Its been only 4 days....
 

and i already want to give up. Whats wrong with me? Its so hard!!!

Don't give up! We're here for ya. What's on your mind?

Where ya at in MI? I'm in westland

This frustration you're feeling is the first true sign that your diet plan is not the right one for you. Keep trying! There's a plan out there for everyone. What are you currently doing?

Im just having a crappy day and i just want to go eat everything i shouldnt.

Hey it happens. Reward yourself for staying on-plan. Bubble bath, quiet reading time, taking a quick walk. Keep yourself distracted!

Im just eating less and trying to drink lots of water. I also walked 2 miles on the tredmill today. I think my problem is that i didnt eat enough today. Hopefully tomorrow i will have a better day!!

How many calories less than usual?

Im in warren

Sweetie,

Here is something another poster posted here (and I apologize that I cannot give credit) - and this is something that I will never forget as it is very inspirational for me:

Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Pick your hard.

Hm, yes--it could be that you are trying to restrict yourself too much. Try using a food tracker like FitDay or The Daily Plate (free online), or just writing down what you're eating and looking up calories for the items. Also, you might want to see this Sticky Thread for some guidelines:

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=120806

Jay

The beginning is hard, sometimes.

Especially since we haven't been following our new habits long enough to see changes on the scale.

But from what you've posted, I have a few suggestions. If you're eating because you feel down emotionally, it's time to find a new habit to replace that eating, such as journeling or coming to 3FC to read & chat or even just going for a walk.

You mention watching what you eat & drinking water & treadmilling. Perhaps it's all too much at once? Sometimes we need to ease ourselves into things. Focus on ONE major thing this week, and then adding another thing next week etc. etc.

What you've been eating & how much makes a big difference. If you're not eating enough calories, this is going to be a tough journey (and it's not good for the body either). Definitely check out the post that Jay copied down.

Keep at this. I PROMISE you that the rewards of sticking with this long-term are WORTH it.

Oh, it *IS* hard, we are all right there with you! Particularly at the beginning when every day (hour, minute) can feel near impossible and you have no results yet to encourage you to stay the course.

But don't give up! It will get somewhat easier as your new habits really settle in and you will start to feel better and better as you feel the results. Just know that everyone here really understands!

Well, as the posters above suggest...

First, it IS hard. You're changing habits and doing things differently, and leaving yourself in calorie deficit. It IS hard.

However, it's also possible you've restricted calories too much and are making it much harder than you need to. It seems to me that many people who drastically slash calories end up not being able to sustain that level, give up and think they can't lose weight.

I personally don't think we need to starve ourselves to lose weight. I think we need to make many changes that we can STICK to, so that after we lose the weight, we can KEEP it off.

So, do you know how much you are eating each day???

Do you have something to take your mind off of eating? I found the hardest thing when I started was having nothing to do but think of food. Sat watching the telly...thinking of food. Sat at my desk at work....thinking of food. I started doing some crafting and sewing and found that my hands were busy, I was engrossed in my new hobby and best of all...NOT thinking of food. It's the same as when I gave up smoking, you need to find something for your hands to do that isn't holding food.

Aww.. (((hugs))) It IS hard! I know. I've gotten to goal before (regained due to circumstances that aren't excuses) and losing 90 pounds was the hardest thing I EVER had to do. Trust me, it's SO worth it in the end. Stay around and here and post, it'll help you. Keep your chin up, you can do this.

Make sure you arn't pushing yourself TOO hard. Remember, you want this to be a permanent thing! If youre pushing yourself really hard right off the bat it'll be hard to stick with this long term.

In my experiences, and people I know, it's easy to go on a healthy 'binge' - exercising tons when you've never done it before, obsessing over everything you eat and being absoultly perfect. After a week or so you get tired of it mentally and physically...and then it's back to normal. Making gradual changes, so it seems natural instead of forced, seems to be the key.

I agree with everyone else that maybe you are pushing yourself too much, but i'd also like to add that there ARE days when it's harder and days when it feels like the easiest thing in the world.

Try not to worry about one bad day, remember that tomorrow could be another good one. And if you do slip up ... don't worry about it. One slip up doesn't make a failure.

Hold in there. Just think how great it will feel when you get on the scale and it has moved down. Like everyone else said.... Maybe your diet isn't the right for you

<<Hugs>>
I so feel ya! Today is only day 2 for me and I had a horrid day and everything went wrong and being the emotional eater I am I overate and ate all sorts of wrong things.
Tomorrow is a new day we just have to keep trying. Hang in there!

Aww I am sorry you are feeling this way! When I started changing my diet (and still find difficiulty now) my eyes were opened to how much I used food as a comfort - I used it out of excitement, fear, depression and boredom...and it was like every emotion had some involvement with food.

It was very hard also because food suddenly became functional as opposed to anything else I had been used to.

Try to get comfort in something else (maybe offloading your stressful day) or distract yourself.

Hope you feel better!

Im sorry you feel this way. I have cut back how much Ive been eating and this is my second day...but even though I feared I would feel deprived, I amazingly dont. I am not counting anything yet (like calories or anything). Ive started by following a fellow diabetic members general plan. Iused to eat 2 really big meals a day but now I eat 3 meals and 3 snacks. I eat breakfast within 30 min of being up(bowl of cereal and a piece of fruit). 2-3 hrs later i eat a snack (piece of fruit or 100 calorie snack pack). 2-3 hrs later I eat a small lunch (today I ate some chef boyarde(sp?) hamburger mac&cheese, not the healthiest but one step at a time...). Then 2-3 hrs after lunch I eat another small snack. 2-3 hrs later I eat dinner (last night it was a healthy choice frozen dinner). and then 2-3 hrs after that (usually about an hr or 2 before bed) I eat a last snack. I thought I would be starving, since I usually eat so much more at once. But so far I dont feel hungry at all... and today I had to force myself to eat my first snack so that I wouldnt over eat once lunch rolled around.

I hope that tomorrow is a better day and you can jump back on track:hug:

It is hard, especially in the first couple of weeks, but it should not feel impossible. If it feels impossible than there is a distinct possibility, like Jay and others have said, that you are pushing too hard right off the bat, and that you are not getting enough calories for your current weight/height.

Some people do need to ease into this. Others need to jump in feet first and stick very strictly to a carefully laid out eating and exercise regime. We are all different, but what we all share in common is that if we go TOO far overboard, it is nearly impossible to sustain the momentum. Your body will eventually rebel to the point that you will go Off Plan. I would suggest evaluating how much you are doing and how little you are eating...

If that is not the problem, just try to remember that tomorrow is a new day! You can do this!

Thanks everyone, i had a much better day.