txsqlchick - Thank you for that post. It was awesome and gave me a lot to think about.

I agree! Way to make even bad habits work for you!

I can relate! I hate to exercise, and as I was seeking a way to make exercising work for me, I stumbled on... commitment. Each month I would commit to a certain number of minutes of exercise (it might vary based on how busy I'd be in a month). So, if my goal was 900 minutes, I'd know that's about 30 min a day. I HATED being behind in my "goal", so for over 2 years, every month I set a goal, I made it -- with the exception of the times I got injured or ill.

Of course, it's not a perfect system. Over time I realized that I never went OVER my goal. If it was Sept 29th and I'd already made my goal, I found it very difficult to make myself exercise! These days I'm playing around with different ways to keep my exercise regular.

So, that's what worked for me, but my husband doesn't seem to work that way at all... and I think that's txsglchick's point -- we all have to find a system that works for us...

Chill!
 

Loubylou--

I'm going against the grain on this one.

Don't fall into this trap, please. I am more than 100lbs overweight myself, and was only a few pounds lighter at my wedding than I am two years later (though I'm now on a diet plan on my terms!).

Wedding planning is incredibly stressful. Families lose their minds, feelings get hurt, everyone wants to voice opinions, and it's your job to manouever those land mines and keep yourself sane.

If you want to lose a few (5 or 6) pounds to make yourself feel better, go nuts. If you feel like you need to lose 100 pounds before your wedding you will MAKE yourself nuts.

The best wedding advice I ever got was to remember to make myself and my fiance happy before everyone else.

Was my fiance going to refuse to marry a bride in a plus-sized dress? **** no. Even in a plus-size dress (two sizes larger than when we met, by the way!) he tried to get me out of it before we even made it back to the honeymoon suite.

My wedding dress was a size 22 and it was the happiest day of my life. I felt (and looked, judging by the pictures) absolutely radiant.

Best of luck in your wedding planning!