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thats realy gr8 feeling to see all ur extra pounds vanishing again :) i wish i could feel that soon im not patient anymore but i will listen to all of u and follow ur advices i respect what u said and i'll do my best to lose weight |
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i agree with u .. everyone can do anything they put in their mind but im depressed thats why i thank God that i found this forum .. sometimes words could change a whole person and u r all pushing me up with the lovely and supportive words that realy means a lot to me thanx |
Sweetie I really think you need to go see a counselor. You are so wrapped up in how much it's about looks it makes me sad.
Do you really believe that the only reason he cheated on you is because you gained weight? Seriously? Is that what you believe love is about? That if you look pretty enough someone will love you? It's not. Llove isn't about looks or weight or what is external. Your posts make me ache for you. Life is about so much more that what you are on the outside. What you are on the inside is so much more important. . |
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thanx alot for all what u've said u r words realy mean something to me i felt that the world is still fine its hard when we r shocked and in a bad situation and we see that life is so hard .. we find good people that offers their help and try to help us out of our problems and push us forward to meet our goals i wish i knew this forum from before but thanx God i found it now :) thanx for everything |
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i promise to re-organize my schedual and do workouts and find a good diet for me thanx for ur motivation:) |
I agree with photochick. Also, you did NOT make your ex cheat on you! Did you hold a gun to his head and say, "go have sex with someone else"? NO! You did not! Don't feel responsible for his stupidity.
Let's pretend your weightloss did make him cheat on you (which it didn't!). What would he do if you were pregnant and heavy because of the pregnancy? He'd still cheat on you! I think you are a lovely girl, and I hope you realize that looks don't make a person better or worse. You'll be fine, just take everything we say with a grain of salt. I know we're all throwing a lot of pep talk at you! Hugs, chickybird |
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but after my shock i think that something happened to me .. i never thought that i will one day feel that i am nothing in the world i forgot about everything good about me .. and just start to think about my body and my over weight and pounds all ur words helped me get a knock in the head and start to think positive this time i realy need to change and i believe its time to think wisely regarding diets and workouts thanx:) |
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ooh thats so nice of u ... thanx for ur motivation .. i promise to do my best and promise to get back to my hobby bellydancing i'll stick into a good healthy diet i need my good health and body back thanx alot i have no doubt about all what u have said thanx alot |
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but i kept crying all the time that i was saying my story so i didnt contact him again .. i dont know what to say :) i dont like to let some1 sad because of my story i came here searching for help for loosing my weight and i found myself talking about something so emotional to me .. and what made me talk is ur kindness and extra caring i know that apearance is not everything but all guys care about apearance even if they say they dont .. this is something natural i dont care about the way he look but i still love him and what is so disapointing that i cant control my feelings .. |
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i respect what u say and i accept anything u will say or said :) maybe because u r not seeing the problem the way i see it because im thinking with my heart not brain thats why i know im wrong i dont know why i keep comming out with excuses for him and he hurt me the only 1 good thing that he did is that he let me decide to lose weight and found all of u friendly kind people here:) |
It's ok to cry. It really is. It's especially ok to cry in front of a counselor - they're used to it. :)
And I'm sure you still love him. It's hard to end a relationship and harder when you've been cheated on. I've been there. I know. It's one of the most painful things in the world ever. And you *should* cry. You should grieve for a lost relationship and a lost love. It's important to do that and it's healthy!! Don't beat yourself up for grieving or for still loving him. All of that is ok. Seriously, I think you should try talking to a counselor again. If you're not comfortable with the one you talked to in the past, try calling another one until you find someone you're comfortable with. And if you want to talk about it here, then you should. Maybe just letting it all out to us would help - since we're not right there face-to-face with you. Hang in there. Keep posting here. Keep talking. And I promise it will get better. It really will. . |
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maybe its a matter of time .. but i hope it wont be as long as our relation was 8 years .. regarding a counselor .. i dont know were to find a good trusted one the previous was ok .. but i dont think that i'll call him back because i told him i'll meet him and then canceled the apointment .. i will try to amuse myself by taking care about my body walking bellydancing and finding good diet :) and chatting with all of u kind friends :) God has big mercy and will help me out of this .. im sure :) |
I just wanted to say "welcome".
You've really gotten some great, caring advice already. And I agree wholeheartedly with it. Do something good for just yourself. Enjoy that walking and belly dancing. Have a sensual bowl of fruit on a lovely spring afternoon. Something good for your body and your mind. Take care of yourself. :hug: Keep posting :) |
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thanx alot :) sure i'll take all ur advices in mind and i'll do what is good for me :) |
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