiad]

MissVitality you HAVE to go back to that shop when you reach your goal weight and rub it in that shop assistant's face!

I HATE when people do that, it's people like that who make me feel guilty about trying to get healthy, when I should feel proud! This is why I go to the self-checkout.

One time I was in a shop buying "Health and Fitness" magazine (which I've read for years) and a salad and the shop assistant said to me "Oh well done you, getting it sorted while you're still young". I said "sorry, getting what sorted?" and the assistant looked really mortified and said "oh, oh nothing". I'm so glad I confronted her that day.

If you're really bothered about it, I'd call up the shop and just tell the manager that you were upset by what the assistant said, and that the assistants need to be briefed on what is and what isn't helpful or polite conversation.

Best of luck, and well done for doing so well thus far. You're an inspiration to us all xx